putasocinit
Well-Known Member
Some of you may remember my thread about having lost my boxes on a private yard as the owner was going to do livery himself - racehorses in training overspill from licensed yard (wonder if the jockey club knows). Anyhow he only gave me 2 weeks to find somewhere and I was desperate but I found this lovely lady, who had 3 retired racehorses on her private yard, who was prepared to help me out and so I moved.
My horses are housed in what were her field shelters, but these field shelters are not in a field they are in what you could say was a little yard adjacent to a field easy access by gate way.
I am a very clean and tidy individual who spoils her horses but not to the point where they are unpleasant or unhealthy because of it, I just make sure they have what they need to be safe.
Since being there I have helped this lady out with repairing fences, building and repairing wooden gates, strimming 4 fields, helping her by being at her side when we had to have the one horse put down, this was at 10pm at night, mucking out her boxes when she has been away and generally getting on with life and enjoying myself.
Unfortunately it hasnt been the other way around in return - I have been made to feel like I shouldnt be there because she kept going on about how her horses were normally in the field shelters when turned out 24/7, in other words my horses are in them and she doesnt normally have liveries and many people have asked before. Then I couldnt get haylage delivered as she didnt want the truck to drive in to the field incase it upset the already wet ground, but she takes delivery in winter ??? then she says she does not endulge in gossip but she has good many a story to tell about someone (I have not reciprocated with any gossip because I do not approve of it). She suggested that my shetland was put in a shed, I pay full livery rate for a full size stable for him, so that she could have more storage space.
Anyway this is becoming a rather daily thing and very boreing and the final straw was when this lady after making me feel insecure about being there then came to me the one morning to tell me how one of her friends (but she doesnt gossip) told her that they had heard from my previous livery owner that I could be quite "funny at times" and she didnt know what we were going to do about it.
Yes I can be "funny" if you want to mess me when it comes to my horses, but generally I am a really nice person and very loyal, and I can only think that my previous livery owner is saying this because he has a guilty conscience because I am a nice livery person to have around and he did the dirty on me and this lady and her friend have both gone on about how helpful I am to him.
I hope you are still with me on this.....................
So, I said to her, would it be better if I moved then you could have your own yard back to yourself again, the reply was NO NO she didnt want me to move and I should just forget about what her friends have said, hello she shouldnt have said anything in the first place.
Anyway I made some enquiries and have managed to find a yard 10miles away but £90 cheaper and with an arena and a concrete floor rather than mud with rubber mats I have had to purchase. I would not be able to go there after work, finish at 8pm, but hopefully could find another livery to do pm hay.
So I am in a dilemma about whether to go or stay as I don't want to hurt the lady as she helped me out, but then I was offered a yard when I was at the other place and turned it down as I didnt want to hurt him and then look what he did to me in the end.
Then the final straw was today when I was unloading straw and haylage (she relented to get some in) and I said that I wanted to keep some small bales of haylage (I pay for it it is not included in my livery) by my horses in the barn with the straw as it is difficult to move it from where she wanted to stock it and she went off on one again about how it would get damaged and then when I went to roll one in to my wheel barrow she yelled in front of the delivery chap who is a friend of hers - "why are you acting like tarzan", this is the 2nd time she has called me this name in front of someone, the 1st time was when she was battling to remove a tree root and all it needed was to get a good grip of it which I did and she yelled at me then but I didnt think anything of it, HELP what would you lot do. I don't want to be horrible but I also do not pay to be someones whipping boy especially when it is around my horses.
My horses are housed in what were her field shelters, but these field shelters are not in a field they are in what you could say was a little yard adjacent to a field easy access by gate way.
I am a very clean and tidy individual who spoils her horses but not to the point where they are unpleasant or unhealthy because of it, I just make sure they have what they need to be safe.
Since being there I have helped this lady out with repairing fences, building and repairing wooden gates, strimming 4 fields, helping her by being at her side when we had to have the one horse put down, this was at 10pm at night, mucking out her boxes when she has been away and generally getting on with life and enjoying myself.
Unfortunately it hasnt been the other way around in return - I have been made to feel like I shouldnt be there because she kept going on about how her horses were normally in the field shelters when turned out 24/7, in other words my horses are in them and she doesnt normally have liveries and many people have asked before. Then I couldnt get haylage delivered as she didnt want the truck to drive in to the field incase it upset the already wet ground, but she takes delivery in winter ??? then she says she does not endulge in gossip but she has good many a story to tell about someone (I have not reciprocated with any gossip because I do not approve of it). She suggested that my shetland was put in a shed, I pay full livery rate for a full size stable for him, so that she could have more storage space.
Anyway this is becoming a rather daily thing and very boreing and the final straw was when this lady after making me feel insecure about being there then came to me the one morning to tell me how one of her friends (but she doesnt gossip) told her that they had heard from my previous livery owner that I could be quite "funny at times" and she didnt know what we were going to do about it.
Yes I can be "funny" if you want to mess me when it comes to my horses, but generally I am a really nice person and very loyal, and I can only think that my previous livery owner is saying this because he has a guilty conscience because I am a nice livery person to have around and he did the dirty on me and this lady and her friend have both gone on about how helpful I am to him.
I hope you are still with me on this.....................
So, I said to her, would it be better if I moved then you could have your own yard back to yourself again, the reply was NO NO she didnt want me to move and I should just forget about what her friends have said, hello she shouldnt have said anything in the first place.
Anyway I made some enquiries and have managed to find a yard 10miles away but £90 cheaper and with an arena and a concrete floor rather than mud with rubber mats I have had to purchase. I would not be able to go there after work, finish at 8pm, but hopefully could find another livery to do pm hay.
So I am in a dilemma about whether to go or stay as I don't want to hurt the lady as she helped me out, but then I was offered a yard when I was at the other place and turned it down as I didnt want to hurt him and then look what he did to me in the end.
Then the final straw was today when I was unloading straw and haylage (she relented to get some in) and I said that I wanted to keep some small bales of haylage (I pay for it it is not included in my livery) by my horses in the barn with the straw as it is difficult to move it from where she wanted to stock it and she went off on one again about how it would get damaged and then when I went to roll one in to my wheel barrow she yelled in front of the delivery chap who is a friend of hers - "why are you acting like tarzan", this is the 2nd time she has called me this name in front of someone, the 1st time was when she was battling to remove a tree root and all it needed was to get a good grip of it which I did and she yelled at me then but I didnt think anything of it, HELP what would you lot do. I don't want to be horrible but I also do not pay to be someones whipping boy especially when it is around my horses.
