Sick of Pony club mums.

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I have recently discovered how horrible some pony club mums can be. They are two faced and seem to get a thrill out of running everybody elses ponies down and spreading rumours/gossip if they are not in their 'clique'. Has anybody else had any problems? what should I do?
 
That's just the horse world for you lol best to ignore and carry on best you can without going insane
 
Mhorses, Pony Club Moms are nothing compared to the showing brigade let me assure you!:D

What in particular have they done to earn this opinion from you?
 
The Mums who run the Committee............or did when my son was a member
The thread stirs up memories of your own child receiving unfair treatment, being held back from doing tests because he was ''too small'', not being offered PC colours when in a team so rode in own colours which caused ructions! Having compulsory Horse Trials dressage tuition arranged on a Monday when we had been away competing and travelling all weekend.
Hearing people talk about children the same age and how wonderful they were on their point and fire ponies, said children never clicked on horses. Memories of your child competing at PC National level which your PC never even mentioned in press reports to local paper. When I mentioned to his school they had no idea what he had been doing.
Simmering quietly..............sounds like nothing changes!!
 
Just a quick one how do the non horsey mums seem to get on? We are doing pony club this year and my mum feels brave taking him to the field so is safley classed as non horsey. But she is full of encouragment for everyone and quite happy to hold any well behaved horse if need be.
 
I know what you mean completely. Not all of them are like that, but there are always a group in each branch and discipline.
Pompous 'I know it alls' who put everyone else down.
 
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As you can see I hate them! The best thing to do is get your horse to 'accidently' stand on their stuff/ feet. It sure makes you feel better :D
 
I completely missed the whole pony club mums thing and it sounds like I was lucky! When I was in Pony Club my parents knew one end of a horse from the other and that was about it, so I got walked up to pony club rallies and left there until it was home time. I absolutely loved it! I've heard lots of stories about Pony Club mums since, but I was completely oblivious to it, charging about happily on my little gelding. Although, I imagine if my mum had been more horsey she may have got felt the pony club mum effect, especially after I passed my D+ test riding the DC's daughter's pony after my lad went lame. The DC's daughter failed!
 
I met one of my best friends on my "first day" as a pc mum. We were both terrified of all these seemingly "in the know" women who seemed to know exactly what they were doing and what all the equipment was, and what their children should be doing.
My friend sideled up to me and whispered "is my daughters numnah the right colour?" and I said " I don't know but it is very pretty I am sure it is fine". It was bright red with yellow bows on it!!!:eek: She was quietly informed later that day of "correct" colours:rolleyes: We stuck together after that and our kids are grown up and we are still horsey mums for them. I had a great time and was on the committee for a while and my friend wrote a "helpful tips" book for non horsey parents to avoid the same mistakes we made:D. We always tried to be friendly and helpful to new people and I still have friends from those days. Some of us are nice:D
 
Don't worry, it's very revealing when their little darlings come off their perfect push button ponies and start on horses that actually require a bit of riding. Suddenly they don't take home a red rosette from every competition, and you can see what bad losers they are!
 
We're mostly lovely in our branch - with the exception of one pushy mum and another highly competitive dad. And I will say this, if you don't like the way a branch is run, get on the committee and help - nothing worse than moaning pc parents who won't actually get involved with running stuff and then complain about it, or don't say if their little darlings are actually coming to a rally or not because apparently we are meant to be psychic about these things ;)
 
I missed out on the whole PC thing (thank God)....the parents at shows seem bad enough - I'll never forget one mum who relentlessly screamed and screamed at her little darling in the show ring do this do that consequently spooking every horse who went past her - she was eventually told to leave the ring side ;):rolleyes:
As someone said it seems to me once these 'little darlings' progress onto horses that need some actual riding, they come unstuck, stop winning ribbons and consequently get fed up and move onto another hobby...

Got to add though I've also come across some truly lovely children at shows whose horse is a little sod bucked them round the ring, wouldn't listen and they still come out of the ring with the rider beaming and hugging their pony! :D
K x
 
oh yes....... there some really lovely pieces of work around pc - wait till you meet a competative DC whom has various offspring that really dont want to ride, cant ride and will never ride but somehow get on every pc team going..... wait till the pc club show has special classes ie up to 15.1hh just so number one DC daughter can actually win a trophey and then wait till other comittee members object to a trophy being given for only one person in a class....... oh it is such fun to watch. The other ones to watch are the ones that take over your yard.... so your poor kids can never ever get away from them - oh and wait till your stick like glue jockey is put into the 11-12's at pc camp incase they show up DC nearest and dearest.... wait till one of the committe members little darlings lames there own pony - basically cause its not fit enough for camp and then walks round demanding ponies off other folk.... you aint seen nothing yet
 
A few years ago before the widespread use of the Web and email.The mum who ran the local pony club used to keep all the schedules to herself so that no one, not even people like myself who used to do the senior open classes, knew anything about the competitions.
The only time other pony club members knew about other branch competitions was after the event when the main mum bragged in the magazine how well her kids had done at them.
What a cow, especially as she replaced a great bloke who made sure that the schedules were distributed personally around all the tack shops and feed merchants.
 
Ding-dong-merrily
Love it!!

Just to put the record straight--as soon as my son was off the LR, I was teaching another ride, so I hardly ever saw how he was getting on, hardly ever got to chat to other Mums, but did feel at times he had a raw deal.
I can remember one Mum being mortified when I put baling string grass reins on her daughters 13.2 pony which despite being fat as butter constantly pulled rider out of the saddle to eat.
However she went home and rode the pony herself, apologised the following week, she had not realised just how strong the pony was and a new pony was duly purchased
 
My mum never got involved with the PC when me and my sister were in it. I had a great pony who was always wanted on the teams (even though I didn't really fit - pony made up for it) then I got a 'challenging' horse, and that was that! We would go to rallies, horse would stand on two legs, and I was pointedley ignored. I was told the day before the B test that I would fail it, so I duly did :o

I went and had a lesson with my main PC evil instructor 2 years ago (the one who told me I would fail) to see if she had changed, nope - still the same b*tch as ever. Told me I rode like ***** within 5 mins - erm yep, thats why I'm having lesson :rolleyes:

Now my mum runs the SJ teams, and some of the bitching is hilarious :D
 
Oh dear me, this did make me laugh, well it sounds like there are some of these in ALL pony clubs then, we have a couple of scary ones like that at mine, but, as you say, just stick with the nice parents/kids and not a problem!
Actually to be fair, we are lucky to have a very nice PC branch and almost everyone has been very supportive and encouraging to my daughter, who had a very "challenging" not typical push button pony club pony when we joined several years ago and once she grew bigger, pony learned the ropes and they both went on to do pretty well, many of the other mums came up to me at rallies to say how well she had done and how much she had leaned by sticking with said pony,rather than just buying a different one ( not an option for us at the time!!) pony by the way turned into a real poppet in the end!!!
it made me very proud of her and our pony club for their help and support!
 
One of my best friends is a Pony Club mum and you couldn't meet a nicer, more genuine, helpful and friendly person. Time and again she puts herself out to help other people, their kiddies and their ponies often for little or no thanks. Don't tar everyone with the same brush OP, like all areas of life there are good and bad in all walks of it.
 
Dont get me started on pony club!!! Fortunately my current pony club isnt like that!

I arrived at camp one year with my new JC mare who I had had for 3-4 weeks yet i had already competed on her,

I arrived to find I had been placed in a group that I was in when I had my first ever 12.1hh pony and had since been moved three groups higher! (only 5/6 groups)

My mum was fuming and not being on the clique doesnt help either

She explained to the DC that this pony was far too capable of being placed in a groups with people jumping 65cm when I was currently competing 1m -1.15m on her

Apparently it was because I hadnt had her long however

another girl whose mum happened to be in the clique got her new pony on the sunday (camp was the next day in the monday) had been placed 2 groups higher than usual because of this new pony

I was fuming,

in the end when jumping the instuctor had to put the jumps at say 65cm and let the rest of the groups jump then at the end raise everthing for me it was so annoying!!

We wrote a letter to them during camp and as i was going back to the lorry for lunch i watched them laughing at it in their caravan.......
 
Yup, could not agree more!! especially when Grandma is the judge and Sister of another competitor the other judge. And yes you guessed it first and second in every class...TBH I find it comical, but then it wasn't for a lot of disappointed kids who really ought to have been placed higher.
 
Sorry, I have to say this.

For several years I have been a PC Mum, also Committee Member, Club Secretary and general dogsbody/gofer/nanny, and as all of those, I, and my fellow parents/volunteers etc get mightily fed up with the 'PC Mums' too you know. Also with the spoiled, whingy brats who think they are better than everyone else and seem to think they have a right to win everything, we also get fed up with being taken for granted without a word of thanks.

Pony Club Mums get pretty sick of being stereotyped too, sure, there are the ambitious, push your child to live your own dreams type, but aren't they (as in parents) to be found in every walk of life? Just go to any competitive gathering or club for that.

Please, all you PC Mum slammers, especially Members, look at your club for a minute. I bet that you will find an awful lot of parents giving up time and energy to try to make the Club a worthwhile place to be. Who does refreshments at shows, runs around clearing up after shows, sets up before shows, babysits at camp and rallies etc, etc, etc?

Ignore the 'PC Mums' that annoy you, one day, when you have kids you too may be a PC Mum and may just want your child to do the best they can.

I defy anyone,whatever age/experience they may be, to say that they have stood ring side and not criticised someone in the ring at some point or other, whether to your mate next to you, or just in your head.
 
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ISHmad said:
One of my best friends is a Pony Club mum and you couldn't meet a nicer, more genuine, helpful and friendly person. Time and again she puts herself out to help other people, their kiddies and their ponies often for little or no thanks. Don't tar everyone with the same brush OP, like all areas of life there are good and bad in all walks of it.
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To be fair the op did say 'some' and not all.

I cannot understand the point of cheating to get anywhere in life - whether it's in pony club or anything else. How much satisfaction can you ever feel in an 'achievement' that wasn't honestly gained?
 
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