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Here is a long one guys and I would appreciate ALL feedback, no-matter how negative.

I sold my lovely TB last November as his feet were so soft and could not hold his shoes to do the hunting that I wanted to do. Anyway, he went to a lovely home and is now doing BSJA novice with a fab owner. I then searched all over the UK for my latest horse, Carly who is to die for. She is rising 5, lovely chunky ISH, true middleweight with papers, DNA tested and beautifully bred (Clover Hill Mare). BUT, in December, When going at a fair old pace along the gallops, she spooked at a pheasant and I came off, breaking my tib and fib.
ANYWAY! after 12 weeks full livery I am so confused. Should I sell or not? She is truly beautiful and I have been told I should hold onto her as another sensible showjumper like her will be few and far between.
She is jumping 3ft9 at home and gets her rider out of trouble, loves her job but is a pet at the same time!!
I never wanted to showjump, just hunt, but fear I will be too scared to do ANYTHING again - please tell me your thoughts cos I LOVE this mare and would keep her if I felt I could do her justice.
Physio has said no riding 6-12 months....
 
whats the chances of this happening again with her ?


you got to ask yourself that

I used to ride a clover hill mare and she had a fab jump, love clover hill breeding .

Has she done anything else to put you off ?
 
She is PERFECT jumping horse!! have kind of convinced my self to be horseless - after op with large metal implantations it puts you off...have even joined gym and sold trailer......... BUT still love her to bits, and would want really fab home, not crappy rider who puts her at a fence so crappily that the poor 4 year mare old mare gets HER out of trouble!! She really is special. Probably way too good for me... ask Jemayni!!
 
My daughter broke her tib and fib and had it plated both sides ,I couldn't keep her off her horse she was riding in her plaster round the field and although the surgeon told her it would shatter if she felloff she carried on.She has since had the metal work out and no problems except she can't push her heel down.It was just an accident ,have you always been a confident rider? If yes then go for it.If no then it is going to be an expensive year if you're not going to ride her,but she sounds lovely
 
Oh thank you, hubby is well supportive as he loves Carly too. Think may have to get on again soon, then I will know. I have young daughter and when you get broken it brings it home that you are not made of rubber any more!!!!!xx
Will let you all know xxxxxxxxxxxxx
 
My leg still hurts tho,and she is a BIG mare - what are the suggestions for re-starting? (er..ME that is....!!!!)
Anyone in Notts area/fab rider locally interested in sharing - let me know! xxxx
 
Its easy to think like this when you have had a bad fall as your confidence can take a knock without you even realising it. She sounds a fab mare and you are obviously smitten with her.

Have you thought about asking someone (fit and able
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) to do the first couple of meets with her? It could well have been just a one-off.

I do hope you get this sorted, but dont make any hurried decisions. Good luck.
 
I agree with Llwyncwn - can you get someone you trust to take her out a bit for you? Either hire someone (I know - more expense!) or find an experienced amateur who would like a nice horse to ride for a bit? That way she could get a bit more mileage under her belt and you could assure yourself that she's safe for the job. Then if/when you're allowed to ride again hopefully that person could keep helping you a bit by keeping her ridden or just being there to hop on once and awhile if you need to see her do something or she needs a "tune up" whilst you're getting your strength back.

It's impossible to know how you're going to feel in the future. If you really do think she's the horse of a lifetime you might want to wait a bit if you can before making a decision. After all if you really do feel at some point that you won't be riding again or at least won't be riding her you can always change your mind.

It's much different when you're older and have people depending on you. It's normal to feel shaky after an accident so don't be too hard on yourself or read too much into it right now.

Good luck and swift healing.
 
If this is the only thing she's ever done, then it sounds like she really is quite special and you'd think you'd be able to get your confidence back on her?

In the mean time, since you cant ride for months anyway. Why dont you try and find someone really nice to come and work your horse (or do a share type thing) so you can see someone else riding her and being safe and sensible which might at the end of 6 / 12 months have given you enough confidence to get back in the saddle again. If I were you, Id probably get on her (if you can) even just to walk about with people with you (leading her etc.) just for literally 5 mins. In this time, I think Id know if Id lost all my confidence.
 
I think you have had a big scare and lost a bit of confidence which we all do you will be feeling realy low at the moment I came off, just a shy at a silly little puddle but was unconsiouse this was hunting and my boy never shy's !! it took me a bit to even jump a ditch after that, silly I know but now 45 I don' t bounce too well !! I think you have had no problems up untill now and its just a one off, if you hadn't broken anything you would have got back on and had time to mend your confidence but it makes it worse that you can't even ride with your brake let your horse have time off now and then start auturm hunting it will soon come round and you don't have to jump you can always get round a jump go on a quieter day I think you should keep your girl, plenty of love just go down to your yard and just groom her and love her you both sound like a good match, good luck, and happy hunting. xx
 
At the end of the day, even the most unspooky horse can spook, my pony did a 180 degree spook at a haybale once (we use to jump the haybale most day, so it was completely unexpected!) The only other time he spooked in the 11 years I had him was with someone else when a pheasant popped out a hedge (which he'd seen happen many times before but this day it made him spook) and a again he did a 180 degree spin and ditched the rider! I would never have got rid of him for this because he was sooooooo damn perfect!

From someone who has lost their confidence, built it up, lost it, built it up, lost it, built it up, lost it.... (you get the picture i'm a yoyo confidence loser!) I would stick with her because you might feel so differently once you can get back in the saddle and get going again and a how often does a horse this good come along??! I have found in my experience its the anticipation that causes most the worry!
 
have you got any friends who would share/ride her until you get your confidence back/allowed to ride again, this may give you time to think and decide.
it seems a shame to sell when she's clearly a lovely girl, i would have suggested loaning her out but if she is young you maybe want a bit more control over what she is doing?
 
I broke my tib and fib last year and wasn't allowed to ride for 6 months. I found the longer I didn't ride, the more I lost my bottle. I don't think I would have gotten back on the horse I came off (he was sold anyway), not in a hurry at least. Luckily I had Chex to get my confidence back on, and 2 months back into riding I'm not nervous at all now. I've not jumped yet though (I fell off jumping), slightly anxious about that. Horses will spook, so it will be hard to avoid it never happening again. Riding is a high-risk sport, its just deciding whether its worth the risk. I knew there was no way I could sell Chex, and I trust him 100% so I had to get back on board, I was shaking like a lead though!
 
The main thing is that she absolutely didnt mean to hurt you - its not as though she bucked, reared or bolted. She got a nasty fright and unfortunately you ended up with broken bones. I really think you should keep her, she sounds fantastic and I think you would regret selling her. I am sure you will get your confidence back.
 
You were just unlucky with your accident, we all know horse riding is a dangerouse sport. I would'nt sell her, can you get someone to ride whilst your not able. I can understand you wondering wether you should find a 100% bombproof horse but do they really exsist? When your ready to ride maybe you should go along to the riding school and have a few lessons just to get your confidence back! good luck with it all. At the end of the day its only you that has to decide.
 
You'd be mad to sell what sounds like a lovely horse. Your confidence has been knocked, which is understandable.

But these things happen with horses. The sooner you get back on board the better.
 
Hmm well, I can appreciate I am biased so feel free to ignore my comment! But I thought carly was lovely, she is the only big horse (I dont do above 15hh) that Ive ever felt safe on & TBH she is the nicest horse thats been on the yard all winter. From memory she seemed quiet to hunt as well; its so sad you've had such an unfortunate acident, but I suppose it is one of those things that can happen with youngsters! I did love her, she was a star; you'd be challenged to find something so nice!

Sorry to hear about your fall!
 
I'm afraid to say, all horses spook and if you could spend a morning watching the race-horses being exercised you would see a few thrills and spills.

After an accident, its not always possible to get back on and then its more difficult for fear of getting hurt again. If you can overcome this, it would be great for you and the horse. If necessary go back to some general basics to regain your confidence and leave the galloping out for a while.
 
i'd keep her too, i know how you feel regarding your leg as mine too is also pinned, but it happened to me when i was 13. (you don't have as much fear as a child) but it still affects me mentally, i am more careful in what i choose to ride nowadays.
accidents happen everywhere i got run over with a forklift truck at work and had to have all my foot fused and wired but i still rode my horses while i was in plaster. ( i had to have it re plastered twice as my heel kept busting out of the bottom the doctor was not very impressed either)
hope you feel better soon.
 
I've had two nasty breaks through horse falls and couldn't wait to get back on. You did your tib and fib - try a femur for size! Had mine plated - just means you can get back on sooner! Don't sell, unless it's to me!
 
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