So cr*p I nearly cried

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Hi. Got up at the crack of dawn to ride / muck out / prepare feeds and mets etc i.e feeling nice and virtuous so I can have the night off. Started with OH looking at what I am wearing and commenting "oh you are not riding him this morning then?" 'cos I was cold and slipped some jeans and trainers on (chaps over the top i hasten to add). So is there something in the attire (I know there is for work i.e I insist on a professional wardrobe vs personal so I am in the right mindset) cos I started off in the school and I got worse and worse and worse. Our bends were atrocious, transitions poor and getting canter on the right leg, well, don't even go there
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I / he can get it right first time on 1 rein but not the other (common problem I am assured) but honestly I couldn't even do the centre line without wobbling. I got so upset I was nearly crying and told myself to stick to happy hacking and got off. Don't really know what I expect you to do about this but maybe some hugs and assurance it happens to others please? Thanks xx
 
Dont be so hard on yourself, we all have rubbish days when we just feel like throwing the towel in! You ARE great and you CAN do whatever you want to achieve! Just keep telling yourself this!

Hugs coming accross too!
 
Sometimes when we think we are being ultra efficient and that everything is going to go well we end up being more disappointed than normal.
Don't be too hard on yourself, one day I'll get on my horse and he'll be everything I've ever worked for and other days he'll seem alien!
 
Don't worry about it - we all have bad days. Some days I feel I can't ride for toffee and wonder what I'm doing. Maybe you weren't in the right frame of mind before you started. Is your horse used to being ridden that early - maybe he wasn't quite with it either!
 
i know exactly how you feel......i thought i was the only one who cried when things go wrong!

dont have a lot of advice as its still early.......(lol) but i know what you mean. when me and Frankie have a bad day all i can think about it 'i am ruining him!' which i dont i am and 'i am rubbish! i should give up riding' which is silly because i have ridden for 8 years and you would think that Frankie's owner would tell me to 'hop it' if i wasnt any good. i have cried when riding, have cried out hacking too! i dont think it makes you any less of a person, IMO it just shows how important your riding is to you. thats what i think, my riding is very important to me!

i know i should take my own advice........dont be too hard on yourself. whenever that happens again, take a deep breath and do something not to taxing.......like circles in walk etc etc. thats what i do, nothing to difficult but still something! if i get wound up it makes Frankie worse, so i have to calm down!

heres a (((HUG))) x
 
Don't worry too much. I think we all have days when we wonder if we should just give it all up! I know that I do but then I have a really good hack or schooling session and suddenly it feels as though I am back on track again. Tomorrow is another day as they say!
 
thank you everyone. to fatarse2 - his mates were watching so he doesnt need to tell tales haha! to hullabaloo - he is getting more used to being ridden so early, he was lunged yesterday and tried so hard to put some rears and bucks into it to protest but he is so nice and gentle he couldnt quite do it, just looked hilarious like his feet were stuck in toffee and his head full of sedolin haha! im going to book a lesson to give me back some confidence!
 
lessons are great for my confidence - i havent had one for a couple of months on Frankie as he was lame so im gonna book some for when i get paid next week!

things always seem/look worse to you then they do to anyone else......!
 
Try again another day - everybody has off days and the more you feel upset and useless in a ride the more you can't do it. You'll be fine next time
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Oh don't be so hard on yourself, most of my days are like this! George rarely strikes of correctly in canter on the right rein and this isn't helped by the fact that I find it really hard to work out if he is on the correct leg when I'm on board - see I'm cr*p!
 
I'm sure it really isn't as bad as you feel. Your horse was probably just peeved that he was being made to work instead of eating his breakfast!

Although it is always disappointing to get off when things are going bad, I think you did the right thing - after all you don't want to get stressed with your horse.

Wewre you in a hurry, worrying about getting to work on time?

I usually ride before work each day. At first, I was panicing about being late etc, but after a while I now time it perfectly.

Don't worry, its only one day. Get back on as soon as you can and set yourself specific things to work on and goals to acheive.
 
We all have crap days - book yourself a lesson with a good instructor as they have a way of extracting the best from you which will in turn give you some self confidence. Sometimes the bad improves other stuff....ie my horses canter is his weakest link at the moment but it still improves his trot.....his shoulder in is not fantastic, but everything improves after we do a bit of lateral work.... give yourself a treat as an instructor will also give you ideas, goals and things to work on but also give you some positive feedback and confidence. Good luck!
 
thanks again everyone youve all been really nice. happihorse altho my routine in the morn when including a ride is hectic i always time it right so as not to stress and whilst running around manic in the yard USUALLY relax once on board and think of it as truly me time. i think i went in with a blank canvas and just couldnt get motivated, there were 2 new horses in a field near the school (yard next door) so he was naturally very interested in them but still, this morning was definitely me me me that let him down. any tips on sitting deeper into the strike off for canter on weak rein would be gratefully received as i can sit in nice on the good rein but bounce around like zebedee on the weak rein - lost my stirrups this morning but as per op, i did wear trainers oops!!
 
Instead of beating yourself up, you should be proud that you get your act together enough to ride in the early morning!

I used to practise canter transitions out hacking, I found that I had more room to manoeuvre, than constantly meeting corners in the school. Just used to do canter-trot transitions for or five times along one of our local gallop tracks, was great for both of us and kept Harley sharp and listening instead of just bombing along flat out!
 
Everybody has bad days - dont take it to heart
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I have the odd SJ round that is horrific - I want to kick myself afterwards because I know Ive let my horse down by riding like a total pleb! I always want to redo a bad round (sadly not allowed
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Nobody's perfect
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