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frazzled

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Sorry bit of a pointless post but just need to vent frustration. we tried a fab pony the other day, my daughter rode it really well , best i have ever seen her ride. Went back and hacked it out , pony did not put a foot wrong even in big open spaces. She just really clicked with it. Went back to our yard and were talking about the pony and a couple of people who know the pony a little bit started saying what a lovely pony it was, but were suprised that my daughter was trying it, thought it would be to much for her. These people whilst lovely are by no means experts! Now my daughter will not even consider this pony, Thinks she couldn"t manage it. So we have had to say no to the owners and i feel like we have maybe missed a fantastic chance. Sorry for the rant but pony hunting is so frustrating and i thought we had cracked it!
 
Sorry but why are you listening to other people? If its the pony for you then u should do something about it.

I am sure you would be able to persuade your daughter.
 
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Sorry but why are you listening to other people? If its the pony for you then u should do something about it.

I am sure you would be able to persuade your daughter.

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She has lost her confidence with regards to this pony now, and her confidence has been fragile up until recently, she is only eleven. If i could persuade her i would. I just wish people would think before they speak.
 
Perhaps and just maybe those that are tutting are a little envious - the horse/pony world is full of such people! Maybe see if you can find out a little more about the pony's background so that your wee girl can be reassured?
 
hmmm well maybe they know something you don't... and actually although the pony was great this time, it may act up occasionally. why not go try it again (if your daughter can be convinced). She shouldn't give up.

i totally agree tho, they shouldn't of said that in front of her. if they had serious concerns they could of advised you later or just explained what they had seen.
 
Yes, if they had any genuine concerns i wish they had spoken to me quietly and not in front of her. Especially as they are older girls who she looks up to. They hadn't ever seen the pony do anything bad by the way ,just compete at a higher level than we are currently competing and is propably more forward than they thought we would want.
 
Sounds like these people may have been a bit jealous and looking to stir things up, because if they had a genuine concern about the pony and your daughter's safety clearly this is not the way to make you aware of it.

Can't you put a positive spin on the whole thing to persuade your daughter to give the pony another go, as I seem to understand from your post that you think it will be suitable? Maybe try something like 'You rode that pony so well and it liked you so much, X and Y wouldn't believe how great you were together as they have never seen you ride so well". Worth a try?
 
Thankyou all for listening (?). Unbelievably we may have solved our pony hunting nightmares. Just waiting to hear back from someone. So maybe sometimes things happen for the best.
 
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