so irritated!!

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had a massive run in with one of the guys down on our livery...

my horse weaves & he thinks his daughters horse has started doing it because of my horse! annoying firstly as their horse has done it for years, mines only new to the yard.

& then he blamed my in expirence with horses as to be the problem & went on to say I was stupid to buy a horse which is unbroken & a baby

I agree that I lack expirence & knowledge,but this is nothing to do with his horse weaving. but his spent the last hour moaning about my abilities to look after my horse... which I think is a damn cheek, yes I lack expirence but I haven't gone in to it with blinkers on, I have an expirenced rider riding her, my aunty is a trainer, my best friend trains & breaks horses & I have lessons with my aunty to better my riding ( have previously rode before buying my horse ) & part loaned when younger.

I have on hand help all the time. & my horse is absoulty spoilt by me & couldn't want for a better home.

just feel like no one is giving me a chane :(
 
Welcome to the world of horses! chuckle. There will always people who think they know better than you and want to put you down. Ignore him, smile sweetly and if he consistently keeps having a go at you, tell him to bog off. IF that doesnt work, complain to your YO.

Chin up lass. You need a thick skin for this world :D
 
deep breaths................

I'm sure lots of advice will follow, but as I understand it, horses do not copy stable vices. Further, this man sounds to be completely out of order, and I would be speaking to your YO about him.

Thirdly, it it none of his business what horse you have, what your experience is, and how you handle your horse. tbh he sounds jealous and a bit of a jerk.

I am very sensitive, and have had my fair share of feeling inadequate - but you know what ? I have turned an unhandled 2 year old into a happy, healthy, loveable riding club pony. He may not be perfect by a long way, but he is for me. And I'd never done it before, and based the breaking on the ABC of breaking and schooling book (blush).

sm x
 
Just remind yourself he's being rude and a busy body, then smile politely and go on your way. :) Then be determined to remind yourself later, when you and your horse have turned into a great partnership, how wrong he was. :)
 
I have known horses to copy stable vices before now, but if your horse is only a baby, and his has done it for years, kindly inform him that it is probably his horse that has taught yours to do it, so he can go n stick his problems!
 
I'm a first time horse owner (had ponies as a child) and everyone and their mother will stick their opinion in if you give them a chance. I found a good instructor, research everything and try to ignore.
 
Both of the horses I share are stabled near to a windsucker and neither of them have picked up that habit. Similarly they are both stabled next door to a door kicker - neither have started that either!! :o
Just ignore this bloke....or smile at him and be overly polite - I find thats the best tactic....
K x
 
quirky said:
Ipod! Always handy to have if somebody's around who you'd rather not listen to :D
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I second that! When my old YO stuck her beak in I made a point of plugging my headphones in and turning my back on her. She soon gave in.

As long as you're always aware you'll never stop learning, and soak in as much advice as you can from those you respect, you have no reason to let what this man says get to you. Just keep your chin up, keep doing what you're doing and enjoy your horse. If he gives you grief again tell him to go buy a weave grid and get a life.
 
it's also abit rich as they have an ex tb racer who his daughter won't even ride as she's in expirenced & scared so others down the yard try to ride when they can. There horse has cold back, & everytime when you get on for the first few times it'll have you off.

Deffo think I need to develop a tough skin though, the horsey world is harsh only the strong will survive :p

I'm quite good at ignoring people when I want to,guess he touched a nerve,there's a little self doubt in me that's keeps saying maybe I should of waited, But then there's the otherwise saying but you wanted a challenge now you've got one.

there's always expirenced people around me & I've learnt so much in the last 14 weeks of from having her. :)
 
Jess - there may be another element to this. You sound as though you might be quite young? (Forgive me if you're not!) But an adult having a go at a younger person is quite a nasty side of bullying.

I don't want to insult you - but if you are under 18 I would strongly suggest you speak to both your parents and to your yard owner about this guy. Grown men who bully young girls is in no way acceptable.

(And if it turns out you're 40ish - I'm sorry!)
 
Don't let this person bully you. The ipod idea is a good one! My two horses were stabled next door to each other for years. The ex-racehorse, Bob, weaved, my other horse never copied him in all those years together,and to this day does not weave. Neither did any other horse Bob was near. So ignore this chump, he just sounds like a bully, and the best thing for bullies is to ignore them.
 
Sounds like you are being really sensible- with all the trusted experience around you. The horse world is the bitchiest but also the best, you have to develop and 'advise filter'- take on the bits that apply and don't give a seconds notice to the rest.

Good luck
 
No offence taken I'm 23 so not as young as 17 :p

I'm moving my horse anyway somewhere quieter & closer to home :)

it just sounded like he even looking down on me for leading my horse out of paddock,like I should have some degree on leading horses.

my horse is a welsh sec d, 15.1 extremly laid back & level headed. perfect first time horse I'd say :))
 
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