So lost

[figgy]

Evening all,
Wanted just to get this out as I'm finding it hard to talk to family and friends.
Last April I lost my 4 year old which I'm not over and still cry over him, then on Monday, I lost my 14 year old that I've had for 11 years.
My heart is so broken and feel like I've lost everything and miss them both so much it hurts.
Why does such bad things happen when we love them so much!!

 

[fankino04]

Can't say anything that would make you feel better but sending hugs x

 

[PSD]

I don’t think anything any of us can say will help ease the pain.

I’m still hurting over losing my girl last year, it doesn’t get easier you just learn to cope without them. But look after yourself, take time to grieve and allow yourself to be upset. Time is a good healer x

 

[Meowy Catkin]

I'm so sorry for your losses.

 

[ycbm]

I know it doesn't help a lot, but I try to think that the reason it hurts so much is because we were lucky enough to have so much love for them and we've lost that.

It will hurt less over time, I promise.
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[Sossigpoker]

I'm so sorry for your losses. I too cry after my lost friends for years sometimes, you are not alone in this and there is nothing wrong with your grief. Just let it out if you feel like it.
It is a cliché but it's true - time does heal. You will never stop missing the ones you've lost but there will come a time when you can think about them with a smile on your face and remember the good times.
Until you reach that point , please don't feel embarrassed or try and hide your grief.
I lost one of mine on 02 Jan 2019 and only now I can talk about him without crying.

 

[Griffin]

I still cry over pets I lost years ago, it's not a weakness, it's a reflection of how much you loved and were loved in return.

I think deep grief does physically hurt at times but it does get easier to live with in time.

 

[Lucky Snowball]

It hurts for ever. You just learn to hide the tears.

 

[babymare]

You have tears but you start to smile when you remember. I still have a weep but mostly I smile now xx?

 

[spotty_pony]

Thinking of you. I lost my boy in Feb and will most likely be losing my mare before the winter. Feel free to pm me if you want a chat.

 

[iknowmyvalue]

I’m so sorry for your losses

like others have said, nothing I can say will make it easier. Time helps it feel less raw and painful, but they will still have their own places in your heart, your heart will just eventually make room for you to love another too.

I lost my mare 5 years ago and am only recently able to talk about her properly without crying, still miss her awfully.

 

[eahotson]

I am so sorry to hear this.Could you try ringing the BHS friends at the end as I think they do grief counselling as well.It does hurt.I lost my little old dog last September and was desolate.Of course I had to get through all the "Firsts".The first visit to the yard without her,the first Christmas etc.I am at the stage now though when I can think about the happy times and smile and be grateful for the time we had.Time helps a lot.

 

[blitznbobs]

Grief is the price you pay for loving … it’s always going to hurt when they go but a life without love is not worth living either… it gets easier with time but the hurt never goes completely… give yourself some time to heal

 

[vmac66]

So sorry. Give yourself time to greive. It will get better, the loss never goes away completely, we just learn to live with it. In time happy memories will replace the tears. Sending a big hug x

 

[PinkvSantaboots]

I'm so sorry xx

 

[Baywonder]

I am so sorry @figgy - it is dreadful enough losing one equine friend, let alone two in such a relatively short space of time.

The more you love them, the more it hurts when we lose them.

I lost my old boy over 20 years ago. He was my horse of a lifetime, he ticked every imaginable box, and I was utterly heartbroken when I lost him. Time has made it easier, but I still get upset now and again, and I honestly do miss him every day.

I won't say I know exactly how you are feeling as everyone is different - but I do understand. If you need to vent we are here to listen - most of us have lost an equine friend too, and it really is awful.

Sending you <<virtual hugs >>

 

[meleeka]

Would you not have had them to save yourself from all this pain? Probably you’d have done it anyway because the pleasure they gave you was more than the sadness you feel now. It’s horrible, especially when it happens more than once in quick succession, (it happened to me too) but things do get easier and you will eventually cherish what you had.

Look after yourself, have a good cry whenever you need to and try and remember how lucky you were to have had them at all x

 

[NewForestPonyRider]

I’m so sorry for both of your losses. I echo most comments in that I know nothing I say will ease the pain. Only that you are not alone in how you are feeling. Yes, as meleeka says, allow yourself time to grieve, don’t hold it in
Take care of yourself