Sold my first homebred - completely gutted :(

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As some of you well know, the last year and beginning of this year have been trying for OH and i. His bad motorbike accident last year meant we both spent time off work and lost a lot of money. We lost our house and something had to be done about the horses. My 5yo went off on loan and the only option we had to pay off debts was to sell my youngster.
He is my first home bred and im only a hobby breeder. He was going to be my competition horse and i just loved him. We clicked and i felt like he was one of my greatest achievements. Going from little blob on the ultrasound screen to a big strapping lad almost ready for backing. Everything about him was testament to my hard work. I was so looking forward to getting him started this year.
But he went to his new home on Wednesday. I couldn't have asked for a better home for him, his new owner is perfect and i know he'll have a wonderful life.. but it hurts so much to know that if that van hadn't pulled out, if we'd just stayed that bit longer and not set off when we did.. the accident wouldn't have happened, we wouldn't have ended up in the financial mess that we did and i never would've had to say goodbye to my special lad.
It'll get easier i know it will.. but i don't think i'll ever get over knowing that when i see him and his new mum out competing, that it could've been us.
 
How sad for you to see him go due to life throwing rubbishness at you. Try to focus on pride in his achievements in the future and maybe his new
Owner will tell you when he is competing and you can go and watch.
 
lachlanandmarcus said:
How sad for you to see him go due to life throwing rubbishness at you. Try to focus on pride in his achievements in the future and maybe his new
Owner will tell you when he is competing and you can go and watch.
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Shes great, she's keeping me updated of what he's doing ect and im invited to all his events. She's making a big deal of keeping me in his life which is lovely and im so grateful for it.. it just doesn't stop that ache though =/
 
Life can throw some awful things at us, and it must be so very hard for you to have make such a heatbreaking decision, but well done for managing it, I do hope that things improve for you both and that things improve in the future. Sending hugs
 
Oh Toast, what can I say to offer you any comfort.We never know what is around the corner and I well now that one. Hind sight is a wonderfull thing and we can all look back and say if only I had, but we can not change the present. It brought a tear to my eye to read your post and I understand how very hard this must of been for you. You have done your best in very difficult situation, and as you say your horse has gone to a great home, I know this does not make it really any easier for you, but you did your best by your horse and you must remember that. I do hope that things improve for your husband and your situation, please take care

Chrissie x
 
Oh God, that's so very sad, how heartbreaking for you :(

You will find horsey happiness again one day.

As for 'if onlys' they can send you mad. If you had set off that bit later, then the van would have done the same, it would still have happened.
 
Toast, I'm sorry. I know that feeling of a little piece of you leaving. It hurts and in fact is the end of a dream.

But we all get more chances for something. Right now the important thing is you and hubby getting right again. When it's not your fault I imagine even harder to stomach.

Your horse never would have found as good a home without you doing things the right way. So through the tears you need to remember you're one of the good breeders. And I'm so happy new owner is willing to keep you informed. That can be tricky sometimes.

Sending you a big cyber hug. And I hope that things get better and easier for you and your husband soon. I think there's still some dreams due to come your way.

All the best,
Terri
 
I remember your posts about the accident. Glad to hear hubby is doing better. Your baby has gone to a great home - think of it as if your child has got married.

You will get back on your feet financially as you have taken all the hard decisions and done the necessary to achieve it. Well done and take comfort that you have been so strong to get through all this cr*p.

Hope things continue to improve and you can have the joy of being a pseudo-owner!
 
I'm an emotional wreck at the moment so this had really touched me :( I feel your pain and we always wish once in our life we could just turn back the clock and do things differently. But, I am a believer in fate and what is meant to be will be. And, as awful as it sounds, maybe it was never meant to be :(

Chin up xx
 
Life can be so tough but well done you for dealing with what it has thrown at you. Without over-egging the pudding, you could have been one of those people who bury their head in the sand and end up with a horse that is a welfare case but you haven't done that, you've bitten the bullet and taken a hard decision to improve things for you, your OH and your youngster. You've obviously found him a good home and someone who is happy to stay in touch which is hugely important. Keep your chin up and believe that things will keep on improving. Hugs
 
What a horrible situation to be in - sending you all my hugs. It may be a cliche but you must take even a little comfort in finding your lad such a good home. I know that doesn't ease that awful pain now, but in the future you can be so proud of yourself.

Sometimes life can just throw so much c*** in the path of the best people - whilst the slimeballs seem just seem to get away scottfree. Nothing profound to say, just that I'm thinking about you much love xx
 
I'm really sorry you've had to let him go, it must be heartbreaking. How lovely though that his new home is happy to keep you updated and still be a part of his life, they sound like people worthy of taking him on.
 
Equilibrium Ireland said:
Toast, I'm sorry. I know that feeling of a little piece of you leaving. It hurts and in fact is the end of a dream.

But we all get more chances for something. Right now the important thing is you and hubby getting right again. When it's not your fault I imagine even harder to stomach.

Your horse never would have found as good a home without you doing things the right way. So through the tears you need to remember you're one of the good breeders. And I'm so happy new owner is willing to keep you informed. That can be tricky sometimes.

Sending you a big cyber hug. And I hope that things get better and easier for you and your husband soon. I think there's still some dreams due to come your way.

All the best,
Terri
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What a lovely post, thankyou Terri. :)
 
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