Some ppl rlly have nothing better to do!RSPCA

no, the fields were knee high, so she kept it in a 2 acre garden.

Though surely a 2 acre garden IS a field? Imagine hover mowing that
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I don't think it is appropriate behaviour to scream and yell at anyone, particularly people who take you to comps.
they are supposed to be fun for all involved, I always say no point if you don't enjoy it.
TGM thats the conclusion I came to too!
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happy go lucky ---- I think you seriously need to chill out.
Your horse probably doesn't give a flying f*** about whether he has the newest bestest rugs or gets to go in a solairium once a week.
Horses have basic needs and as long as these needs are met they are happy and healthy. If your on of off board screaming at people and getting the right hump he can sence it and therefore feels stressed. How does he know it's not because of him?
No wonder you have a hyper horse
 
I think OP you have to listen to what everyone is saying on here. When so many people say the same thing, it usually means thats the path to follow.

Look at the facts: most people manage to complete dressage tests without any shouting, yelling and diva antics. From the way you write it comes across as if you had a bit of a tantrum when your horse would not go forwards so rather than being able to correct it, you gave up. You can't correct it because I suspect you don't have a good enough relationship of trust with your horse established through calm, consistent handling. You confuse such a relationship with having the right things for your horse but your horse doesn't assess you on these but how you behave around her. And you expect people to praise you for doing the right thing, but could it be that they have seen this sort of behaviour before and are frustrated with you as well as your horse?

You admit to having a temper and your horse probably knows this and may have switched off as a result. If you cannot learn how to control your temper in ALL situations like other people, then perhaps it might be better to go into another sport.

Have you lost your temper with your horse often? If you have, then I think thats your answer to what happened on this occasion.
 
Hi Happy_go_lucky,

I agree with others on here, in that you really must find a way to calm down and not get so angry!

Horses are very sensitive and it will most definately upset your horse (who I think I read is a youngster) if you are getting so mad that you scream and people and storm off.

I know that horses can be very very trying at times, but loosing your rag is really not going to do you any favours.

I know its really hard, my young warmblood and I have been out to our first ever dressage competitions this year - and the first one was a nightmare -although now much improved. Even her first time out I just focused on all the things she was doing WELL rather than things which went wrong...

Most youngsters are likely to play up a bit there first few times out, and its your responsibility as an owner to ensure that these shows are as enjoyable and relaxing as possible - then your horse will learn that its a good experience, and relax and bahave nicely for you.

My horse would frap out and be a total wreck if I lost my rag with her, I always handle and ride quietly (despite times where she is pushing me to the absolute limit) as I know it will only cause me more stress and problems (not to mention traumatising my horse) if I loose it with her.

At the end of the day you have a responsibility to ensure that you are riding calmly and confidently, and that your aids are clear and you are relaxed to give your horse the best chance of going well - and if you have a temper tantrum and storm off I am pretty sure you cant have been doing this.

You cant change what has happened, so leave it in the past and put all your effort into being a calm, controlled confident rider in the future and through actions show people that they may have misjudged you.

Good luck,

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Hey,

reading your thread finally convinced me to register on here (lurked for weeks now)

I've always had a very short temper and it always showed in my riding (or lack of when constantly dumped by riding school ponies) and like you I always wanted to scream at people because I was so frustrated, in the end though people disappear if you scream at them and ponies don't listen.

The best way I found of controlling it was to remind myself that worse things have happened, with that in my head I found I relaxed and learned to laugh at a situation rather than get more annoyed with it and in doing so the horse/pony relaxed and was more willing to do what I asked.

Good luck with your temper and I hope your horse goes better for you next time.
 
Happy Go Lucky:-

I saw this post monday as wasn't going to reply, but as there is another one about it....I know the yard you are on and there are alot of people on it that will have alot of opinions, about what happened, i wasn't there so can not comment, however i am on another yard not that far away and this incident was mentioned to me, and the details were similar but not entirely the same! like i say i wasnt there so cant comment on what happened, but be careful, things can get twisted in those situations and righltly or wrongly i am afraid people do talk!
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Its hard for us to comment on this though as we weren't there. You say you didn't do anything bad as such but the other people may have felt you were being particularily horrid to your horse (which I'm sure you weren't). For example, I was fence judging at a PC event a few years ago, some kid got chucked off at my fence, she then proceeded to scream at her horse, yank him in the mouth like hell and threaten to smack him round the head - I ended up grabbing her horse off her and the nearby paramedic who saw all this told her firmly to walk home and send her parents back for the horse! She claimed she had not been nasty to her horse at all, what I saw was totally different! Not saying this is the same, just that you do need to be careful
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Slightly of track......
I went to a Tuesday night clear round jumping class and there were about 11 jumps?? Lots of young kids on flash ponies flying round clear. A young girl-about 10?? came in on her pony, a bit of a thelwell but pretty. He stopped at EVERY fence. At some fences he didn't go over until her grandfather and her mother led him over. At some it was the 6th or 7th attempt.
All in all she was in the ring for near on 20mins.
And you know what???
Not once did she boot him.
Or whip him-infact she carried no whip.
Or raise her voice at him.
Everytime he did go over he was patted and praised.
I think some riders could learn a lot from a child.
(Several of us actually went over to her mum and told her she should be proud of her daughter for her display in the ring)
 
HGL - two separate people reported you to the RSPCA? I suspect the incident to the observers were a lot more disturbing than your view of it... acting like a spoilt brat might rile people and show organisers, but it wouldn't get people on the phone to RSPCA!
 
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Slightly of track......
I went to a Tuesday night clear round jumping class and there were about 11 jumps?? Lots of young kids on flash ponies flying round clear. A young girl-about 10?? came in on her pony, a bit of a thelwell but pretty. He stopped at EVERY fence. At some fences he didn't go over until her grandfather and her mother led him over. At some it was the 6th or 7th attempt.
All in all she was in the ring for near on 20mins.
And you know what???
Not once did she boot him.
Or whip him-infact she carried no whip.
Or raise her voice at him.
Everytime he did go over he was patted and praised.
I think some riders could learn a lot from a child.
(Several of us actually went over to her mum and told her she should be proud of her daughter for her display in the ring)

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Love this story
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Hope she stays this way and doesn't watch and learn from too many (bad-tempered) "mature" riders
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