Sometimes People Make Me Want To Give Up Horses.

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I'm really hurt and upset.
My old yard who i classed man of them as friends have accused me of stealing several bags of chaff (i honestly haven't, my yard owner would back me up on this as well as many of friends).
They've just told me i gave my own horse colic and i've ruined my friends pony because i weigh too much (i weigh 10st and shes 14hh cob!) and that I can't ride.
I'm just very upset and really hurt that they would say all of those things.
Bu they should just wait and see when me and my mental Mattie win all the shows around. That'll teach them to keep their mouths shut.
 
I dont know how long you have had horses, but a lot of livery yards can be quite b**chy, I was always lucky to be on good yards except for one, you need to ignore the comments and get on with your horse and rise above the comments, though TBH your comment on the end of your post seems you are bringing yourself down to there level by acting so childish,
 
How old are you? Or more to the point, how old are these cowards who are accusing you? If they all gang up together then they can take the spotlight off themselves; even if they HAVEN'T stolen anything, when thefts are going on, people can get very defensive and feel people are accusing them.

All yards have different ways about them, depending on the type/age/experience of people. You will find you'll get bitchiness wherever you go, because people love to feel superior.
 
I'm 18, but the people who ganged up on are between 27-50 and there were 3 of them, all shouting. One of those people has always picked on me, she offered to write an advert so i could sell my TB because i should only have a cob because hats all i ws capable of riding in a walk...i still have my TB btw :P.
But this is my old yard but I thought we were good friends, we met up for hacks and game days at the yard. Obviously really just two faced.
The colic comments hurt though, he nearly died and i was besdie myself and stayed with him at the vets till gone midnight and was there from 6 in the evening.
And the riding comments i think are just childish but still hurtful. I'm not even angry, i'm just very sad.
 
Well first of all, they should be absolutely disgusted at themselves behaving like that towards a young girl, just because they are all 'grown up' so feel they can gang up on you.

Secondly, you might want to question her knowledge about horses. Just because a horse is 'a cob' it doesn't mean it will be a slow ploddy boring old thing. And just because a horse is 'a TB' does not mean it will be a loonatic.

These women should be ashamed of themselves. Believe me, though, you will meet many more like them: the horse world is full of bitter old (and young) hags who think they are better than anyone else because they have more money/bigger horse box/better horse/more rugs/posh tack... you name it, they think they've got it. It's insecurity because you're at the start of your life with horses and can mould it into whatever you want it to be. I get sick of bitchiness on yards. Who the hell do people think they are?
 
The person whos always picked on me used to regularly leave me in tears and she was one of the reasons i left. I was fed up of being sad and not enjoying my horse anymore.
I've left and found a wonderful new yard which has its moments but i love it already. I can be myself if i want or have 38 friends around me if i wish and if i ask for advice they give it to me constructively and only if i ask for it!
But i did honestly think they were my friends, they even think i roped another friend into it, but i hope they give my new yard owner a ring and get the facts straight.
And next summer i cn wave my rosettes under their nose and say "i told you so!
 
10 stone on a 14 hander? you cruel thing!

only kidding...crickely I rode a 14.1 for 9 years and he's still in one piece! that just shows the immaturity, lack of knowledge and down right nastiness of these people, take no notice of them, if they have got anything useful or nice to say, don't listen to them! gosh they be busy falling out with each other in months time if that is how they carry on anyway.

So cheer up hun, as long as your on a nice yard now then thats all that matters, leave the them in the past and don't bring it up or stoop to their level...forget em, not even worth thinking about!
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i know excatley how you feel...(im 19 and the womenis 40 odd!) I've been having this treatment lately on this site by a women that i actually know and use to work for.

Best thing is to rise above it. I know it is SOOOO hard. Ive wanted to bite back. You know its all BS, its times like these you know who your friends are!!

Hugs to you though, and if you want to whinge, PM me
 
I completely agree with Kenzo.

You'll also find with horses that there are lots of people who don't agree with your way of doing things, and in disagreeing will resort to spiteful little attacks or sarcastic comments. Just because they do it differently doesn't make either of us right, and you just need to remember that. Stand by what you believe and when someone gets catty because you have offended their insecurity, just think to yourself 'oooooh, mince'. I do that all the time on yards/at shows/on here/on another horsey site.
 
i think what is hurting you the most is the fact that you thought these people were your friends and they turn out to be two faced morons.Better to find out now than say in a years time. Best thing you can do is move on and forget they ever existed. Friends like that you can do without.
 
i had the same thing happen to me, when i was sharing a yard with so called "friends"
i moved and haven't looked back!! i am now of the opinion that if people want to say things about you they will, and i just ignore them and carry on with my ponies, at the end of the day if they are talking about me they are leaving some other poor bugger alone!! MOVE and get on with your life, enjoy your cob and keep well away from these people whom u can do without in life!
 
Iagree you need to move on, but why do people say nasty things on this forum,then get upset when other people reply??????????? This is for MRogers!!!! Kids mum retaliated to your recent treads,after years of you bullying pc kids and saying things about your friends that were not true!!!!! Please dont use this forum to bitch about people who only answer with the truth, which probally now means i will be bared from here as well!!!
 
Friends, yes you do realise who your friends are when you get a slating on here don't you? Sometimes they think you've been so coldhearted!!!!
 
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