Sorry - feeling down RE the horses thread.

It is very early days.
Everyone grieves in different ways,and copes in a way individually to them.
When my dad died, it took me over ten years to be able to look at a photo. I could talkl the hind leg off a donkey about him though,to anyone who would listen.
When I had to have my homebred horse pts last march, I pretty much cleared his stuff straight away,just keeping anything I thought maybe useful to his replacement. I couldn't bear to have the reminders of him.
None of this right,or wrong. It is my way of coping.
As you are now. It may not feel like you are coping,but you are.
Time does heal,it may not be today,or tomorrow,but some months down the line,the raw pain you feel right now will be less,and you will feel somewhat improved. And,will look back,and be able to start to look forward with a glimmer of hope. X
 
I am sad for you and sad the mare I rode for eight years died too. It made me think people should write obituaries for their horses. As we do for people- setting out their life and why they mattered. But it seems that horsey people never do.
 
When I lost my life love horse I was devastated.
People could not understand why....it was after all...just a horse

And yes he was...

he was "just the horse" to put up with my learning curves and forgave my mistakes

He was "just the horse" that allowed me to cry on his shoulder without judgment

He was "just the horse" that carried me through the levels saving my butt so many times I often had to check for a cape and Supperhorse loga

He was "just the horse" I could swim/camp/drive/hunt/talk to

He was "just a horse" who was my best friend for 25 years

We mourn our horses because they are our friends and confident....we would not be human if we did not or we wouldbelacking the emotional IQ for empathy

It took a long time for me to not cry whenever I found something from my Kaspar Imissed him so much...but then one day...I found a picture of us and the memories came flooding back and I smiled at them....and everyday I was able to smile with the memories more than cry with them

(((((((HUGS)))))....time will heal and memories go from bitter to bitter-sweet to simply a sweet memory of a good friend.
 
I lost my tb too recently after a stint of constant injuries and I was heartbroken. I'd had him for 9 years and just adored him. I found it really hard at first as I was so used to him being there and then when I had started to adjust the same thing happened to me, the vet bill came through.

My OH was as sympathetic as he could be but to him goose was 'just a horse'. It is very hard as people who don't have horses or don't have as much of an attachment seem to view them as just a dog when in reality goose was like a child to me (very sad, I know).

Time really is the best healer OP. everyone says it and it may seem overrated but soon you will be able to think of your time together and not feel so down. It's not about forgetting them, it's just about learning to cope with the loss.

My heart goes out to you, best wishes.
 
sending you big (((hugs )) hun, so sorry for your loss,

I sadly suddenly lost my girl 6 months ago to liver failure, she was only 15, fine one minute gone the next! I also blamed myself and really struggled for the first two months to belive it had actually happened :(
she was my rock, my bolt hole and my lifetime bestest friend in the world i honestly thought i couldnt live without her!

I am slowly coming to terms with it, having my other ones to look after made me drag myself back to reality.I still miss her everyday and people have managed to convince me i could have done nothing to change what happened, but it only takes one little thing to set me back.
Only last nite an old friend got in touch asked how she was, course brought it all back and i ended up sobbing whilst telling her what happened.

It does get easier hun but never goes away they are part of your life always,
i had some beautiful keepsakes made from my mares tail and i wear them constantly, i also still talk to her (bonkers i know)

Hope you start to feel a bit better soon. More (((hugs))) xx
 
also hun i too have become a paranoid owner ,constantly checking my other horses worrying at the slightest thing, fortunately i have an excellent freind who liveries with me and manages to calm my fears.

Mine is the fear of suffering that pain again deep in my gut that wont go away, i have a new lad and find it hard to bond with him incase i lose him, i know this is silly :(
 
I'm so sorry Faracat, I hadn't realised that you'd lost her. All I can say is that it does get easier with time. I know exactly how you feel about not wanting to move her stuff, it took me a while to do that with my boys' things. I did it a bit at a time, and it helped me that his rugs went to my friends' horses, although I do remember my friend finding his stable rug in her horsebox over a year later, it still had his hairs on it- that reduced me to tears.

Go have some quiet time with your other horses, and remember your mare and the times you had together x x

ETA: I've just read your post about doing a sculpture or some artwork of her. I think that's an excellent idea, I did the same. I'd started the drawing before he passed away, and finished it the day after he died, I knew he was ill and found it very cathartic, that picture holds so much meaning for me. It's the pencil drawing in my signature pic, the original hangs on my landing so that I pass it every day.
 
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Thank you so much to everyone who has replied to this thread. It has been really comforting to read your replies and the stories about the horses that you have lost but still mean so much.
 
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