Spoil Sports

[minxymoo]

Firstly may I apologise for only frequenting this forum when I am upset, or angry - I used to post on this under another alias and got to know quite a few peeps.
Sorry I am side tracking, here goes a really horrible thing happened to me today - I make no apologise for my sensitivity but when my daughter of 7 involved I cannot help but get a little emotional.
I went to my first dressage test today and my last, I had to take my daughter on her pony (we hacked) as I had no one else to look after her.
We turned up and an ex livery of mine was there - her mum came and distinctively told me to keep away from the arena when her daughter's horse was in as my daughter's pony would distract him as they had previously been stable mates.
I said I would.
Anyway, having noted her daughters horse was being extremely nappy rerusing to go in the arena when our little pony wasn't in sight I bought our little pony to where the photo booth was far enough from the arena - her horse was napping quite badly but our pony was grazing and they weren't whineying to each other or for that matter acknowledged each other.
Having finished her test and before I was due in the daughter approached us and basically accused me of sabotaging her test, deliberatley putting our pony within sight - setting her up, swearing at us and basically saying what is she (my daughter) doing here as she is not a competitor and shouldnt be here - I checked rule book and no where does it say that if you arn't competing then you shouldn;t be on the yard.
The girl was swearing her head off and an official intervened and told her to stop using such langugage.
This left both myself and my little girl in tears I am not the sort of person to deliberately do such a thing (although I am tempted now..) and her horse was being a sod - which I tried to point out at the time before my pony was in sight. This all got twisted and now people are taking sides I now apparatnely according to the mum said her daughter was a [****] rider - I would never critisice another persons riding.
Sorry to go on and on but I have spent all afternoon in floods - what should I do? make an official complaint to the show? or just leave it - incidentally the horse I now own - they sold after 2 months for being quite sharp now belongs to me = could this be jealousy?? We both had crap marks = mine 50% and hers 47% so a bad day all round.
It was a small show basically a yard show and I cannot believe the unsportmanship of some people - I know it must have been frustrating to have a nappy animal but to blame a 7 year olds pony is the pits - am I in the wrong?
Do I give up dresssage and do I go back compete my daughter who will hopefully thrash hers????
Please some one make me smile xxxx

 

[Hattikins]

"Dont let the b*ggars get you down"!

its a saying my Mum uses occasionally - always makes me feel better

dont really know what to say other than their behaviour sounds totally unacceptable and seems out of jealousy and spite rather than anything else.

You should definitely keep going to dressage competitions - dont let them stop you!!!

I hope both you and your daughter have a lovely unstressful time next time out!!

 

[brighteyes]

That's why they call it stressage!!!

The woman is a twit. A very rude and unreasonable one at that. I wouldn't take any notice of her at all.

Lord knows what you will be subjected to if your daughter beats hers. Can I be there to watch?!

Perhaps she knows her daughter is a **** rider and that's why she is so hostile!

(Come back and post when yours has thrashed hers

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[pagancluf]

You keep going - she should give in!!! What is a competition for anyway - to do your best in the circs around you. I have one tomorrow and if I get 10% or 70% (you wish!!) at least I have taken part (my first one by the way - eeeek!!) Support your daughter and ar*e holes to the rest!!!

 

[wizzi901]

firstly dont give up!

As far as this ignorant and rude and probably very narrowminded woman is concerned, it is HER problem if they have a nappy pony, NOT YOURS.

You can put your animals where you bloody well like. She asked you to stay away, you did, pony was awful anyway, so nothing gained or lost either way.

Its a simple case of jealousy, sour grapes, lets face it, someone like that wont actually blame their own pony or riding skills!!

Let them get on with it, what you do and when you do it and who you take is up to you, stuff them! You could mention it to the yard where you wish to carry on doing dressage and say could they note the issue and give you some back up if a situation arose again.

I took my 7 year old to merrist wood today, she spent most of the time sitting and plodding around on my mates 14.2hh and was most certainly not a competitor, but kept well out of the way of those that were!

You can take the whole bloody family if you like!!

Dont take any notice of grim people like those you have described.

 

[Llwyncwn]

Oh good luck Pagan for tomorrow.

So why are you sitting here and not cleaning tack eh?

 

[conniegirl]

To be quite honest i'd have told her where to stick it! and if i hadnt my mum would of. Its her problem that her pony was a pain in the arse not yours. I have severe separation problems with my lot some times, they have all been fieldmates for ages the last one was added in 2001 and 2 of them have been together for over 12 years and have not been separated much at all. Its up to the rider to get the horse concentrating on her and not for other competitors to avoid upseting someones horse. Ive actualy dont a showing class and won it with anouther of my ponies being held by mum at the ring edge whilst mum was takeing photos, after a smack and a quick wiggle with the reins he concentrated on me and stopped being a prat.