spoke to sharer today..

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so i posted a thread the other day about having to take on a second sharer, or see if my current one would want fox on full loan and now im worried :(

she didnt seem over enthused about a full loan (which is totally understandable, she has her school exams this year and its alot of work) but didnt seem like she liked the idea of sharing fox with someone else.. i dont want to lose her as a sharer as she is great with fox and i trust her 10000% with him.

so now im scared she's gonna run for the hills. so much stress :(
 
She is maybe just aprehensive if she hasnt met the new sharer, or worried thier riding times etc might clash.

Thing is, you want a Ft sharer, she only wants pt, so yoru solution to get 2 pt sharers is perfectly reasonable.

Maybe it would put everyones mind at rest if you all met up and had a chat about what each sharers riding times would be, what level of work the horse is going etc :) They could both swap numbers, maybe text each other abotu riding etc, how she was today...

Never know, could end up with al 3 being really great friends. Certainly stressing about it isnt much use ;)
 
weesophz said:
so i posted a thread the other day about having to take on a second sharer, or see if my current one would want fox on full loan and now im worried :(

she didnt seem over enthused about a full loan (which is totally understandable, she has her school exams this year and its alot of work) but didnt seem like she liked the idea of sharing fox with someone else.. i dont want to lose her as a sharer as she is great with fox and i trust her 10000% with him.

so now im scared she's gonna run for the hills. so much stress :(
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It is your horse and the buck and the decision making stops with you, although I know of one organisation locally where one of the services consists of a manager and two people beneath that manager doing the same job but in different areas of the county, as they have to work as such a close unit, it is important that whoever is interviewed is going to fit in well with all the existing team, as such, despite the equal status of the two jobs, when one is advertised, the other job holder is on the interview panel along with the manager.

I would take this approach if you want to keep your sharer, and involve her in the process of finding and deciding upon a sharer. She needs to be happy and with two people being entrusted with the care of your horse, they need to be able to communicate and get on for it to be most effective and go as well as it could. It kind of gives, your current sharer a bit more responsibility, she knows the horse and there are some things that she may be able to help with when the new sharer comes along, try to make her feel really valued because she knows your horse and you trust her :D

Really hope that makes sense
x
 
But presumably she already shares with somebody else - you ! So it shouldnt be that different, unless you dont do much and she feels (as somebody else said) that a different sharer may encroach upon her time with him. It all depends how the arrangement is set up, but its your decision ultimately. If you want to keep her I would try and involve her in the process and see if you can find somebody you are both happy with.
 
Queenbee said:
It is your horse and the buck and the decision making stops with you, although I know of one organisation locally where one of the services consists of a manager and two people beneath that manager doing the same job but in different areas of the county, as they have to work as such a close unit, it is important that whoever is interviewed is going to fit in well with all the existing team, as such, despite the equal status of the two jobs, when one is advertised, the other job holder is on the interview panel along with the manager.

I would take this approach if you want to keep your sharer, and involve her in the process of finding and deciding upon a sharer. She needs to be happy and with two people being entrusted with the care of your horse, they need to be able to communicate and get on for it to be most effective and go as well as it could. It kind of gives, your current sharer a bit more responsibility, she knows the horse and there are some things that she may be able to help with when the new sharer comes along, try to make her feel really valued because she knows your horse and you trust her :D

Really hope that makes sense
x
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yeah QB thats the approach im hoping to take, im overly paranoid im going to end up with no sharer at all! i know what its like to want my horse all to myself and i think she must be feeling the same just now.

hope fully she'll see how much i appeciate her and need her! x
 
I was 1 of 2 sharers on a horse and it worked out great. Even though we had 2 days each we would often both go in together for 4 days and get yard work done twice as quick and then would also stay to watch or walk out with when the other rode. Was really useful since we essentially gave each other lessons. I definitely agree with involving the original sharer in the finding the second. May ease the process. Hope it works out :)
 
weesophz said:
yeah QB thats the approach im hoping to take, im overly paranoid im going to end up with no sharer at all! i know what its like to want my horse all to myself and i think she must be feeling the same just now.

hope fully she'll see how much i appeciate her and need her! x
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Fingers crossed that it all works out for you :D
 
I had two very briefly til he went lame. I ensured they met and discussed what each was doing with him: one is more a happy hacker, one can school properly. It worked really well. Get them together for a chat.
 
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