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My OH keeps asking me what i want to do with lilas ashes but i just dont know if im ready to let them go?

Am i wrong to keep them boxed up?

What have you done with yours horses ashes?

Its been nearly a year and i still miss her so much.

I have another horse now and i never thought i would love another so much but i adore him. He remind me of her in so many ways and i know ill have him till the end. He such a sweety and always puts a smile on my face
 
I scattered winks ashes up the hill that he used to love blasting up!!!! (I hope noone hacked up there the rest of that day! There was quite a lot of them, the horses might have spooked quite badly!! lol!)

I wanted to put them somewhere "public" rather than up the yard.... Then I know I could always go there even in 60 years time!

I felt ok spreading them... it's a personal thing. Prob didn't help that I got given them in what looked like a bin liner in a cardboard box!!!! (they were proper ashes though thank goodness!)
 
If you are not ready then dont let her go.

I know I m about to go against the grain....... but my horse was buried at home in his rug,last week, I just could not let the hunt have him, so I completly understand.

I think there is no reason not to keep her with you if you do not want to let her go (((( hugs ))))
 
We have 2 in our dining room (they are in their nice boxes) and with the circumstances it doesn't seem right to do anything with them yet.

A friend has 2 of her old horses and bearing in mind she's had the current one with no overlap 7 years, then she's had them a fair while.

Its up to you and it must be right for them, don't rush it otherwise you might regret it! We went and picked up our old girl about 3 weeks ago and was talking to the chappie and he told us when a lady died she left 16 and the executors didn't know what to do with them and asked them to scatter them.
 
I lost Holly 5yrs ago on Dec 7th. Part of her ashes are scattered under the tree she used to shelter under when it rained, the remainder are still in the conservatory in her box. I still miss her even now. She went back to her field on Christmas Day that year and strangely enough I felt peace when she was put back in her field, well most of her anyway. I take comfort that part of her is at home with me too.

Do what you feel like and when it feels right.xx
 
I would say do what you feel is right for you really, if you feel that you should scatter the ashes then do so but ONLY when your ready to do so or you keep hold of them.

Personally for me I kept my lad in his box as he was a mummies boy and loved being in more than out and I don't have a place where I could scatter even a bit of them so for me it felt right that I kept his ashes.
It also helps me feel close to him still...and I miss him more than ever.

Best of luck in whatever decision you make, but I am sure it will be the right one for you.
Don't rush in to it though.
 
Personal I suppose but myself I would always scatter human and animal - as it is said "ashes to ashes, dust to dust" ...

I wouldn't even bury the casket - I would make sure the ashes mix with the dust.
 
My old mare was pts 2 years ago last friday, she was burried in the field, this summer we lost our cat jezobel we also burried her in the field along side Misfit when we burried her we also burried Max our previous cat he had been in a pot for 7/8 years! but some how the time finally felt right may be its because he would not be on his own? Im lucky we have our own field i could still cry for Mifit and i find it difficult to go to that top corner of the field but i know she is sitll at her home, she was 33 n had lived in that field for about 20 years x
 
I scattered my horse's ashes near a bridlepath we used to canter along, in a lovely spot overlooking the woods and the sea, and have told my family I want mine scattered there too. My elderly friend still has his dog's ashes in a wooden casket next to his armchair, and says he wants them put in his coffin. Whatever feels right for you is right. Your horse will always be in your heart. xx
 
I scattered my boys ashes under a tree next to a bridlepath we used to enjoy. In the spring the hill is covered in bluebells. I like to think of him being there rather than gathering dust in the spare room. It was also a huge box so not exactly easy to store!
 
I scattered the ashes of one of my horses in the field where he was happy. When I had to have another horse cremated I didn't have the ashes back. They said part of the ashes of all the animals are put in the 'garden of remembrance'. I was happy with that as it was upsetting scattering the ashes of my previous horse.

I have had the ashes of my dog on a shelf for nine years. I'd intended scattering them but it was winter when I got them and I didn't want to scatter them when it was wet and windy so they just stayed. I couldn't part with them now, I'm happy to keep her in the house.

Just do what feels right for you.
 
Thanks everyone.

I dont think im ready and crazy as it sounds, i speak to her while im cleaning up and giving her box a polish.

When i do scatter them, i think its going to be on the beach where she loved our rides so much.

This year has gone so quick but i still feel like it was yesterday
 
Hi i have both my babies in their specially made caskets in the bedroom for the past year, i cant spread their ashes yet and dont i will ever. I still get very upset despite having 2 new babies to love and bring on. It has not got any easier for me personally.
 
Mine is still in the wardrobe 11 years on but it's only token ash so a little box, doesn't take up much room. My mum and dad were also in there until such time as me and sisters got together properly! Do what feels right, no hurry.
 
I still have my old boy's ashes-I keep him in the bedroom (as a kid, when we were both young, I'd promised him he would get live in my house so I've fulfilled this, albeit posthumously!). I still couldnt bear to part with them now, even after 10 years, and even have 2 beautiful horses who are my world.
Its very personal -you should do whatever feels right for you :)
 
I lost my old boy 2 and 1/2 years ago and I still have his ashes. He is in a discreet corner of the lounge in his french polished box (with one of his shoes and his name on it). Some people may think it's morbid keeping him but I don't care. I take great comfort in knowing he is there and I will probably never scatter his ashes. It also never fails to make me smile when my cat decides to have a little rest on him :-) I don't believe there is a right or wrong time I think you should do whatever feels right regardless of how much time has passed. Above all don't feel pressured into doing something you may later regret.
 
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You can if you choose, have the ashes placed in your coffin when the time comes, and be cremated down again. Then you can be scattered together.
 
there is no right or wrong just what is right for you - baby will be sprinkled in the field with the herd so she is forever happy and at peace. I personally wont need her ashes around me to know she is still close but we are all so different. I will look to the stars and know she is up there running happy and free xxx
 
Lila said:
Thanks everyone.

I dont think im ready and crazy as it sounds, i speak to her while im cleaning up and giving her box a polish.

When i do scatter them, i think its going to be on the beach where she loved our rides so much.

This year has gone so quick but i still feel like it was yesterday
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I do this also...lol I often chat away to him like I used to

Here's my lad...in my lounge with lock of mane, a shoe and couple of pics and a lovely poem card....it helps me...I've also named a star in remembrance of him
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When I had my old boy PTS five years ago, we planted his ashes in the garden and put a pear tree on top, so every time we see the Pear Tree we remember him. When our little JRT was PTS we put a Monkey Puzzle tree over her (!!), coz she was, er, well, a monkey!

Think its a lovely idea too to scatter ashes where you enjoyed a special ride or mad gallop on a bridlepath.
 
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