J_sarahd
Well-Known Member
OP, I think it is really brave of you to come back on this thread with such an honest and frank update. More importantly, well done on recognising this for your horse's benefit.
The teaching you describe, and fact that other people are riding your horse(?), sounds to me as though he might be on working livery at a riding school? Personally I've found the nature of teaching at RSs is occasionally very much more like what your instructors are saying than would happen with the freelance trainers I've met. I don't know if you are on a RS but I would seriously consider asking around (perhaps a thread on whatever regional board on here would be near you?) for recommendations from private horse owners. I'm not saying it will always be the case but the sensitivity to individual horse and rider combo and also the expectations of the horse (that it isn't a robot!) can _sometimes_ be much more horse-friendly with a non RS instructor.
Good luck
Thank you - I may be stubborn but I can admit to my mistakes haha
I share Max so he's ridden by me and his original owner. He's had a serious amount of sharers in the past and there's one girl who comes every so often and rides him just to be around horses. The riding instructor that recommended the spurs is a pony club instructor. I'm not sure if this is why she's a bit more under the category of 'bully your horse to do it' or not? My favourite ever instructor has moved slightly too far away so I am struggling to find that relationship again and an instructor that respects us both but will push us!