Stay or go?

[Nudibranch]

Posted on here last week about a new girl and her father on the yard who really annoyed me. Now I know it's early days but I am starting to dread going to the yard since they turned up. The dad gives me dirty looks and scowls a lot and she hogs the grooming area, water supply, best bits of grazing for electric fencing and so on. They are using the tack room and I don't trust them around my stuff one bit and their trap is parked smack in the middle of the walkway to the fields. (My tb would have freaked out if she was still around!)

Yard is 11 miles from home but I've never minded that as I was the only person there. I'm starting to wonder if I should try and find somewhere closer, not that it will be easy. At the moment I only have my shetlands, but once I get another riding horse there will be major issues with space around the place. Have mentioned diplomatically to YO that I'm struggling with the electric fencing this year (as she has claimed all the useable areas), but he is pretty laid back and I don't think he really minds what happens. Problem is, I wonder if it would be out of the frying pan into the fire with a new yard, I've been used to my own space for the last 22 years with my horses and tbh I don't really want to join a busy yard. What would you do?

 

[Maizy]

How far up north are you? I am going to be leaving my yard shortly - leaving it empty and therefore possibly for rent...there is a chance another lady will keep one horse (if she get's another - other PTS last year)
PM your location roughly if it sounds of interest. 3/4 stables in a barn and 5 acres. Very reasonable -no menage but several very local to hire. Very lovely owners.

 

[RoyalPolo]

If they annoy you that much i would personally just try and find somewhere else as otherwise you will spend your time annoyed at them and the fact that you may want to start going at different times to see your horses which isn't fair really as you shouldn't have to change what you do because someone new has arrived.

Also i would move there fencing so you both have equal parts of the good grass as that is completely unfair if they have taken the good stuff if they kick up just say you have done it equally and tell them to go stuff it anyway as you was there first.

If you do decide to move it may be worthwile popping an add up in your local horse feed/tack shop or in a local paper as you could find a yard that someone has but doesn't want to advertise incase the wrong type of people are interested.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

 

[mickey]

I think this was the girl that said your pony looked lame or something similar?
Maybe I am barking up the wrong tree!
I personally think you should give it a little longer. Sometimes things take a while to settle down. You may have to politely speak to them about some of the issues.
Whenever someone new enters a situation it always causes a change in the dynamic. But in time this may resolve.
Give it a couple of months and it no improvement then leave?

 

[Nudibranch]

Yup it is, very perceptive too given she has chronic arthritis. AHEM.
Yeah I think I will have to give it a couple of months anyway as grazing is scarce round here; it's just not very nice feeling worried every time you want to go and visit your own horses!
Maizy I have PM'd you...