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mattie mistletoe

mattie mistletoe

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Hi all,

Have got someone coming to look at my boy tomorrow as he's just too much for me, have lost my confidence with him and it's doing neither of us any good. It's not fair on him or me to carry on as we are as we're both stressing out. I've been totally honest with the lady coming to view him about issues we are trying to work through and she sounds lovely. Just devastated that we've ended up here, and Im not quite sure how we got here as we were doing really well A few months ago. Its been a very steady decline and I'm gutted that it's not worked out but I've got to be fair to us both. That's all, just needed to share how I feel with likeminded people. Please be gentle with me, took a lot for me to accept that he's not the horse for me. X x
 
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It sounds like you are doing the right thing. This is our hobby - it's supposed to be FUN! There is no point in persevering with this horse if it is making you miserable. It doesn't stop you loving him, but someone else might be more able to deal with his issues.
I hope the lady coming to see him is nice (and experienced) and takes him on.
Good luck
 
It would take a lot for anyone to accept that hun :( *hugs*
Sounds as thought you are doing the right thing - for you AND him, as said above it obviously is no longer fun for you and that will be making it no fun for him.
I say well done for being a responsible loving horse owner; good luck to him and good luck to you.
K x
 
Thank you for your kind words and encouragement, god knows I need it. She seems to be very experienced so we'll see tomorrow. I'll make sure she knows all his faults, I refuse to be a dishonest seller. It's hard but it's the right decision, just tears your heart out doesn't it. Bloody horses, who would have em? :) x x
 
It is a devastating choice and one I went through a few years ago. It's a tough decision but if you haven't clicked and aren't right together, then better to end it with him going to a good home and before you lose too much confidence. HUGE hugs.
I now have a pony that I feel I connect so much more with, I have fun and am a lot braver and my confidence has come on in leaps and bounds. Everyone compliments us :D
 
I had one that "just wasn't right for ME", after I sold him, I brought a lovely mare to restore my confidence, sold her 6 months later as she had done her job and then brought my boy, who I have currently owned for 12 years.

If I hadn't sold PJ then I would never have had the 12 years of fun that I have had. Good luck with your next chap/girly. xx
 
I had a pony whom I just could not 'click' with...after a lifetime of loving horses...I was gutted but like you, arrived at the decision to let go...it was really hard despite being the right thing to do and I cried loads when we actually parted company...BUT he went to a great home...and miraculously, 9 mths later I happened across him again and he had been completely nurtured by the right person who had totally transformed him into a model citizen and so we took him on loan and it has all been great....it did me so much good to see how much letting him go was the right decision - and we have no issues together now.
In the meantime I was working with another boy who was far harder to deal with than the pony...but we do 'click' - so that showed me it wasn't me just being crap last time round, so all ways round, I'm in a very different (and good) place than I was this time last year.
As you will be.
Good luck x
 
Brave move, you are to be applauded. Theres no point carrying on when you aren't gelling as a partnership - and just think of the fun you can have horseshopping!
 
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