stroppy YM's... is something in the air..

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My YM is rude - she's barely managed to grunt hello this morning. She's been worse for the past 2 weeks. I am on DIY and am one of the ones who is up early, ride, leave everything ready and spotless and then head off home. I have just started to do BD and this week had saddler out - cue new saddle which wasn't planned but i cannot have my horse uncomfortable. I've worked hard for everything i have and my OH is buying a new 4x4 as he wants me to be safe and have a reliable car - so jealousy could be a part of it - although she doesn't ride and i am not one to rub people's noses in what i have. She does however have a 'friend' who tbh makes up a whole load of lies and rubbish. To the point she has kind of alienated herself - I've stayed out of it but do know the other person - so could she be thinking i am involved? theres nowt as queer as folk!
 
Perhaps she has some personal issues at home you are unaware about?

I would carry on as you are, be polite, smile, offer her a cuppa etc.
 
Has she always been like this or have you just noticed it recently?

Could she have something worrying happening in her personal life?
 
Possible that the long , hard to deal with winter (& past 12 months) have got her down. We are all entitled to be grumpy now & then, sounds as though she just might need a break or some sunshine to feel better.
 
Am in a similar position OP and it's making it quite awkward even though it's a horse I share. Don't know what I've done wrong but don't feel very welcome. We've also had a situation with tittle tattle which she chose to believe instead of asking if it was true. We are now trying to move the offending horse and it's sharers so that we don't cause any further offence with our presence. :rolleyes:
 
I'm a YM but I'm not a stroppy one :p

Maybe she's in season? (Sorry, spend far too much time around horses!!! :D)

Just carry on as you are like others have said, it will be more frustrating for her if you're being nice then she has no reason to be holding a grudge (if thats what it is)

I would never take my moods out on my liveries, no matter how bad things are. Always say hello and smile, but thats just me, my liveries come first :)
 
You're a good livery, you leave the yard neat and tidy. Why would she be funny with you ? More likely she has something else that is bothering her and you are over thinking the situation. I can be guilty of this too sometimes.
Keep smiling and saying hello and wait for her to perk up again.
 
My YO can be stroppy and then 5 mins later she's fine. I just ignore it and get on with my stuff, I'm certain it's just because she gets tired and stressed. I have perfected smiling and nodding, after all it can't be easy running a livery yard and trying to keep everyone happy?!
 
Paranoia................................................................

You should stop the ol' wacky baccy...

:D
 
That was one of the reasons that I haven't kept in contact with my last YO even though it looked like I left on good terms....much biting of tongues occured the last couple of weeks I can assure you!

It really was the moodiness that got to me. I could live with being ignored. Absolutely fine, I would say my cheery 'hello' then happily get on with my jobs and riding without bothering her. What used to get me was when I saw her heading towards my stable....my heart used to sink. I just never knew what I was going to get. Somedays it would be cheerful YO asking me how my horses were going, asking my advice on something. Other days she would just come and have a go at me about the most ridiculous of things. Such as
1) The quality of hay I fed my lami pony she thought I should be feeding her the (bought from YO) yard haylage.
2) The angle I had parked my car. She admitted it wasn't it wasn't in the way or anything it just annoyed her.
3) The number of rugs I had. They were all neatly folded and on my storage shelf but she felt it was too many and encouraging others to leave rugs at the yard.
4) Some droppings that had been left in the arena since the night before. I pointed out that 80% of the other liveries rode in the evening, I never did as I rode in the morning. I could see the thought process as she actually realised that it couldn't be me but instead of apologising and admitting she was wrong she said that it looked like one of my horses droppings so I had to clear it up :D

That said when she was in a good mood, she was utterly delightful and really helpful!
 
LOL glamourpuss.... it "looks" like your horses droppings???

That is the best thing I've seen all day. Priceless.... what a horsewoman, she can track owners just by looking at a pile of *****!!! :D:D:D:D:D:D:D
 
If she is a new YO/ YM and its a DIY Livery yard she has probably just realised what little money is in it :(

Failing that she is in season and needs some supplements!
 
Drat, forgot to ask YM if someone had hired out the arena last Sunday as I had to collect a load of s**t that definitely wasn't from our boy, or any of the other out-24/7 ponies, looked to me like a large (16,2+) stable-kept beastie to my eyes, but maybe Bergerac/Barnaby would have other ideas?!:D
 
I think it can be pretty stressful managing a DIY yard, I imagine it sometimes requires the wisdom of Solomon, but of course it probably isn't that, I've been pretty stroppy myself lately, no one's fault really I think I've had a rough few months and I am eating all the wrong things and I hate myself, it makes me grumpy, maybe your YO is the same.
 
It could be that you seem to be so organised and have more money than she does. It could just be her asking herself why she is doing what she is doing when it is all work and no play. My YO gets a little moody now and again and I always ask her if she is all right. She usually is stressed and tired and finds everything a little overwhelming at times as does her other half. I'm sure its not personal and perhaps you could offer to make her a cuppa or just ask if she is okay. After all it has been a pretty awful winter/spring and if you look around you and think how much work and sorting out there is to do to bring things back to some form of normality it is pretty depressing.
 
tallyho! said:
LOL glamourpuss.... it "looks" like your horses droppings???

That is the best thing I've seen all day. Priceless.... what a horsewoman, she can track owners just by looking at a pile of *****!!! :D:D:D:D:D:D:D
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They could with my Haffie as she does rabbit droppings everywhere:eek: Agree with others view that it's probably personal and unrelated to yard. Chin up and be your normal nice self and be friendly even when others can't be.
 
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