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Imagine if you wanted to be quite successful in your choosen sport or wanted to go that little further incompetitions but your horse isnt capable, what would you do? If your capabilities have outgrown the horse you own,and despite what your heart says you feel that they are holding you back, what would you do??
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i had that situation and i put my one on loan whilst i rode for another person, then the loan owners asked to buy my mare and i agreed as seeing her take another person far is much more thrilling then its made out to be! now i have the money from my mare, a new horse and i know shes happy and well!
 
Personally I would do everything I could to keep the old horse and to then afford a new one too. If that wasn't possible I would put old horse on loan and then buy another. I don't think I could bring myself to sell any of mine though tbh so loan with a view to buy would be out of the question.
 
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not even if you saw how happy your horse was with another person? or to see that person learning and getting as much fun and love out of the horse as you did?

i didn't want to loan my horse but i got talked in to it and seeing her competing with her new rider and winning and having alot of fun is much more for filling then keeping her and barely having enough money to compete both or time to keep both fit.
 
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not even if you saw how happy your horse was with another person? or to see that person learning and getting as much fun and love out of the horse as you did?

i didn't want to loan my horse but i got talked in to it and seeing her competing with her new rider and winning and having alot of fun is much more for filling then keeping her and barely having enough money to compete both or time to keep both fit.

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I can see where you're coming from but I think I would have to be in that situation to get the full emotional impact (if that makes any sense) it made on me and the other person involved.
 
UnfortuantelyI cant buy one without selling one and couldnt afford to keep two or raise the monies needed to buy something that has the potential or thatis already established with a competition record
 
no i understand, i felt the same at the thought, it wasn't until i saw the girl on my horse that i thought, actually they look good together! still, i hope it doesnt happen to you, its still horrible when you watch them drive away!
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UnfortuantelyI cant buy one without selling one and couldnt afford to keep two or raise the monies needed to buy something that has the potential or thatis already established with a competition record

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i was in the same situation. this is what i done!

i loan my mare out, in the year she was loaned, i had been riding for someone else competitively (i done this by asking around, then i found the woman who let me compete her horses) then when the loan people offered to buy my mare, i jumped at the chance. they now own her and i have the money left over from her, as well as a new loan horse coming. so now (with the money from my mare) i have a new horsebox, a new long term loan horse with good jumping potential to go a very long way and im super happy!
 
Personally my horses mean far far more to me than my ambitions, but I fully appreciate that's me & I wouldn't criticize anyone who acted differently.


"not even if you saw how happy your horse was with another person? or to see that person learning and getting as much fun and love out of the horse as you did?"
I let a lovely lady ride my welsh cob & this week she's been an absolute star by taking him off my hands while I fuss over Jim. I do like knowing someone gets pleasure out of him (I think she enjoys him far more than I do) & he loves being someone's number 1 pony but at the end of the day I wouldn't sell him. As far as I'm concerned she can do pretty much what she wants with him, Jim is my passion, but while I own him I have control over his welfare & I'm fond enough of him that that's important to me.
 
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"not even if you saw how happy your horse was with another person? or to see that person learning and getting as much fun and love out of the horse as you did?"
I let a lovely lady ride my welsh cob & this week she's been an absolute star by taking him off my hands while I fuss over Jim. I do like knowing someone gets pleasure out of him (I think she enjoys him far more than I do) & he loves being someone's number 1 pony but at the end of the day I wouldn't sell him. As far as I'm concerned she can do pretty much what she wants with him, Jim is my passion, but while I own him I have control over his welfare & I'm fond enough of him that that's important to me.

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i know what you mean, i miss having the overall say on what happens in my mares life, but i am luckily welcome to ride and see her whenever i wish as i have a fantastic relationship with the new owners.

we also have a big old cobblet who was my first pony who we shall NEVER sell. there are two reasons for this.
1. he wouldn't be worth anything to anyone anymore, as he is old and has the WORST conformation EVER but hes worth his weight in gold to me.
2. he is the one horse that has been there for me since i was tiny, he actually means the world to me and parting with him for any reason would be more then heart breaking.

so i do understand everyone's point of view, i just think that as long as my old mare is happy, so am i
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Been there.............sort of!
In my case it was the horse who was destined for greater things and I was holding him back. I have never been a huge fan of jumping so bought a lovely sec d with intent to show and riding classes. We did a bit of jumping and I was forever being told by strangers that he obviously loved it and had huge potential. Deep down I knew this too and knew I was holding him back-he just didn't enjoy what I did but I loved him-he was my first horse who I bought with my own hard earned.
In the end I sold him to a jumping home and a lovely girl who within a few months of owning him had JA'd him.
When I went to watch them both they clearly had a great bond and he did look truly happy.
Its not an easy choice though and there is no right or wrong answer. Do what you feel is best for both of you.
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None of my horses ever lived up to the job they were intended for or my competitive ambitions. They had soundness issues that made selling them unacceptable to me, so I made the best of them and enjoyed what they were up to doing. However I did pts when they became unable to be ridden at all.

Saying that, I always thought I had plenty of time and would get to event one day on a future horse and now my back is too knackered to do it.
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I don't think I could have sold my horses, even if I had known I wouldn't be able to compete later in life. They were nice horses and they tried their best.
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