super duper helper required

I'm in martley / broadheath and am at college, and have ridden since I was 3. With my 2 I only do dressage at the moment but can also jump, pm me with more info if you think I could help? :)
 
Hey Vicki, I hope you're not feeling too down hun!

I am not far away, would be more than happy to help you and PJ out. (As you know, I love competing anyway :D) If you're interested you've still got my number? If not I will PM it to you :) xx
 
Thank you so much for all your replies, I will try and pm you all later.

It really would be great if we could get this cracked!
 
I have pmd you back, let me know if it hasn't worked as I'm on my phone where it can be a bit hit and miss! :)
 
A little update from the resident loony tune!

Mon, Tues and Weds I couldn't ride due to P pulling a shoe off so spent time brushing and doing his apple stretches (he's not a fan of carrot!) and doing some in hand stuff

This morning (in preparation for my lesson this evening) as he hasn't been ridden for a couple of days the plan was to have a little walk around in the arena to get me back in the swing of things... well he felt awesome and I felt really together so we braved a hack on around and went round our 40minute block and even managed some trotting.

Then my lesson this evening went down hill and ended in me being led around our jumping paddock holding my neck strap into much of a white eyed panic to move.

Luckily a lovely (hopefully!!) HHO'er is coming to try P out on sunday to hopefully keep his mind and body active while I am a nervous wreck (I also have an appointment with an anxiety specialist in 2 weeks to discuss my options).

I so so so so so hope between me, P and the rest of the world we can get this sorted out so that I can start to enjoy my beautiful pony!

V x
 
i had a breakdown at work, suddenly burst into tears in the middle of the office and i was the manager!!!! long story but after quite a while i had some councelling sessions and these helped me see why i had the breakdown and how to take the pressure off myself, so your sessions sound like a really good idea... you may find that your gp could prescribe something just to calm you a bit which may also help you deal with life in general..dont feel alone, lots of people suffer from this sort of thing, i was amazed to find out how many people in my immediate circle of friends had some sort of depression/anxiety , once i had said what had happened to me..
 
When my life unravelled couple of years ago, I also had panic attacks - while driving (before I was a very confident driver), riding a very placid horse, and in supermarkets (or anywhere full of jostling people, noise etc).
Don't dismiss anti-depressants, I was not keen on the idea of taking them. Eventually gave in. They don't make any difference to your general mental state, they, as a friend brilliantly summed it up, just take the edge off the despair. And they help with panic attacks in the sense you're less anxious so they don't strike so randomly.
I did try psycho-therapy, but it just didn't work for me. Did an online CBT course through the NHS which was surprisingly good and uplifting. But time, as the old cliche goes, has been the best healer.
Very best of luck to you, it is very hard to deal with.
Oh, and meant to say, I know you want your horse to be doing things, but as long as he's fed, given some exercise and love etc, he won't care if he never goes near a show again!! Do not give yourself stress over it. Be nice to yourself - that can be very hard sometimes. All good vibes.
 
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