Taking a sad trip down memory lane..

Paddy Irish

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I don't want this to turn into a ramble but i'm hoping someone out there will read this story and either tell me that what i'm feeling is normal , or even better , let me know that my little mare is ok.

I sold my arab mare, Mystral , to a lovely lady from east Devon . The day she came to meet Mystral ( Millie ) I just knew she would love her and give her a forever home . Anyway she did indeed buy Millie and off she went to a new life , every month or so i had emails telling me how wonderfully Mills had settled and that she was indeed the ' dream horse ' that this lady had been looking for , i would reply about my new horse ( i sold Mills as I wanted something bigger but she had come to me as a sort of rescue project and it took me 4 years to pluck up the courage to admit she wasn't going to be the riding horse for me and to look for a new home for her ) Anyway we swapped emails for up to about 9 months , until the day the lady's OH emailed me to tell me that she'd fallen from Millie and been killed....as you can imagine I was devastated , not only had a whole family lost their relative but Millie had lost her new mum and had brought down a cloud of doubt over herself. I had a lovely letter from this lady's OH to tell me that Mills was the last love of her life and that they would find a good home for her...so it's been a year now and i'm still heartbroken , i can't stop thinking about millie and whats happened to her , the only person that would know is a lady that kept her horse at the same yard , but i lost her number when my mobile packed up and the number wasn't saved to the sim..

So what i generally want to know is do other people worry about horses they've sold on , i would have given my eye teeth to buy her back at the time but i'd spent the money on a new horse and i didn't want people to think that the mare was bad and i was trying to get her back.

If anyone out there knows Millie/Mystral and knows she's ok perhaps you could PM me , as I want her new owners to know that she's got somewhere to go if she's down on her luck , please help her make her way home.....

Thanks to all who took time to read this story , i havent gone into details about Millies life before i had her as it's too sad , but it makes it all the more important that she doesnt suffer again.
 
PI - thats so sad, unfortunately I cant help but want to wish you lots of luck and hope someone knows of her and it's all worked out - despite the horror stories, there still are decent, honest and caring people out there ! x
 
It is completely normal to feel this way. I sold my mare 8 years ago and I still think about her all the time, as she a very important companion to me, it is a bond which most people underestimate and do not understand. Like you, I had regular contact but I found this too hard and I am now growing to accept that she is in a loving home, which will see her days out. My mare had also been mistreated, and the new owner took a bad fall on a hack, but thankfully they were both OK. it is very hard not to worry, when you see the transformation from an abused horse to a happy horse-you never want to see them in that situation again. You should contact the yard and see if they can let you know where she went. I hope she is now well and happy in a new home
 
Thanks guys , I think in the new year I will set about finding out just what has happened to Millie , as really I do need to know , just for my own peace of mind. I could try and contact her OH but I've only got her email address and as it's just a year ago this week , i think it would just be too insensitive atm..besides they don't really know me , nor i them , i only met the lady twice when she came down to see millie and although we had a good email friendship neither of us knew much about each others families etc.
 
If it helps we have a 27yo who we bought from a riding school as a 12yo for my daughter. Long story short her old owner had lost touch and eventually discovered her with us. She has been to see her a few times over the years even though she has been to uni and moved around and is now a high flying barrister. Just this week we got a text saying "do you still have her?" as she knew we promised never to sell her. We do, so she will probably come and see her again in the near future and we have sent some pics to show she is looking great for her age.
This owner sold her as outgrown in good faith and although she had a chequered couple of years post sale she has been with us for 15 years and is going nowhere - so maybe your horse has been lucky too. I hope you find her.

I know it is a sadder situation on your part and you will need to be sensitive but they sound caring people. If she was loved as much as they said then I bet she is in a good home.
 
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misst said:
I know it is a sadder situation on your part and you will need to be sensitive but they sound caring people. If she was loved as much as they said then I bet she is in a good home.
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I would love to know they did find her a good home , it's what jill would have wanted , she's got the most wonderful kind temperament and it's definitely not hard to love her . Sadly the OH and family are not horsey at all which is why i had so many emails i think - someone to talk to about millie , i'd get all the gen about hacks they'd been on and farriers visits etc , i love reading back through the letters , even the one written just 2 days before she died is full of love for millie , it's like going back in time and wishing upon wish that in some way you could prevent the accident happening , but also hearing her voice in my mind but her not knowing that these were going to be her last words to me , it's all just too sad.
 
It is a desperately awful thing to have happened but it was an accident and it sounds as if no one is to blame. Even if they are not horsey they will probably have tried to do what she would have wanted.

I do know someone who bought a horse from a family of a lady who died (from cancer). The family were not horsey but tried very hard to find a kind and loving home. The lady who bought the horse loved her very much and said she felt extra responsibility to do her best by her as she only owned her through someone elses tragic loss. Hopefully your horse was treated in the same way.
 
Thanks misst , i never really looked at it that way , which is silly really as the first horse i ever owned was an 18yr old tbx which belonged to a woman who died of cancer , she bought her as a six year old so had her a long time and i must admit we treated her extra special as she'd been with her mum so long it must have been a shock to suddenly find yourself somewhere strange , with people you don't know , lets hope Mills has landed on her feet somewhere special..x
 
Have you tried to go throw passport company to see if new owners have update ownership
They can't give out any info on owners but either you or the company can send a letter or phonecall to let them know your in contact and would like to know how she is
 
Thanks ischa , that is a great idea , i've managed to track down an old friend of jill's so i'm hoping she may know a bit about Mills - fingers crossed.If not that's a good route to go down , thanks
 
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