Teaching the OH to "ride".... Am I bonkers?

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Annie&Lilly

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He has finally accepted that I love the girls more than him, and now he wants to be involved!
I didn't mind teaching him how to muck out, but now he has decided that my Fresian x cob is his baby, and he needs to ride her! :eek:

He is 6"2 and 15 stone. he says :rolleyes:
He has a hat, but neds boots. What are best for beginners? (Yes, it has been a longgg time!)

Should I teach him myself, or will I end up chucking something at him?

Has anybody been through it and is it worth it?!
 
if you want to loose your horse........ dont!! haha :D

robinsons for hat and boots??



failing the above - borrow a slightly bonkers horse and throw him on that to put him off???

problem solved.
:D
 
Half of me is thinking it could be nice! I've had my chunk for years, and have also got a young warmblood who is having a winter off to get even BIGGER.

But i think it might be nice to go out on hacks, hunt and maybe even getting him to compete!
(This way he might buy me my dream horse box! :D:D:D)
 
I too had a non-horsey OH until I became seriously ill only months after getting my horse - he was literally thrown in at the deep end and took over everything including learning to ride - bear in mind horse is an ex-racer - said horse was brilliant with him! It was over a year before I was well enough to take over again. OH now has his own horse so we now share the yard duties and there are no arguments about whose going to ride! I thank him from the bottom of my heart always for his understanding and willingness to get stuck in so to speak and for being there for days when I could not cope.
 
You can help him get used to the horse, comfortable with walk and trot, basic steering - having fun. Do not start being too crital immediately, just safe, fun and comfortable.


But for serious teaching, best to have an instructor. Does not work well teaching relatives/family. I cannot teach my kids anything, but could keep them safe and having fun.
 
I met my boyfriend now hubby when he was a client at the riding school now 27 years later we are still together.:):):):):):):):):)

does he ride now?????

answer no
 
My OH went for a series of private lessons on a good yard to teach him the basics. He only went for maybe 8 weeks but they started him on the lunge and seemed to teach him well. It was worth it because he was quite confident riding my old mare.
HOWEVER he is completely unable to get my horse to even walk in a straight line, despite the lessons, because my horse isn't exactly 'push-button', and he won't listen to me when I try to explain to him what to do! Last time he rode was a disaster and he jumped off after about 10 mins and said he wasn;t doing it any more...

SO depends if your OH is the type that will do exactly as you say in which case you should teach him, OR whether he thinks he knows best - in that case send him to a good riding school!!!!
 
OH started off like yours - helping with mucking out etc. When he decided he wanted a go I put him on Ron and taught him basics until he could hack out with me reasonably happily. He then had a handful of lessons from someone then went hunting.

He's since had a number of lessons with my instructor, done a lot of hunting, and some eventing. He's absolutely hooked :)

IMO you need to keep it fun or he'll get put off quite quickly
 
Go with it!
Better than getting them to come out on a hack on a bike, as they can never keep up.
Sounds like you are going to have a lot of fun together. And when he gets better you can share lessons (so saving money hey hey)!
 
i do teach my boyfriend and i dont want to kill him but i do have to explain things to him rather then just telling him and expecting him to do exsactly what i say.
eg he was letting my horse overreact in trot which she does is shes allowed to rush and so i said quite calmly that he would be paying my vets bill and for a new set of shoes if he didnt take up a little more contact and gently ask her to calm down.
also on our first lesson he had to learn to do rising trot very quitly we are talking first try had to be good as although he is lighter then me he is unballanced. so altho he was fine weight wise on her if he wasnt careful he did unballance her and she did have problems moving forward smoothly in trot. this was sorted by alot of rising in walk with me doing a trot count that he had to keep up with. needles to say he got rising trot 80% good enough first time. btw my boyfriend is 15 and a half stone and 5'11 and my mare is a strong fit 16hh.
good luck.

equally i taught my best friend in 3 months to ride from scratch to being able to canter easyily and nicely and jumps 70cm nicely. she was also learning leg yeild and other nice schooling movement and comeing on nicely before she had to move away for a job.

however i didnt send my mum away for lessons as my mare is quite physically hard work as a bit big for her, also i felt my mum just needed more hours on a horse to learn rather then me doing quick lessons that progressed each time. she did continue ride my mare but that was just to help the lessons.:)
 
I decided to teach my boyfriend to ride...untill I found out he'd rather ride other girls, than horses :\ He's now a very much EX boyfriend!!

ANYWAY!

I can't offer any advise! Just good luck :D Sounds exciting!
 
Yep...well worth it. Get a good (mature)instructor to teach him the basics, preferably on your horse (men get very frustrated with riding school plods!).
I did try to teach my OH, but once he was vaguely safe roped him into our slightly mad lessons with an excellent instructor, and then once he was ready to hack gave up on the lessons and let the horses teach him. He did fall off an ex-champion show cob out on a hack and let go...I was more concerned to catch this very precious horse than pick him up!
He didn't get on with my loan horse, so I gave in and bought a horse to suit him. She has been challenging, but with a lot of help he has competed her to a high level and had so much fun. We now have a horse each (at last!) and are looking forward to lots of nice hacks and show outings together.
Ref clothes, Robinsons have a really good selection of affordable boots and half chaps which are the best bet. If he won't wear breeches, chino type trousers are probably better than jeans.
My OH rides western now so he can wear his jeans, cowboy boots and big spurs :D
 
I'm jealous: would love to get my OH even interested in my riding, so that when I finally can afford my own horse that he at least partially understands why I'll be living on a yard and the horse comes first! lol.
 
I hope so. But he seems to have this CRAZY idea that he is always right :rolleyes:

My Lilly chunk can be a bit unbalanced in trot and canter if you don't show her what to do, so I'm thinking of going down the private lessons route first., and see how he gets on.

I do hope he doesn't mind being told what to do by somebody other than me! Ha ha!
 
Annie&Lilly said:
I hope so. But he seems to have this CRAZY idea that he is always right :rolleyes:

My Lilly chunk can be a bit unbalanced in trot and canter if you don't show her what to do, so I'm thinking of going down the private lessons route first., and see how he gets on.

I do hope he doesn't mind being told what to do by somebody other than me! Ha ha!
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I reccomend a female instructor
 
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