Tears before bedtime?

i feel a bit sorry for her, everyone has to start somewhere and while far from a good situation, at least she is on a yard and doesn't have the horse at home.
can she not put it on full livery for a while, which would give her a chance to learn while the mare's welfare is not compromised?
i hope the mare has lots of patience and a forgiving personality, i assume she is going to get an instructor out to continue her lessons?
 
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Either just pig ignorance or selfishness.


dont you think thats a bit harsh?? you dont even know that circumstances of this woman and your already judging her.
 
Only picked this up this evening but interested as hubby and I probably fall into the camp of having bought too early in our riding "careers" in most peoples eyes.
However we went into it with our eyes wide open and due to our lack of knowledge have sid on full livery so he is with people who are far far more experiecned than us. We have learnt so so much from having him but I'd be scared to death at the thought of putting him on DIY livery / having him at home yet.
I hope this lady can find people who will help her or sources of info she can use. I hope if she does come on here she doesn't get roasted alive - then she might just stop asking anyone and do the wrong thing.
I also can understand that you don't want to spend your little spare time dealing with someone elses issues. Just hope she's a quick learner
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dont you think thats a bit harsh?? you dont even know that circumstances of this woman and your already judging her.

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Circumstances are no excuse not to know the basics, horses are expensive if she can afford to buy she can afford to educate her self. The OP stated that the last horse was a four year old stallion which I doubt she has learned from. Take it or leave it, three lessons before buying a horse is not enough.
 
I haven't read all the thread, I am reeling from the OP! I would be unimpressed if someone went out and bought a goldfish on impulse without having a clue as to its needs, but a horse - words fail me. It's a bit like buying a car and expecting the neighbours to be kind enough to show you how to drive it. I hope you are feeling patient, because if someone can't even put a headcollar on they are going to need a lot of help. I hope she is a quick learner and is prepared to take advice. I look forward to hearing all about how she gets on...
 
I guess she thinks it's like taking up cycling perhaps. You buy the brand new bike and all the gear and then you work out how to ride it. When it goes wrong you take it back to the shop and learn how you should be looking after it.

Is the father going to have any input, if he is knowledgeable?
 
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Posts like this make me very sad. I cannot understand how anybody could buy a horse without knowing the first thing about how to look after it.
I had been riding for thirty years before I had Marius, but because I had never kept a horse of my own, I had him on full livery for 18 months, spent every waking hour at the yard learning what went on, and did BHS Horse Owners Certificate 1, 2, 3 and 4. And I still know that I need help if anything goes wrong.
I pity that poor horse. I really feel strongly that they are not something to 'learn' on.
 
Here's a confession for you then.

I bought my first horse when I was 19 having had lessons at the local riding school since I was a kid. Other than helping to muck out, I had no idea about care as everything was done and the horse presented tacked up and ready when I arrived for lessons.

I was talked into buying a very nice youngster by my instructor who couldn't afford her own horse and clearly had ambitions to compete. Horse and I were totally unsuited and I didn't have a clue what I was doing although I did have a virtual library of books on care. Luckily, the yard I moved him to was full of helpful folk who put me right when I was in danger of making mistakes.

I had my horse for 10 years and I learned so very much from looking after him. Luckily we had no dreadful accidents and he was always very well cared for. In hindsight though I certainly wouldn't recommend it - unless the horse was kept at full livery while this lady finds her feet.
 
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