Teenagers on HHO My Take on it

Why should the age of a person using the forum matter? The purpose of a forum is to share knowledge and experiances about the one thing everyone on here has in common - The horses!
Now surely it is common sense that if you are reading something you do not like, simply walk away an ignore it? I am nearly 18 years of age. And to be honest rather disgusted by the behaviour of some people here regardless of their age. Why can't people just calm down. Take a deep breath and think before they begin to respond to something?
If I can, as a so called "I know nothing teenager" then surely those of you, which are more mature to know better, can also...
On the whole though, 99.9% of the people on here are lovely! Whether 12 or 112!
 
Haven't read all the posts but just wanted to say most of the teenagers who post on here come across as extremely mature and knowledgeable. I am well into middle age by the way and have worked in a secondary school so have met loads of teenagers.
 
I find it interesting that people are using age to defend some posters and then using age to insult others!
If you are using a forum, then the 'tone' of your posts make a difference, those which are 'aggressive' in tone, or in fact down right rude are almost bound to annoy those people who are attempting to help you.
Threads which are started with comments such as please don't post rubbish answers are not designed to seek help.
I do not think it is ok to 'bully' children, not that I think that has happened as much as others seem to perceive, but neither do I think it is acceptable for children to be rude to adults. If people would be mortified if their children were spoken to in that manner, would they not be equally mortified if their children were so rude?
 
zefragile said:
I'm with Munchkin on this, age is no excuse.
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I don't think the issue is with the advice given but with how the advice was given.

BSJA123 is out on a limb, she says her parents aren't horsey at all so she can't ask for their help. She isn't as mature as some of the others here the same age and she seems to struggle to absorb information. With someone like that the last thing that she needs are personal comments and accusations of harming her pony. The more she is 'shouted' at the less she will understand.

If those who feel unable to reply civilly to her were to butt out of her threads then maybe the rest of us could attempt to educate the poor kid, facts presented clearly and kindly she finds a lot easier to take on board.

All the unpleasantness seems to have driven her off the forum, which is certainly not in the best interests of either child or pony. It looks to me as if many of those who claim to be concerned about her pony's welfare are, in fact, simply filled with a righteous indignation and using it as an excuse to have a pop at a defensless kid.

It would be nice to hope some lessons have been learned from this.
 
I have to admit I have only followed a few pf BSJA123's posts and have been slightly irritated at them therefore have not posted on them. I am a teenager and don't think age necessarily means more or less knowledge. I do think it is clear that she just wants/needs some advice and can take this advice whether she wants to or not!

If those people are so concerned about the ponies welfare, why haven't they been in touch with the right governing bodies or done something about it.

Your bitching is surely not going to change the welfare status of the pony. It is only going to encourage her to ignore you.
 
yorksG said:
I find it interesting that people are using age to defend some posters and then using age to insult others!
If you are using a forum, then the 'tone' of your posts make a difference, those which are 'aggressive' in tone, or in fact down right rude are almost bound to annoy those people who are attempting to help you.
Threads which are started with comments such as please don't post rubbish answers are not designed to seek help.
I do not think it is ok to 'bully' children, not that I think that has happened as much as others seem to perceive, but neither do I think it is acceptable for children to be rude to adults. If people would be mortified if their children were spoken to in that manner, would they not be equally mortified if their children were so rude?
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^^^^^This. Oh definately this.^^^^

Only put in a much better way than I ever could. I would be mortified if I found my child had had SOME of the comments made in the past to BSJA123, but I would also be giving him a short sharp lesson in the importance of the way you communicate with people.

Anyone can come across badly at times, none of us are perfect, but I found her manners distinctly lacking more often than most. We're all entitled to get ticked off and also to defend oursleves, even in a heated manner sometimes. Just not as often as happened here.
 
Sorry but... 17?! I soo thought you were older, but in a good way! You are always so mature, and give amazing and insightful advice :)

And I am also nicking that quote too :D x
Kokopelli said:
I think the 'war' against bsja123 started when she posted ages ago about Catlips when she said she doesn't use second hand stuff. Everyone immedietly got this persona of her that she was a snobby teenager who gets what she wants. Since that post in all her posts she got bashing.

I'm a teenager still and I feel my posts are ok, I have spelling mistakes but thats mainly because I'm dyslexic and I hope people think I take on there advice. I also hope I give good advice because even though I'm 17 I still know some things about horses.

My insturctors saying is: "Once you think you know it all, give up because you will stop trying to learn".
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