The right thing to do.

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This is a difficult thread for me. But being on a private yard with no one else and non horsey friends just say what they think i want to hear, I need you, people who know horses to help me out with this dilemma in my head.

This is about magic. I'll spare the first twenty years of his life and concentrate on the 2 i had him on loan. His owner had him since 3 and was no travelling the world. He was a fat healthy newforest pony. The live off fresh air type, no rugs, no feed, no shoes type.
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Our first year was fine. We hacked, jumped, even went to a show after being warned the last person who had taken him had left in an ambulance! He had hay, lived out 24/7 with a stable. I got him in jan and in november I noticed he was loosing weight, so he was on some honeychop in a feed twice a day.
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This did nothing, he continued to loose weight so the vet ultrasounded him and said all the bowel she had seen was black and too thick to be absorbing food. He was put on Predisolone? one sachet a day for a year. Everyone was hopeful he'd pull through.
I think i stopped seeing his weight loss. I told myself he was getting better, swore i could see improvement. By this point, it's september, he's rugged, on 4 small feeds a day. Trailed on expensive weight gain products. A routine vet appointment was made, as he'd been having every month. Bloods taken and very low protein, ultrasounded again and return of thickened gut. Medication has not worked.
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Owner and vet have 'that talk' I am not involved. Decision to put him down on the 9th of november is made. I became angry, upset, furious they weren't trying harder. After all they didn't see him everyday like me, I was convinced i saw improvement. He was put down on that date.

This has all come to me after seeing the newforest thread, while i was hunting up pics for him i came across the ones taken for the morning of his passing.
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and I was wrong. so wrong. I had gotten so used to seeing a skinny horse, I was blinded. I feel like a fool for my anger at his owner, i didnt say anything to her at the time but it was clear.
Please someone tell me they did the right thing.
If i ask friends they'll just say 'all its about money i bet, couldnt be bothered with him, vet and owner in cahoots' but i know in my heart that isn't true.
 
They did the right thing. You were blinded by your love for your pony. You won't be the first or the last, but the owner did the right thing in the end.
He looks like a lovely type and you clearly cared very much for him. Be glad they did what was needed, don't be miserable that you couldn't see it at the time. Hugs x
 
Try not to torture yourself with what ifs from seeing another thread.

You can't worry about other horses just consider Magic and his needs.

With medical intervention from his vet and his owner together they decided the kindest thing was to let him go and unfortunately you have to respect their wishes.

I'm sure in time you will find another pony to share and you will still have your memories of Magic to enjoy.
 
If you know in your heart that it was the right thing to do, then don't listen to other people saying it wasn't.

If the owner was simply wanting to make money then I don't suppose she'd have bothered with lots of expensive veterinary investigations?

Sometimes when we love an animal it can be hard to accept the reality that they don't go on forever and it is a kindness to prevent them suffering. 22 isn't a bad age, so instead of feeling remorse for the past and how you felt, look back and remember all the good times you had together.
 
They did the right thing. You were blinded by your love for your pony. You won't be the first or the last, but the owner did the right thing in the end.
He looks like a lovely type and you clearly cared very much for him. Be glad they did what was needed, don't be miserable that you couldn't see it at the time. Hugs x

This exactly ^^^. They DID do the right thing.
 
Way too many horses and ponies go on too long because the they are "loved" and the owner can't let go even when the poor animal is collapsing or clearly in pain or whatever. It is difficult sometimes to see the whole picture when you are very close to the subject. I knew my old girl was losing weight (she was 29) because I put the tape around her every week and was feeding her tons; at best she was just holding steady. But when I look now at the picture I took of her the day before she was PTS I would be the first to admit she was THIN. Close up she looked reasonable, from a distance I could see how slow and unsound and stiff she was. I loved my horse more than life, but I let her go because it was the only way forward for her, the only treatment. Your pony's owner did the same.
 
I know now that they did the right thing, looking at the pictures of him just shoved it home to me. I worried constantly at night about 'what if i'd upped his feeds to 5?' would it have made a difference? And especially, Did i cause this by moving him to my yard? That's the worst one. Because no one knows. Was it moving yard or just age that caused this to happen when it did?
I do not blame the owner and the vet at all now. I still use the same vet.

But i suppose when the seeds of doubt are sown, you never get rid of them.
Its just good to know other people who own horses would have made that decision.
 
The pics show me a picture over time of a physically deteriorating pony, who looked and sounded like they werent absorbing nutrients from feed properly, the only thing that mightve been done was discussing with a nutritionist, but im assuming the vet had ruled that out as an option, and tbh i dont know if it wouldve helped.
The eyes of the pony look wearied in the last pic, his condition isnt great and his posture imo is that of an uncomfortable pony.
While you didnt have a choice in the matter, i think that in conjunction with the vet, the owner has chosen to do what they felt was right for him.
Im sorry for your loss, he looks to have been a lovely wee guy.
 
The pictures show him getting progressively skinnier and unhappier IMO, if he wasn't absorbing nutrients no matter how much you feed you gave him it wouldn't have made a difference. I think owner/vet definetely made the right decision even if it was a very hard one :(
Don't blame yourself, you gave him love and attention in his last years and did everything you could to save him he was a very lucky boy to have you and his owner looking out for him x
 
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