The well meaning who do my head in!

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helm

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Why oh why oh why do people persist in interfering. I have a 14.2 Connemara - a real baby. Last summer he ballooned and I had to strip graze, bring in put muzzles on etc etc. I've been using this winter to get his weight a little better. He's well muscled, still well fed, turned out during day, big hay net at night and little feed. Worked most days. He's looking fab. Still a little over weight according to vet and back lady but getting there.

Next door neighbour at yard as a happy hacker 24 year old 16.2. He gets haylage, and loads of food. Loads.

She thinks I'm starving my boy, has muttered to everyone else that I'm starving him and keeps bloody feeding him. He kicks the door cos he wants to go out... she feeds him, which just makes him kick more!

I'm tried laughing it off, being nice, now i just want to scream. i think things about other peoples horses, never do I say it to them, why do other think they have the right to do so!

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Tell her to wind her neck in - I have limited patience with 'well meaning' people like that!!!

Confront her and tell her to leave your damn horse alone!!!!!!
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The point is Ernie will eat and eat and eat until he kills himself. He is well loved... I spend more money and time with him then I do my own husband. He isn't hungry just greedy.

God these people - I'd never dream of it!
 
i would be livid if someone gave feed to my horse. I would have very stern words and if that doesn't work then i think the yard owner would have to intervene. you can't just go around feeding someones horse. Does she use your feed?
 
Put a note on the stable door asking people not to feed him? As you are trying to keep weight off, obviously his being fed won't help! She should keep her thoughts to herself, it's none of her business how you manage your boy... as you've said he's being fed and gradually losing weight, which is the whole aim!

Big hugs, hope everything works out.
 
I would put a big notice on his stable door saying "this horse is laminitic and is on a restricted diet - LAMINITIS KILLS!!!" -
I have a laminitic pony who is finely built - my kids get abuse from other kids and their parents who say she is far too thin
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- my OH, who is a farrier, gives me abuse if she puts on so much as an ounce of weight
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The note on the door thing is always good - used to have a guy on my yard that consistently fed the horses mints over the door - my little mare became really nasty because of it - everytime she saw you she'd nip if you didn't give her anything - so after having quite but nicey words and it still continued - I printed in BIG RED LETTERS "PLEASE DO NOT TITBIT AT ALL" laminated it and stuck it to her door - think he got a bit of the hump but it worked.
 
I have a note on George's stable door asking people not to give titbits, with laminitis risk in big red letters. I don't care who it offends - I have seen too many people feeding him, and who the hell do they think they are?

At my last yard there was a lady who was married to a bloke who kept his horse there, and she used to give every horse a carrot or two every morning. It made me mad when she did this to my laminitic mare
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I am fed up of treading nicely with these people.

I would be livid in your case. He is your horse and you are obviously doing right by him and your vet is happy. I would actually have to have it straight out with this neighbour of yours, in this case.
 
i'm glad it's not just me!!!

All your suggestions have been great and made me laugh rather than want to explode!

I could understand it if he looked like some poverty case but he's a pudding pony! Just because someone elses horse eats masses and does nothing doesn't mean every single beast should be fed the same. Why do they think they have a right to interfere!!!!
 
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The point is Ernie will eat and eat and eat until he kills himself. He is well loved... I spend more money and time with him then I do my own husband. He isn't hungry just greedy.

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Put this on a notice and stick it to Ernie's stable door!
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It might just get the message across!!
 
" well meaning" is often translated as ignorant in the horse world. If she is unable to reason with polite explanations, then you must resort to a firm "do not touch my horse". Nobody has a right to interfere with your horse without a very good reason.
 
It's really not just you, most people on her would prefer to see a slightly under weight horse rather than an over weight one.

My friend's pony had lami and his pedal bone rotated, he came right in the end but she had to keep him on a very resitrcted diet. People would comment on the fact that you could almost see his ribs, it was the only way to keep him alove.

He got lami at 17 years old and lived another 10 happy years as a ridden horse.
 
It's not just horses
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! I have a very active border terrier who eats for England but is not fat. The number of people who tut and comment the he is "skinny" and "is he ill" drives me mad! Especially when invariaby their dogs are like eggs on legs
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! Sorry off topic rant over.

Basically some people can't help themselves from being nosey pain in the a**e busibodies (god my spelling is terrible).
 
helm, i would put a big notice (or two... one funny, one bloody serious!) on the door. i would also confront this woman, she has absolutely no right to feed your horse and i would say that if he gets lami she will be responsible for the bills if she is ever caught feeding him again, as it's the last thing he needs. best of luck. ignorant horsey people drive me crackers.
I watched Horse Patrol the other day and RSPCA were called to 2 very laminitic ponies in huge field of grass. the owner appeared and said "you can't prevent laminitis" and "if they're kept in they're miserable, they're happier out here." (one of them was lying down with all 4 legs stretched out off the floor ffs.) i would have shot him first, then the poor ponies... no way was he going to keep them correctly. some people are just too thick to ever understand it.
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She has to stop feeding your pony immediately - my cob got laminitis last year for the first (& hopefully last!) time. It took a huge vet bill, box rest all summer and 8 months to get her sound and back in work and she wasn't as badly affected as many. She is now on a strict diet and no one gives her anything to eat except her diet. You are doing the right thing for your pony - it is nothing to do with her. I would never feed anyone elses horse unless asked to by them. Sorry rant over but I wouldn't want anyone else to have a year like I had last year.
 
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