Things that annoy you on here

Endless ex-racer threads, there are millions of them every day! Just use the search button. AND people who have no idea about ex-racers replying saying "ooh you've got to be careful of them, all nutters" etc etc. Sigh.
 
Anglebracket said:
(1) When things are blown out of proportion. A horse that is slightly over or under-rugged is not a welfare case.
(2) Black and white thinking. There is more than one way of doing things well. Also, what is right for 90% of horses may be detrimental to the remaining 10%.
(3) Self-righteous sanctimonious twaddle.
(4) Poor written comprehension skills. The cause of many unnecessary arguments.
(5) The belief that being rude to someone will change their behaviour.
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All of this!
 
JFTD said:
I quoted because I was going to comment on the first part but I would like a full on "high five" for the second as that was going to my other point to :D

2. "I rescued my horse by buying him from low end dealer". No you didn't, love, you bought yourself a pony and supported a low end dealer. Well done.

"My horse was abused, I know because he is scared of whips/ trailers/misbehaves etc" Normally just incompetent owner not doing it right and you can see the pony is taking the mick if you know them in person / see videos. Few exceptions to this, natch.

"My horse has had such a hard life, that's why he's naughty". No, he's naughty because you allow him to be and make excuses for him. You're his owner, teach him some manners. Lots of horses have had less than perfect lives, and often far worse than the sob story going with the naughty ones!

FWIW, I've bought my 2 youngsters from a good, reputable, high end dealer and I am prouder to support the breeding of good quality, welll looked after ponies than i would be to "rescue" one from a low end dealer. None of my horses have ever been abused (except by me, with Dave the dolphin :D) and any ill-mannered moments are subject to embarassment on my part, further training and no excuses!
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Uh, your words, my mouth! Totally agree with this!
 
People who bait arguements by announcing they're off to get 'popcorn' to watch the show ...... I do hate that!

I also hate how sometimes people appear to be reluctant to accept that it doesn't have to be 'my way or the highway'.... There is more than one way to skin a cat!
 
sophiebailey said:
I also hate how sometimes people appear to be reluctant to accept that it doesn't have to be 'my way or the highway'.... There is more than one way to skin a cat!
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I've never skinned a cat, but I have skinned greyhounds, sheep and a few other species in my time, and I would like to confirm that, whilst there are many right ways to skin them successfully, there are also wrong ways ;)
 
Amaranta said:
People who confuse 'bullying' with 'disagreeing'
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Queenbee said:
when someone states an opinion and is branded as a bully, that is not to say there aren't instance of bullying, but I think that people are way too quick to use the 'b' word when infact we are just dealing with strong differing opinions.
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I agree. And if the majority hold a similar view which disagrees with one poster, that's not "pack mentality", bullying or a clique. It's just a group of posters with a similar point of view...


JFTD said:
Oh yea, right, I mean conventional medicine doesn't always work, like drugs are shown to have only 70% efficacy so they don't work in like 30% of cases, but some ultra diluted crushed bee that is really just water is bound to work, don't you know :D
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Q: "What do you call Alternative Medicine which has been proved to work?"
A: "Medicine" :D


I hate it when people go on about "button pushers" and claim they would never report. What, even if someone posted child porn? If you find something repulsive, deeply offensive or a genuine case of bullying, surely that's what the report button's for isn't it?

I can't imagine wanting to report someone because of their signature, for example, but there are some things which deserve reporting IMO.

LeneHorse said:
I'm usually pretty tolerant but there was a post the other night where the owner referred to her horse as a 'spastic'.
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I didn't see that, but if I had, I might have reported it. I'd at least have asked the poster to remove it.
 
Doesn't annoy me as such but am a little perplexed by this. The majority of times I post on a thread...within a couple of posts it dies a death. It. doesn't seem to happen when I post on other forums just H&H.:o

Would like to kid myself it is because my opinion is so obviously correct and far and away more relevant than previous posts on the thread that any more comment is unnecessary!:p:D

Oh and the other thing that I must say does rather irritate, is when two or three posters veer off into a long flurry of 'in joke' banter that has no relevance to the original post. Why don't you do that by pm rather than clog up the OP's thread? I actually think that is quite rude. I imagine people like this would talk over everybody else at a dinner party, guffawing loudly at their own perceived wit, whilst the poor hostess tries desperately to bring the conversation back to a more inclusive level for all her guests.;)
 
FionaM12 said:
I hate it when people go on about "button pushers" and claim they would never report. What, even if someone posted child porn? If you find something repulsive, deeply offensive or a genuine case of bullying, surely that's what the report button's for isn't it?

I can't imagine wanting to report someone because of their signature, for example, but there are some things which deserve reporting IMO.
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The problem is, Fiona, that bullying is not always obvious to those impartially looking on. It may, for example consist of someone always posting negative comments on anything that a certain other poster posts. Or they may be making cloaked threats or also bullying through facebook. It is pointless reporting a single post, because the FC isn't going to trawl through whole threads and looking for the subliminal bullying going on. However, if someone swears in a thread or makes obvious offensive comments, then it's very easy. But experienced bullies are never going to do that, are they?
 
bikerchickone said:
That drives me nuts too. Or the ones with a very brief post asking for help but no matter what anyone suggests they've tried it all despite not mentioning anything in the original post. Then they get cross with people for suggesting things they've already done!
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This 100%

Also people who winge when a poster asks a question, a la "Oh not this again..." and then chastise them for not using the search button - be nice or be silent :(

And I really HATE this emoticon when people post it in replies - :rolleyes:

It can be used in reference to oneself but to direct it at others it's just soooooo rude and passive aggressive!
 
oooh - and when someone starts an argument but then starts unravelling and then says things like, "I'm going to ride my horse as I'm too busy and important to sit here and argue with you....."

Yes BECAUSE YOU ARE LOOSING. You had all the time in the world when you thought you were the dog's b***s ten minutes ago....
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grumpyoldmare said:
Oh and the other thing that I must say does rather irritate, is when two or three posters veer off into a long flurry of 'in joke' banter that has no relevance to the original post. Why don't you do that by pm rather than clog up the OP's thread? I actually think that is quite rude. I imagine people like this would talk over everybody else at a dinner party, guffawing loudly at their own perceived wit, whilst the poor hostess tries desperately to bring the conversation back to a more inclusive level for all her guests.;)
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^^ This.
I think it comes across as rude :(
 
grumpyoldmare said:
Oh and the other thing that I must say does rather irritate, is when two or three posters veer off into a long flurry of 'in joke' banter that has no relevance to the original post. Why don't you do that by pm rather than clog up the OP's thread? I actually think that is quite rude. I imagine people like this would talk over everybody else at a dinner party, guffawing loudly at their own perceived wit, whilst the poor hostess tries desperately to bring the conversation back to a more inclusive level for all her guests.;)
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Amen to that. There are certain posters that will take a thread off topic with tens of replies between the few of them :rolleyes:

Oh and people that take things too seriously and let things on the forum rule their 'real life'. If you don't like what is on the forum then simply log off, nobody is forcing you to stay on HHO.
 
Oberon said:
oooh - and when someone starts an argument but then starts unravelling and then says things like, "I'm going to ride my horse as I'm too busy and important to sit here and argue with you....."

Yes BECAUSE YOU ARE LOOSING. You had all the time in the world when you thought you were the dog's b***s ten minutes ago....
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I sort of get your point - but it is quite revealing how you refer to winners and losers? Is that what forum debate on here is seen as - a bloody battle ground with opposing opinions being fought to the death? Surely that explains a lot about why H&H is thought of as a very aggressive forum, and avoided by many who would be of great value with their knowledge and readiness to help others?
 
grumpyoldmare said:
Oh and the other thing that I must say does rather irritate, is when two or three posters veer off into a long flurry of 'in joke' banter that has no relevance to the original post. Why don't you do that by pm rather than clog up the OP's thread? I actually think that is quite rude. I imagine people like this would talk over everybody else at a dinner party, guffawing loudly at their own perceived wit, whilst the poor hostess tries desperately to bring the conversation back to a more inclusive level for all her guests.;)
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Completely agree! They ruin so many interesting threads doing that. I keep clicking on to see what has been posted and am constantly disappointed to see it is just a continuation of the banter. :mad:
 
grumpyoldmare said:
I sort of get your point - but it is quite revealing how you refer to winners and losers? Is that what forum debate on here is seen as - a bloody battle ground with opposing opinions being fought to the death? Surely that explains a lot about why H&H is thought of as a very aggressive forum, and avoided by many who would be of great value with their knowledge and readiness to help others?
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I don't think it's possible to psychoanalyse me via a forum? But thank you for your input.:p

I wasn't aware I was known as a contributor to the aggressive nature of this forum?:(

Perhaps I didn't explain properly - but I am referring to people who start an argument or a controversial thread and then flounce off when they get squashed with mutterings of, "I'm too busy and important."
 
FWIW i have always liked and respected Oberon
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FWIW my post was not intended to indicate my dislike or lack of respect for Oberon? Why would I - I merely made an observation on what is written - I have absolutely no knowledge of Oberon, good or bad so why my post should be viewed as a personal attack on their likeability or character I have no idea?:confused:
 
Flame_ said:
Except that isn't the reason. Its because they'd rather know where the horse ends up than take the risk of the horse going to an unknown future, possibly a great one, but also possibly very bad.

OP, people saying they're being bullied when they aren't really annoy me. Real bullying is horrid and the term is being totally devalued by people being over sensitive.
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Yes I understand that nobody wants their horse to go to a bad home, its just that there are so many more good homes out there (and such a minority of genuinely bad homes/owners) that I still don't think its fair to play God with our horses' lives when they are far more likely to end up in a perfectly adequate home.
 
LeneHorse said:
I'm usually pretty tolerant but there was a post the other night where the owner referred to her horse as a 'spastic'. Totally unacceptable and I hope it got reported. (I'm not sure how to do this or I would have done it myself)
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Were you objecting to the word 'spastic' and the connection with disabled people, or the fact that she called her horse a name, probably in a bit of a rant?

Why on earth should that merit being reported? :eek: What for? :confused:
 
Enfys said:
Were you objecting to the word 'spastic' and the connection with disabled people, or the fact that she called her horse a name, probably in a bit of a rant?

Why on earth should that merit being reported? :eek: What for? :confused:
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How long ago did you leave the UK now pickle? I know in the states (and presumably Canada) spastic is totally inoffensive but here it's a real no-no now. Might have changes since you were gone?
 
When people are describing something and say "said" horse did ..... "said" person said .... Where the hell did all these "said's" come from??? Once I see them in a post I immediately close the thread - the poster is not interested in comments!
 
I've thought of another one, although it doesn't seem to happen as much as it used to. If a poster is getting some flack for saying/doing something daft, someone drags up ancient, totally unrelated threads where the OP had also been unreasonable/in the wrong/acted a bit mad and use it to rip into them. It seems too personal, unfair and attacking the poster not the post to me and it annoys me.
 
I didn't see the original post using the word spastic, & it isn't a word I use myself but I have heard lots of teens use it without any concept of it being offensive as they have no idea of the original meaning. No idea if that was the case, but its not impossible.
 
black_horse said:
I do know this :)

But i am speaking about the phrase used over here....ive had the same argument with work collegues, one of who said their cat was a bit 'downs' because it was stupid (bear in my, my brother is downs :mad:)

It didnt go down too well.
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I'm glad to hear someone else finds these references offensive. I realise that the original meaning of the word 'spastic' was simply descriptive of the physical disability exhibited by sufferers but it has now most definitely become a term of abuse (in this country anyway). The charity The Spastics Society had to change it's name a few years ago because of this.
Sorry but it's something I feel strongly about as my friend had a disabled daughter and it was very distressing when the local neds called her a spastic or spaz.
 
black_horse said:
I do know this :)

But i am speaking about the phrase used over here....ive had the same argument with work collegues, one of who said their cat was a bit 'downs' because it was stupid (bear in my, my brother is downs :mad:)

It didnt go down too well.
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I agree that is has nasty connotations over here and I wouldn't use it. But Enfys definitely lives across the pond so I'm not surprised she doesn't understand what the problem is!
 
littlelegs said:
I didn't see the original post using the word spastic, & it isn't a word I use myself but I have heard lots of teens use it without any concept of it being offensive as they have no idea of the original meaning. No idea if that was the case, but its not impossible.
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People often use words/terms that others find offensive without realising it. Unless it is said with intent to cause offense , i tend to ignore it. If i got upset/offended every time someone made a derogatory reference to being ginger I would spend a hell of a lot of time being upset.
My son has tourettes, it's a very misunderstood condition, people assume he must swear all the time but he doesn't. Do i get offended when people use it in jokey descriptions of a person or animal?, no, i know from experience it is misunderstood and i feel sorry for their lack of empathy for people with the condition. if someone uses it as a direct insult to my son I'll knock their heads off;)
 
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