Things that annoy you on here

[Wagtail]

I've thought of another one, although it doesn't seem to happen as much as it used to. If a poster is getting some flack for saying/doing something daft, someone drags up ancient, totally unrelated threads where the OP had also been unreasonable/in the wrong/acted a bit mad and use it to rip into them. It seems too personal, unfair and attacking the poster not the post to me and it annoys me.

Ooh, I'd forgotten about THAT one. I have seen it happen quite recently. I think that behaviour is completely under the belt, and says a lot about the person using that tactic, and it's not good.

 

[Shantara]

People who just cant help but pass comment on others, those who think they have the right to pick over and scrutinise every aspect of a persons post.
Not everyone manages to write down exactly what they are trying to say well, stress and/or upset can make it come out all wrong, and then they get judged, it gets pulled apart and people get nasty, I really cannot stand this....people are too quick to jump on someone who is just a little over the place perhaps, really gets on my wick!

This! The amount of times I've said something I didn't really mean because people are laying into me and I've got flustered. Which then makes it worse and I say more silly things...vicious circle! It's actually reduced me to tears on more than one occasion.

 

[AprilBlossom]

The 'why can't I find a sharer/horse to ride?' posts that seem to slip under the radar of advertising.
I would report them but alas HHO mobile does not have such a function. HHO mobile actually annoys me a lot as it deprives me of many of the 'standard' forum privelleges, like viewing WHO has started a thread/replied last, and the ability to quote text.

What's also annoying is that there does not seem to be any action taking place to rectify these obvious flaws.

 

[FionaM12]

I think some people misunderstand the point about "bad" words. Spastic for example was once the general term for a person with cerebral palsy. People with cp have limited dexterity, therefore when someone was clumsy, dropped things etc "spastic" or "spaz" were used as an insult.

It's a derogatory term meaning you're clumsy or useless, like a person with cerebral palsy. Likewise, mongol or "mong" came from people thinking Down's Synrome people looked like they come from Mongolia . If someone was acting stupid they'd be called a mong, ie stupid like a Down's Syndrome person.

Now, I understand some people might use these terms not knowing this is what they mean or among their friends and family in private "not meaning it that way" but this forum isn't private. There will be people who read this who themselves have these disabilities, or whose family members do, or like me have many disabled people in their lives due to their work.

So why would anyone, knowing this, defend the use of such words in a public place?

 

[Froddy]

I like this forum but it's taken a while to get used to the atmosphere and I do still tend to just lurk, I do think it's brilliant for advice and help.

The reason I lurk is because when I first joined I had been "out" of the horse world for some years and had just returned and I'd never heard of Parelli so I started a thread, in all innocence but quite genuine because I didn't have a clue about it and had noticed the negativity towards it, to ask what it was about (I have since found out why ). I was absolutely jumped on, accused of being a troll, all sorts and it scared the shite out of me tbh I knew the horsey world could be critical but that was something else

I didn't come back here for ages after that experience because quite honestly I was shocked at the response I'd got from what I thought was a quite genuine question. I did eventually start to read again and I'm glad I have because I really like it here.

Anyway after all that the point is the thing that annoys me is the reception some newbies get, which I've noticed occasionally still happens. Maybe the subject I chose to post about was controversial, which now I know it was, but sometimes people are genuine and should be given the benefit of the doubt even if they appear to be asking daft questions.

I won't offer cookies, cake, beer or anything else yummy for reaching the end of this for fear of upsetting the poster who was upset about not receiving anything in the past

 

[FionaM12]

Oo yes, and before I dash to work, after my preachy post above something more light hearted about things which irritate:

Please: there's no such word as "alot", and "menage" is a household, the arena you ride your horse in is a manege (don't know how to do an accent).

Now I'm off to work before people come in to say they hate preachy posts and pedants who fuss about spelling.

 

[Wagtail]

People trying to be popular.

 

[Parker79]

I also hate it when people ask a genuine question and get really nasty comments about 'being a novice' etc.

Overweight/Underweight debates that get out of hand.

I have shut my computer a few times when stuff gets too nasty on here...I think life is too short

 

[Nightmare before Christmas]

Very personal one, but I hate reading about people praising magnetic boots/rugs ect.

As I say its personal, I did a University study into the effects of magnets on blood flow, heat and healing. It took flipping ages and guess what....they have no effect.

Not only that but there is not one study out there that says they do anything!

Baffles me how companies can even sell them suggesting they work at all!

So now when I see people 100% positive that they work I understand why they 'work'. The placebo effect, people believe they work because someone else said they do.

I think uni makes me grumpy.....

 

[ester]

when people offer wine/choccies/cake for reading posts.

I have yet to receive anything

Measles sent me tablet as promised

 

[rhino]

But there are one or two things that annoy me. Perhaps the worst one, is when people post asking for help, but only answer those posters who tell them what they want to hear. They have made their mind up and really are just posting so everyone will pat them on the back and say they are right. When it doesn't go their way, they flounce.

Yes, or when the title of the thread is so vague you have no idea what it's about. Then you click on it and find it's nothing of interest.

Yes, spelling and grammar gets on my nerves too. Though I always try never to mention it.

I hate it too when someone posts and gets loads of help and support, then does not even say thanks.

Completely agree! They ruin so many interesting threads doing that. I keep clicking on to see what has been posted and am constantly disappointed to see it is just a continuation of the banter.

Ooh, I'd forgotten about THAT one. I have seen it happen quite recently. I think that behaviour is completely under the belt, and says a lot about the person using that tactic, and it's not good.

People trying to be popular.

Do you enjoy being annoyed wagtail, 'cos if a forum annoyed me so much I'd be tempted to find another

Not aimed at you, but it seems that a lot of people are annoyed at things that are easily remedied. If you don't find a certain poster interesting, you could always not read their threads. If someone's posts irritate or annoy you, you could put them on UI. If you don't like advertising, you can report it. If you're not interested in a thread's direction, you can unsubscribe from it.

Otherwise does it really matter if people want to post lots of pictures of their horse, who they adore and are proud of, don't share the same opinions, sense of humour etc., etc as you?

Otherwise I think it would be a good idea to realise that this is IPC's forum, and everyone agrees to abide by the terms etc. when they sign up. If anyone wants things done differently, or if they think they have the right to dictate to others what they should and shouldn't be posting, perhaps they could think about setting up their own forum? The ongoing popularity of HHO seems to suggest it does have plenty going for it

Is it just human nature that people would rather post negatives on threads such as this than positives as on the newer thread? I don't know, but it always happens that way on here.

 

[Wagtail]

Do you enjoy being annoyed wagtail, 'cos if a forum annoyed me so much I'd be tempted to find another

Not aimed at you, but it seems that a lot of people are annoyed at things that are easily remedied. If you don't find a certain poster interesting, you could always not read their threads. If someone's posts irritate or annoy you, you could put them on UI. If you don't like advertising, you can report it. If you're not interested in a thread's direction, you can unsubscribe from it.

Otherwise does it really matter if people want to post lots of pictures of their horse, who they adore and are proud of, don't share the same opinions, sense of humour etc., etc as you?

Otherwise I think it would be a good idea to realise that this is IPC's forum, and everyone agrees to abide by the terms etc. when they sign up. If anyone wants things done differently, or if they think they have the right to dictate to others what they should and shouldn't be posting, perhaps they could think about setting up their own forum? The ongoing popularity of HHO seems to suggest it does have plenty going for it

Is it just human nature that people would rather post negatives on threads such as this than positives as on the newer thread? I don't know, but it always happens that way on here.

Oh goodness me. This is supposed to be a light-hearted thread! These are not things which make me actually feel bad, but just make me feel

Lighten up.

 

[rhino]

Oh goodness me. This is supposed to be a light-hearted thread! These are not things which make me actually feel bad, but just make me feel

Lighten up.

Perfectly 'light' thank you, hence the If all people want to do is whine and moan, then fine, but hey, at least I was offering something constructive Really can't win!

Things obviously annoy people enough for them to comment repeatedly, as we have the same thread every couple of months, but now I think I understand that people just like moaning Sorted.

 

[JFTDWS]

It really annoys me when people post things like "lighten up" to posts which were clearly written in good humour

 

[bluewhippet]

I think some people misunderstand the point about "bad" words. Spastic for example was once the general term for a person with cerebral palsy. People with cp have limited dexterity, therefore when someone was clumsy, dropped things etc "spastic" or "spaz" were used as an insult.

It's a derogatory term meaning you're clumsy or useless, like a person with cerebral palsy. Likewise, mongol or "mong" came from people thinking Down's Synrome people looked like they come from Mongolia . If someone was acting stupid they'd be called a mong, ie stupid like a Down's Syndrome person.

Now, I understand some people might use these terms not knowing this is what they mean or among their friends and family in private "not meaning it that way" but this forum isn't private. There will be people who read this who themselves have these disabilities, or whose family members do, or like me have many disabled people in their lives due to their work.

So why would anyone, knowing this, defend the use of such words in a public place?

Could not agree more. Was getting very frustrated with people defending the use of these words and think you have taken the words out of my mouth (and made them more articulate!).

 

[Meowy Catkin]

Please: there's no such word as "alot", and "menage" is a household, the arena you ride your horse in is a manege (don't know how to do an accent).

Now I'm off to work before people come in to say they hate preachy posts and pedants who fuss about spelling.

Sorry Fiona, but I have to pick up on this.

Due to the most vile woman that I have ever met correcting me in a very nasty way when I said menage (the same way that I have heard it pronounced from when I was a small child - said by novice riders right up to very experienced people) I refuse to say or spell it the so called 'correct' way.

I tend to use sand school/indoor school/outdoor school on here. I still say menage in real life and will happily do so till I die (possibly pathetic on my part, but she really was a nasty piece of work and every time it's corrected I think of her ).

 

[JFTDWS]

JFTD annoys me as I always read your name as just finding the decorations now and it's been 6 months!

You're a knob.

*flounces off*

 

[Arabelle]

Could not agree more. Was getting very frustrated with people defending the use of these words and think you have taken the words out of my mouth (and made them more articulate!).

I think some people misunderstand the point about "bad" words. Spastic for example was once the general term for a person with cerebral palsy. People with cp have limited dexterity, therefore when someone was clumsy, dropped things etc "spastic" or "spaz" were used as an insult.

It's a derogatory term meaning you're clumsy or useless, like a person with cerebral palsy. Likewise, mongol or "mong" came from people thinking Down's Synrome people looked like they come from Mongolia . If someone was acting stupid they'd be called a mong, ie stupid like a Down's Syndrome person.

Now, I understand some people might use these terms not knowing this is what they mean or among their friends and family in private "not meaning it that way" but this forum isn't private. There will be people who read this who themselves have these disabilities, or whose family members do, or like me have many disabled people in their lives due to their work.

So why would anyone, knowing this, defend the use of such words in a public place?

Agree, that was what I was getting at. It is all very well to be 'tra la la, they are just words to me', but the point is they are not 'just words' to other people, so why continue to use them when their derogatory connotations have been explained to you?

 

[Anglebracket]

The lack of single, rich, handsome men wanting to marry me. That's annoying.

Some sort of luxury car appreciation forum might be your better bet.

What annoys me is the uneven ness of replies.

Peopl go to the trouble of taking and posting pics for folk just not to bother replying DESPITE opening the thread to look.

If I open a thread I reply even if it is just well done, that really annoys me when you get lovely reports or updates on members and there are 200 views and one reply.

Shame on people really

I find it quite difficult to respond to these types of posts. It just feels slightly awkward and a little patronising to tell a complete stranger that they have done well. Once I feel I know the poster a bit better it gets easier to say well done. I am not sure whether I am the only one who feels this way; but this might be why many look and few respond.

 

[Wagtail]

It really annoys me when people post things like "lighten up" to posts which were clearly written in good humour

Oh lighten up.

 

[Jesstickle]

Now, I understand some people might use these terms not knowing this is what they mean or among their friends and family in private "not meaning it that way" but this forum isn't private. There will be people who read this who themselves have these disabilities, or whose family members do, or like me have many disabled people in their lives due to their work.

So why would anyone, knowing this, defend the use of such words in a public place?

I'm absolutely not saying use them in public Fi. Definitely not. And I don't think I am (or at least I hope I'm not) a particularly rude and offensive poster. I'm just not going to be made out to be some awful person for admitting that I say things which are less than PC to my friends in private.

 

[Jingleballs]

People who have a strop when people don't reply to their threads?

So full of their own self importance that they deem it compulsory for people to reply - maybe they need to consider that their posts aren't interesting enough to merit a response?

I'm also no a fan of when threads are taken off topic by a clique of users - often its not nasty and just a bit of banter but can be a bit tedious to trawl through if you aren't in that clique.

On the flip side I love the honesty on here and the wealth of experience that people are willing to share!

 

[Roasted Chestnuts]

Some sort of luxury car appreciation forum might be your better bet.



I find it quite difficult to respond to these types of posts. It just feels slightly awkward and a little patronising to tell a complete stranger that they have done well. Once I feel I know the poster a bit better it gets easier to say well done. I am not sure whether I am the only one who feels this way; but this might be why many look and few respond.

We are all strangers on here haha The joys of forums, we all have things we dont like and do like about them, lots of life lessons can be shared on forums and whilst some you roll your eyes at others are actually rather entertaining

I dont see it as patronising have done it to a few people on here when the pictures are particularly nice OR when they are very pleased with themselves and their horses for accomplishing things.

Also the ones where people are asking for help but dont get it even if you dont know the answer bumping if so that people who do know see it is also helpful

 

[NeverSayNever]

hmm... the only thing that annoys me on here is the fact you cant hover over the thread title to get a 'preview' as you can on other forums.

sorry,lol it was all i could think of i love HHO, fast moving, informative with a wealth of experienced people, dog stuff, and just enough tom foolery, troll-ism and idiocy to keep things entertaining

 

[Roasted Chestnuts]

hmm... the only thing that annoys me on here is the fact you cant hover over the thread title to get a 'preview' as you can on other forums.

sorry,lol it was all i could think of i love HHO, fast moving, informative with a wealth of experienced people, dog stuff, and just enough tom foolery, troll-ism and idiocy to keep things entertaining

Love It!!!!

 

[ILuvCowparsely]

It really annoys me that people bitch and moan that I post pictures of a horse I adore. I'm not going to stop just put me on user ignore or dont read my threads

JFTD annoys me as I always read your name as just finding the decorations now and it's been 6 months!

I think its refreshing when people post pictures of their horses on here. Good to see some loved so much their owners want to share that with others.

I also call my schools arena or ménage. Many words in the British language have abreviations for them including words not in the dictionary like gr8 etc. To many on here waste more than enough time correcting others as they seem to think correcting someone will make a difference. If they spent time helping instead of correcting there would be less heated posts and discussions.

 

[PolarSkye]

What annoys me on here? Unnecessary rudeness and meanness. Not cool at all.

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[pixiebee]

This place is great. I love it. But there are one or two things that annoy me. Perhaps the worst one, is when people post asking for help, but only answer those posters who tell them what they want to hear. They have made their mind up and really are just posting so everyone will pat them on the back and say they are right. When it doesn't go their way, they flounce.

hmmm i think i know which thread this is about, and yes agree!

 

[pixiebee]

I quoted because I was going to comment on the first part but I would like a full on "high five" for the second as that was going to my other point to

1. I like photo threads, but I HATE threads entitled "Pictures and some jumping advice/results/report/..." where the photo is of the pony standing in the trailer / field / headshot etc. I want to see the pony doing its job, not looking pretty. I feel cheated as the thread was pretty much advertised to contain action shots No way I can comment more than once on a headshot - your horse is not so gorgeous that we will all be blown away by him and find new interesting things to say

sorry that made me giggle, *note to self...must post repeated headshots of same horse just for JFTD

 

[YorksG]

I'm absolutely not saying use them in public Fi. Definitely not. And I don't think I am (or at least I hope I'm not) a particularly rude and offensive poster. I'm just not going to be made out to be some awful person for admitting that I say things which are less than PC to my friends in private.

Don't think anyone did that tbh jesstickle, the original point was about a poster who used the word 'spastic' and then when I politely suggested that he change the word, was very rude. That poster was not using the word among intimate friends, but on a public forum and was jolly rude when asked not to! Just thought I should post the context of the discussion. There is a school of thought that says that language informs thought thugh, so may be worth thinking about.......