Things that annoy you on here

YorksG said:
Don't think anyone did that tbh jesstickle, the original point was about a poster who used the word 'spastic' and then when I politely suggested that he change the word, was very rude. That poster was not using the word among intimate friends, but on a public forum and was jolly rude when asked not to! Just thought I should post the context of the discussion. There is a school of thought that says that language informs thought thugh, so may be worth thinking about.......
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Well, below are the rather school ma'am-ish quotes aimed at me that I took umbrage to. But I'm probably being over sensitive ;) :) I'm sorry whoever said it was rude to you. Of course you were right. The forum is a terrible place to use words like that as you have no idea who is reading. FWIW no one has answered as to whether I can call someone fat yet? Or stupid?

Arabelle said:
But isn't that the point? They are just words to you. But to someone with cerebral palsy or Down's syndrome they are not 'just words' - they are offensive and derogatory terms. Why would you continue to use a word when it has been explained to you that it could be upsetting to some people whose lives are quite challenging enough anyway?
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Arabelle said:
Agree, that was what I was getting at. It is all very well to be 'tra la la, they are just words to me', but the point is they are not 'just words' to other people, so why continue to use them when their derogatory connotations have been explained to you?
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IMO
I don't think ANYONE should be ridiculed, teased, or words used like the fore mentioned word in any post. Adults and children alike who are mental impared with learning difficulties of any kind. The *S word I think its unkind to discribe anyone.

Those posters who have NO experiance of living with it themselves or a family member or friends who suffers from any form of illness be it learning, writing or behaving should NOT be ridiculed or made to look stupid.

I see it all to often in this forum Most of these people (including myself) might have a disability in one thing ususally do very well in another way.

This comes to light in another thread recently where the above is written down for all to see.

So sad we are not all perfect but thats life we can't change it we were born this way and no end of coments and ridicule will change things.
 
Leviathan said:
IMO
I don't think ANYONE should be ridiculed, teased, or words used like the fore mentioned word in any post. Adults and children alike who are mental impared with learning difficulties of any kind. The *S word I think its unkind to discribe anyone.
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I agree. :)

Re that word for describing an arena ;): All my life I thought it was a menage, until someone here told me it was a manege. I was really surprised, but they're right, and ever since I have to control my itchy finger not to correct people, as it's very rarely spelt right! :o

I do agree that life's too short to fuss too much about spelling though, it's far more important people get their point across in whatever style they can. I'm no great speller myself tbh.

There are times where someone writes so poorly it's actually impossible to understand, or in text-speak which many of us can't follow. Then I think it's fair enough to politely point out the writer will get a better response if people can understand them!

Sometimes though I think correcting spelling or grammar is used as a put-down, to make someone feel small, and I do think that's very mean-spirited.
 
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I hate ...

When people don't see things from other peoples point of view.

Tell people how to look after their horse just cos they wouldn't do it the same way.

Spiteful/ bitter replies.

Trolls!

And, heartless posters.

... That's all ;)
 
FionaM12 said:
I agree. :)

Re that word for describing an arena ;): All my life I thought it was a menage, until someone here told me it was a manege. I was really surprised, but they're right, and ever since I have to control my itchy finger not to correct people, as it's very rarely spelt right! :o

I do agree that life's too short to fuss too much about spelling though, it's far more important people get their point across in whatever style they can. I'm no great speller myself tbh.

There are times where someone writes so poorly it's actually impossible to understand, or in text-speak which many of us can't follow. Then I think it's fair enough to politely point out the writer will get a better response if people can understand them!

Sometimes though I think correcting spelling or grammar is used as a put-down, to make someone feel small, and I do think that's very mean-spirited.
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I always spell it wrong too then!

Note to self: manege not menage
 
FionaM12 said:
I agree. :)

Re that word for describing an arena ;): All my life I thought it was a menage, until someone here told me it was a manege. I was really surprised, but they're right, and ever since I have to control my itchy finger not to correct people, as it's very rarely spelt right! :o
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The menage/manege thing isn't a spelling thing, it's also a pronunciation thing. I say menage and I write menage. Yes, I know the English knicked the word from the French and screwed it up, but in England, now, if you want people to know what you are talking about without going through a whole dialogue about how we got the word wrong, its said, and spelt, menage IMO (ETA - though, in France from where it originates, it is said and spelt manege with an accent. Menage is a house or something, I forget. :o )
 
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Flame_ said:
The menage/manege thing isn't a spelling thing, it's also a pronunciation thing. I say menage and I write menage. Yes, I know the English knicked the word from the French and screwed it up, but in England, now, if you want people to know what you are talking about without going through a whole dialogue about how we got the word wrong, its said, and spelt, menage IMO (ETA - though, in France from where it originates, it is said and spelt manege with an accent. Menage is a house or something, I forget. :o )
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Actually, in the English dictionary it's manege (with an accent, but I don't know how to do those on the computer) :o
 
FionaM12 said:
Actually, in the English dictionary it's manege (with an accent, but I don't know how to do those on the computer) :o
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OK, but have you ever heard a horse person call a riding arena a man-ege in this country, or seen it spelt that way on a sign except on here? Maybe its a northern thing but I never have.
 
Flame_ said:
OK, but have you ever heard a horse person call a riding arena a man-ege in this country, or seen it spelt that way on a sign except on here? Maybe its a northern thing but I never have.
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I have and it don't get chavvier and less educated than Essex :eek:

eta, I've also seen it spelt correctly in Scotland (Glasgow, well, Helensburgh area) and Derbyshire :p
 
Flame_ said:
OK, but have you ever heard a horse person call a riding arena a man-ege in this country, or seen it spelt that way on a sign except on here? Maybe its a northern thing but I never have.
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Not a northern thing, but a French thing :)

ménage - household
manège - indoor school, arena
 
Flame_ said:
OK, but have you ever heard a horse person call a riding arena a man-ege in this country, or seen it spelt that way on a sign except on here? Maybe its a northern thing but I never have.
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I don't know that I ever seen it written anywhere else! Not sure whether you're talking about you or me when you say a Northern thing!?

I mean, Cheshire's South isn't it? ;):D




I think I'll just call it an arena from now on. :o
 
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Flame_ said:
LOL. I do wonder if it was only up north that got it wrong to begin with and we're just too stubborn to admit it and change to the right word. :o
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Ah you're resisting change as usual. East Anglia has always been a hotbed of reform and heretical thinking, due to its proximity to Europe, while the north and west lag behind in their old fashioned ways :D

Given that this is a lesson from the Reformation, and England is now a protestant country, I can only presume that in a few years time the same will be true for fake tans and vajazzle, which we will all be sporting :eek:
 
FionaM12 said:
I don't know that I ever seen it written anywhere else! Not sure whether you're talking about you or me when you say a Northern thing!?

I mean, Cheshire's South isn't? ;):D
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:eek: :mad: :p ;)

Ok it must just be the circles I move in then. :o I don't know why we're using flipping Franch words anyway, its the least we can do to alter them a bit. ;)
 
Actually, changing the subject a bit (who started this darned manege/menage thing anyway;)) something else I don't like:

I've no objection to someone posting a link to an advert from a site, because they think the horse is poor/broken too young/strange/other. However, sometimes people start poking fun at the people in the picture or the yard and background.

Sometimes people have a go about the scruffiness of the surroundings, but often it's the position or clothing of the rider, or their weight and general appearance.

I do find it odd the photos some sellers use to try to sell a horse, but tbh these threads make me very uncomfortable. I often wonder if the person whose appearance is being mocked ever stumbles onto the thread. :(

Such threads could well confirm some peoples' prejudices about the snobbery and bitchiness of horsey types. :o:(
 
FionaM12 said:
Actually, changing the subject a bit (who started this darned manege/menage thing anyway;)) something else I don't like:

I've no objection to someone posting a link to an advert from a site, because they think the horse is poor/broken too young/strange/other. However, sometimes people start poking fun at the people in the picture or the yard and background.

Sometimes people have a go about the scruffiness of the surroundings, but often it's the position or clothing of the rider, or their weight and general appearance.

I do find it odd the photos some sellers use to try to sell a horse, but tbh these threads make me very uncomfortable. I often wonder if the person whose appearance is being mocked ever stumbles onto the thread. :(

Such threads could well confirm some peoples' prejudices about the snobbery and bitchiness of horsey types. :o:(
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Hmm, I've not so much seen the fun been poked out, but the concern of an overweight rider on a yearling or 2yo pony, or people rolling about on a horse with no hat on to sell it.

Pan
 
jesstickle said:
Well, below are the rather school ma'am-ish quotes aimed at me that I took umbrage to. But I'm probably being over sensitive ;) :) I'm sorry whoever said it was rude to you. Of course you were right. The forum is a terrible place to use words like that as you have no idea who is reading. FWIW no one has answered as to whether I can call someone fat yet? Or stupid?
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Jesstickle, I note you read my posts as 'school ma'amish' :confused:

I in no way resemble a 'school ma'am' but I have decided to take it as a compliment as it seems to include a reluctance to use words like 'spastic' that, to me, sound cruel.

Along with other posters, I was merely suggesting you think a bit about some of the language that you admitted you had, up to now, used unthinkingly.
 
What annoys me about HHO?

The fact that logging on for a few minutes, inevitably, before you realise what has happened, has "wasted" several hours of my life........

And the fact that it tends to lead to the husband saying things like "aren't you going to do something useful" or "are you on the internet again" or "all you ever do is read stuff on your phone" :o
 
Kat said:
And the fact that it tends to lead to the husband saying things like "aren't you going to do something useful" or "are you on the internet again" or "all you ever do is read stuff on your phone" :o
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Isn't there a thread called "What annoys you about your husband?" for this? ;):D
 
I don't know whether I'm feeling particularly grumpy recently or what but I've noticed several posters getting huffy and insisting that they are experienced when others are offering good advice and yet it is obvious from what they have written they have very little experience and then later on in the thread they reveal that they are 16/only ever ridden at RS/shared one horse for a short time/ridden very well-behaved horses etc etc.

For some reason this definitely winds me up. Why can't people be realistic/truthful? And accept that if you ask on HHO for opinions, that is what you will get!
 
Agree pearlsasinger. And people asking for treatment/diagnosis of veterinary problems. I don't mean stuff like second opinions, others experiences or thoughts when a vet has been involved already. But asking for advice instead of calling a vet first. To my way of thinking whatever your level of experience, if you don't know what's wrong, how to treat it or worse both, you ring a vet & at least get their advice over the phone rather than asking on a forum.
 
Those posts where people declare they: don't rug/horses live out/are barefoot/only feed hay and then declare "oh gosh aren't I cruel - I'll be shot down by the traditionalists for being a fluffy bunny giggle giggle giggle" - the post is inevitably followed by about 300 similar posts with people trying to outdo each other "live out... mine lived out in the gale of 1989!!" etc etc. Everyone giggling and being smug that they are in a minority and will be seen as "weird" by the traditionalists.

I have yet to find those majority of posters that the people above think they are in the minority to on here who do rug their horses in about 6 rugs, keep them stabled for 23 hours a day, shoe them and feed them bucket loads of mix because we don't hear from them very often!
 
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