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Right now im a bit annoyed with one of my friends, now im the kind of person who will help anyone who needs it but at the moment im feeling slightly put on.

A month ago she lost her beloved pony to old age and decided that she was going to buy a 2 year old colt as a companion for her other eldery pony.

Anyway off she went and brought this lovely welsh D colt and brought him home.

Now both her and her sisters are not really horsey, they look after their animals (well their mom does) and ride every few months or so around the block.

So here they are with this young colt and basically the second he was put in their field i get a phone call to come around and tell them what they are going to have to do with him.

I have explained that they needed to get him used to being handled (as up to this point in his life he hasnt) and this needed to be dont as often as possible.

Anyway since they have had him i have had to do the following.

Get him used to being groomed
Taught him how to be led and stand
Got him to pick his feet up
Lunged him in walk only
Got him to accept a bit for the first time

And today i they have had me walking him up the lane and back as well as holding him while cars and caravans go past.

Hes a wonderful colt who has taken everything in his stride but i just feel like im being put on as whenever anything new has to be done my mate makes up excuses (like today it was that her hands hurt) So i end up doing it.

If anything hes bonding with me where he should be bonding with her.

I may as well offer to buy him as im doing all the bloody work!!!
 
I think may be you should tell your "friend", Cus how do you no she does not use this site!!!! it's a small world at times. Best to tell her/them and if need to, move on... and get some one else.... I'v also been there too and after a while it's no fun
and its starts to get you down.
 
I know for a fact that she doesnt use this site because she does not own a computer and as i said is not horsey so wouldnt think to look for a horse forum, infact im positive she doesnt even know what a forum is.

I will be talking to her tomorrow as she is my friend and as much as i am prepared to help i just want her to step up to her own responsibility.

Im just thinking of the right way to approach the subject.
 
Stop this now otherwise he'll be a big strong 4 year old before you know it and it'll still be you left to do the hard work!
If she doesnt want to be involved then a 2year old was the wrong thing to get.

Shes your friend and you want to help but i think you should take a step back, this horse isnt your responsibilty!
 
I understand what your saying missb and i do agree.

He turned 2 in June and is already standing at 14.3hh and i know his full brother is 4 and 16hh (they breed big welsh D's on that stud lol)

I know that they are not handling him at all during the week to be honest as she herself admits she just doesnt have time and her sisters have young children etc.

I know that with the right help and support this colt will mature into a stunning gelding, infact i wouldnt be suprised if he doesnt end up at the Royal Welsh lol hes lovely, a real sweetie.

Shes my mate and i do understand that shes pushed for time etc but i agree she should not of brought a youngster when her older horse died, its not fair on the colt.
 
I got stuck like this and ended up getting badly hurt It's not worth it if it's not your pony. I know how hard it is to say no though when you see someone making a pigs ear of something!
 
i have the same problem with helping out friends, im too nice to say no! sounds like you are doing a lot tho, why dont you see if you can loan/buy the colt off her as it doesnt really seem like shes interested in him?
 
See thats the thing, she does care for him and does what she can, she just doesnt know alot about handling youngsters (mind you i only know certain things from working on a stud farm for a few years im far from a expert)

I have mentioned to her that if she isnt very confident with him then she will need to consider getting a professional in to advise.
 
Maybe she might consider paying you for your time and effort if you would be prepared to do that. Then you won't feel taken for granted and she will start to appreciate just how much time and commitment a young horse takes
 
See thats the thing since my mom started working shifts as well as working a full time job every night i have to exercise and feed my lad, Indiana, then feed My moms horse Rolo and then exercise my loan pony everynight before getting home.

I just dont have the time to take on the responsibility of her youngster as well.

I think im just gonna have to sit my friend and her sisters down and tell them straight that they need to pull their finger out.
 
I think you have to explain, nicely, that while you don't mind helping out occasionally, that you just don't have time to work with her youngster as often as he needs.
Is it at all possible to suggest she sell him and buy something older that can just be a companion?
 
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