thinking of giving up horses

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been thinking about giving up horses, i hardly ride,infact havent ridden for 3 weeks, as much as i like riding i havent missed it all that much tbh.

i have sundays off as a girl rides jay in return for doing both of them & i really enjoy not going up & having to do everything

i spend almost £400 a month on what really are big pets, i dont do anything other than the horses,it takes up so much time & money,i dont drive,but the money i would need for lessons is used on the horses,who always need something else.

the money i would get from selling would pay for driving lessons & for me to go back to uni.

tbh, if i sell jay & fizz i dont think i would ever get something else,& at the moment i am not sure on what to do

mark says its up to me as they are mine even though he pays for them & is happy to carry on paying for them.

dont really know what to do
 
ooo, poor you it really is a horrible descision to make!! it sounds like for you it would be the best thing, but if you really wanted to have something to do with them you could get a shetland as a pet, if your garden is big enough it could even stay there
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byt he sounds og it you really want to drive and going to uni sounds like a great idea! it will open up so many options, you never know, you could go back to horses, but if your future is more important and horses arnt it, or are holding you back then it sounds to me like it would be best. being completely honest!! hope you make the best descision for you.
 
Sometimes i know how you feel especially when i am trying to push a round bale of haylage through ankle deep mud up a hill, but then there are the good days like having a massive snuggle with them, that is what keeps me going. I wouldnt rush yourself into a decition, think long and hard because once they have been sold you have lost them.Good luck with it all. x
 
Maybe you should try loaning them out over the summer and see how much you miss it then. I think its easy to get fed up with it all in the winter. I put a pony of mine out on loan as a teenager as I hardly ever rode her, unfortunately she was PTS due to colic. But I ended up paying to ride at riding schools as I just couldn't cope with not riding. Maybe a break, if possible, would help you be sure your making the right decision
 
I am feeling exactly the same at the moment I have one horse seriously ill in the veterinary hospital and have deciced that if she doesn't make it I will not have any more.
All my horsey friends say I will change my mind but I'm not so sure,I keep thinking that with the money I save we could be on holiday somewhere hot and sunny not messing about in rain and mud!
good luck what ever you decide
 
was talking about this yesterday. Weve put it down to the waeather because its been so poor to ride. Give it till the spring then youll realise why you have them as youll be able to ride everyday and when the weather is nicer its certainly great to be out riding and being around the horses.
 
thank you everyone.

i think its the fact i spend so much time travelling to the horses & back that i have no time to ride them etc,summer doesnt improve much as i have the kids with me so cant ride, hubby works shifts so he cant always have them.

tried for sharers but they all wanted me to pay them or only to ride weekends & do no work
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I suspect that deep down you know what you want to do but need other people to reassure you it's ok. So yes, whichever decision it is - it's ok. We have to make the best of the 1 life we get.
 
Not a nice decision to make and by the sounds of it you have pretty much decided!.Would it cut down on any work/time/money for you to maybe sell one and keep one and see how that goes??.I'm sure you will make the right choice for you.Good luck with whatever you decide!!l
 
Tricky decision, have to say if I was in your position I would sell. Simply because I am someone who needs to live life to the full. My horses live around me, obviously I would never inflict Oshk on anybody but myself or Bekka, but I too enjoy other people coming up and riding mine and Bekkas and Jos because its something less for me to do. I curse this damned sport every Saturday morning when I leave my nice warm bed and B for the cold sickening mornings to plait up with luke warm coffee, cold fingers and more often than not a disgusting hang over. But this is something that I love- the challenge of sixth form, horses exercised and tucked up to bed and down the pub sparkly clean for 9pm- I live for it. I have a lot of help from parents, I often talk of selling Oshk but we have come so far, I have done everything to stop myself from doing it, including the sale of Mar and Gem
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But you have to do everything to make yourself happy, thats what life is meant to be...
 
thanks.

problem is one is my kids pony,shes 11.1hh, the other is my horse.

went down the route just after i had my 2nd child of selling my boy,had him from 6 moths old & sold him after 13 years so my girls could keep there pony, dont know if i could do that again
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i've given up twice already and im 28, but always find excuses to start up again.
i think once its in your blood you never go horse less for long.
if i was in your shoes, i think i would sell as learning to drive is 1 of the best things i have ever done.
you can always get another horse later on.
best of luck in deciding.
 
oh no Im sorry to hear you are feeling this way.

I woudl loan them out before selling them and see how much you miss them, afterall once they are sold they are gone for good, at least if you loan them you can decide if not being around them is a good thing or a bad thing and you wont have lost them if you change your mind.
 
from the siggy your horses look lovely, I agree try and loan for winter and see if you feel more confident and better in the spring summer, after you have had lessons on an ad-hoc basis? Then no pressure.
 
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