SavvyTaylorMinogue
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I will start if by admitting "yes I am "that" adult beginner rider who went out and bought a horse".
I did grow up with horses and of course after not riding for 15 years I got back into weekly lessons and after a further 12ish months bought my first horse as an adult.
Just after some advice/suggestions/a springboard for thoughts.
I have had Rufus now for 4months who is a 12yo Cleveland Bay who was retired from eventing 2 years ago after injuring his suspensory ligaments, was rehabed and all cleared but not for anything above 60cm, light schooling and hacking.
He was trained with his previous owner up to Elementry in dressage but after his injury his previous owner just didn't feel he had the heart or love any more and she had aspirations for moving up.
Now he is a big solid boy and he knows it, can have attitude and can be extremely stubborn/lazy - I was aware when I purchased.
To say the 4 months has been roller-coaster is an understatement.
He definitely took a while to settle in to his new environment.
He wouldn't let me pick up his feet, he's pushy, super food dominant, fidgety and impatient in the cross ties, paws at the ground in the cross ties, paced back & forth and behaves like a bit of a pig - picture a small child being dragged around. I realised very quickly how spoilt I was to have ponies/horses as a kid that just did everything with ease (mostly) and I have never encountered this level of stubbornness or 'testing'.
From word go he baulked and naps and I could not get him to go (yes it trialled him first and it was fine) I did everything you could imagine in terms of nose to foot, increasing leg pressure, kicking increasing crop - he just goes dead to it, turning/circling, rewarding minute movements etc but when he decideds no, he means no and he could keep it up for an hour but of course my trainer has no issues (mostly) with him.
My agistment (livery) yard is also does training/re-education and has a rising school my current trainers were and are always positive that he's a good horse but he is hard work but will teach you lots type of attitude and that I am just too soft.
He did 2 weeks with the trainer and was like a new horse, calm settled and all tuned up.
We were in a good rhythm of 45mins in the school 3 x per week, 1 lesson with my coach/trainer I had just started building his confidence to hack by taking him on short strolls 10-15mins after schooling sessions. Our lessons were not perfect, but we'd worked on him picking up his feet and had been having a lot "wins" during our rides the past 3.5 weeks post his bootcamp.
And then this week it all changed, he has 3 days off Wed, Thurs Friday and yesterday we were back to day 1. Flat out refusal to move, I managed a half lap of trot in one direction, lots of spinning, side passes, waited him out etc and after 60minutes I gave up.
He does bounce/hop around, backs up, kicks out, turns to nip at my foot etc which in the past did scare me but I am past this as with my trainer we have discovered all empty threats (I was scared of rearing).
I realise he is testing me and my leadership and it's frustrating, I've been working on it, ground work exercises etc but I find that every thing I read or every video I watch they never show what happens when whatever advice or suggestion they give does not work when your out there on your own doing it - I cannot even get him to lunge.
I do work on things like this in my lessons and of course they go fine but I cannot literally have a trainer/coach by my side every minute - who again tells me he is the perfect horse to learn with because he does not have malice, well trained and beautifully trained we just have to get past this.
I'm feeling very deflated as I know sending him back for training won't fix it all, he'll come back amazing for a few weeks and tuned up but I haven't done anything because I realize I am clearly the problem but I am at a loss as how to keep working on it and how much time I should give it.
I feel stuck especially as I cannot have another outside instructor/coach come to our facility for ground work specific lessons and I currently cannot float out.



I did grow up with horses and of course after not riding for 15 years I got back into weekly lessons and after a further 12ish months bought my first horse as an adult.
Just after some advice/suggestions/a springboard for thoughts.
I have had Rufus now for 4months who is a 12yo Cleveland Bay who was retired from eventing 2 years ago after injuring his suspensory ligaments, was rehabed and all cleared but not for anything above 60cm, light schooling and hacking.
He was trained with his previous owner up to Elementry in dressage but after his injury his previous owner just didn't feel he had the heart or love any more and she had aspirations for moving up.
Now he is a big solid boy and he knows it, can have attitude and can be extremely stubborn/lazy - I was aware when I purchased.
To say the 4 months has been roller-coaster is an understatement.
He definitely took a while to settle in to his new environment.
He wouldn't let me pick up his feet, he's pushy, super food dominant, fidgety and impatient in the cross ties, paws at the ground in the cross ties, paced back & forth and behaves like a bit of a pig - picture a small child being dragged around. I realised very quickly how spoilt I was to have ponies/horses as a kid that just did everything with ease (mostly) and I have never encountered this level of stubbornness or 'testing'.
From word go he baulked and naps and I could not get him to go (yes it trialled him first and it was fine) I did everything you could imagine in terms of nose to foot, increasing leg pressure, kicking increasing crop - he just goes dead to it, turning/circling, rewarding minute movements etc but when he decideds no, he means no and he could keep it up for an hour but of course my trainer has no issues (mostly) with him.
My agistment (livery) yard is also does training/re-education and has a rising school my current trainers were and are always positive that he's a good horse but he is hard work but will teach you lots type of attitude and that I am just too soft.
He did 2 weeks with the trainer and was like a new horse, calm settled and all tuned up.
We were in a good rhythm of 45mins in the school 3 x per week, 1 lesson with my coach/trainer I had just started building his confidence to hack by taking him on short strolls 10-15mins after schooling sessions. Our lessons were not perfect, but we'd worked on him picking up his feet and had been having a lot "wins" during our rides the past 3.5 weeks post his bootcamp.
And then this week it all changed, he has 3 days off Wed, Thurs Friday and yesterday we were back to day 1. Flat out refusal to move, I managed a half lap of trot in one direction, lots of spinning, side passes, waited him out etc and after 60minutes I gave up.
He does bounce/hop around, backs up, kicks out, turns to nip at my foot etc which in the past did scare me but I am past this as with my trainer we have discovered all empty threats (I was scared of rearing).
I realise he is testing me and my leadership and it's frustrating, I've been working on it, ground work exercises etc but I find that every thing I read or every video I watch they never show what happens when whatever advice or suggestion they give does not work when your out there on your own doing it - I cannot even get him to lunge.
I do work on things like this in my lessons and of course they go fine but I cannot literally have a trainer/coach by my side every minute - who again tells me he is the perfect horse to learn with because he does not have malice, well trained and beautifully trained we just have to get past this.
I'm feeling very deflated as I know sending him back for training won't fix it all, he'll come back amazing for a few weeks and tuned up but I haven't done anything because I realize I am clearly the problem but I am at a loss as how to keep working on it and how much time I should give it.
I feel stuck especially as I cannot have another outside instructor/coach come to our facility for ground work specific lessons and I currently cannot float out.