Those with non-horsey OH.

My boifs a townie, never seen a 'real' horse before he got with me. I broke him in slowly and he soon started mucking out, riding etc etc.

Now, however, he hates them. And will sit in the car playing on his phone whilst I see to them. All he does is moan about them.

Takes the enjoyment out of having them if I'm being totally honest...
 
What a shame the novelty wore off Prittstick but from reading this thread I think you're not alone... My OH doesn't come to the yard very often, which is fine because he's got his own stuff to do, but on the rare occasion he does he says he immediately gets a splitting headache! Much the same as I do when we visit a shopping mall or DIY shop...
 
scatty_mare said:
This is a lovely post :)

I have been encouraging him to get some better hobbies than his current ones which are:

watching F1

darts

digging.

Is it normal for someone to love digging? I think he was a labrador in a past life.
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My daughter was reading this over my shoulder and we both laughed out loud! My husband asked what was funny and when we told him he went "humph, well I quite like digging too!" - cue lots of snorts of laughter from my teenage daughter!

My husband is completely non-horsey and completely disinterested in him. I swear he couldn't pick him out if he visited the yard, he is palamino and is turned out with 2 coloured horses!!! He sees my gelding about once a year usually if he drops by the yard to ask me something.

We did have a time when he seemed to resent my horse, but he is obsessed with cycling, so we have worked quite a good compromise now, so he gets to cycle, i get to ride and the kids don't get neglected!

TBH the only time it is an issue is when we are trying to arrange a holiday (and I'm a bit non-commital until i know i have cover for my horse) or when i need some help (I am useless with a drill!) but that is not that often.

Any comments that were made about "huh, suppose you're off to feed your horse again" were met with "yes, having just walked and fed YOUR dog".

My husband is very generous so i have never had an issue about how much it costs to keep the horse, although i am still working on the whole, need to buy a field issue!!!!
 
I've never asked my OH for any money for the horses or otherwise which is why I resent the implications to the contrary from him and his family. I admit that my financial decisions (especially where my daughter/horses are concerned) haven't all been wise, but honestly no one but me has borne the direct costs and nor would I ask them to.

The OH is not poor, he sold a house and banked the proceeds, he had other investments and financially has done very well from living with me, half the household bills + about £200 shopping a month represents less than half his monthly income, if he is so desperate to go on holiday or for days out for destinations beyond my affordability then it really wouldn't kill him to pay for us both. There are also plenty of nice things we could do that don't cost money, but we never seem to do them. If he would rather hold on to his dosh til it squeaks I don't care, at least I have my escape.
 
I have a non-horsey OH but he is very tolerant - However i was so surprised when viewing a potential new horse that on the way home he chirped up "of course he is chunky enough to carry my weight"!!! Turns out OH has been hankering after a ride for a while and wants to try western (has only had a couple of lessons with my persuasion in the past) but due to my horse he has never brought up the fact that he would like to join in as knew we could not afford two (we had a 15.1hh fine ex racer who was very sadly PTS) but she was completely unsuitable for him to get involved - needless to say i made the owner an offer on the new horse pretty sharpish still waiting for the outcome though! :D

p.s He now loves to poo pick as yard has brought a “workhorse” equestrian golf buggy he loves zooming around the paddock in that! :rolleyes:
 
I LOVE this thread... Me and my bf have only just got together really and hes been to see my boys once so far.
He never really asks how they are, what iv done with them etc and he gets annoyed when instead of being at his at 8 like i said its more like 9 because I got carried away with the horses and I feel bad because he buys me presents and I never have any money to go on day trips with him let alone buy presents :(

I was feeling a bit guilty because I really like him so want to make it work when I saw this thread... So I asked him straight out if he hated the fact the horses took up all my time/money and his reply was no because it makes you happy :) Maybe there is hope yet and after reading some comments I hope I can get him into horses and willing to come out when I ride/help at yard etc as I feel bad sometimes that hes not included and I want him to be interested in my hobby.

Still guess you cant have everything and the fact hes understanding should be enough!
 
My husband is completely non horsey and I do feel guilty a great deal of the time, he hasn't quite ended up with what the thought he was getting, he married a woman who had a horsey history but a fall shattering her ankle into bits to small to try to pin or plate so her riding career ended, horses gone and the horsey life left behind completely as the accident and all that followed was just to emotionally painful to stay in the horsey world. What he has now is a wife who fell back into the horse world when she unwittingly made friends with all the horsey Mums at playgroup. Started with daughter beginning riding lessons paid for by helping out at the yard a couple of hours a week and now he has a wife who is starting a business as a free lance groom, works 2 days a week at the riding school and getting more and more bits of work coming in, he spends most of his Saturdays working round mine and daughters riding, through the summer many Sundays with the children at shows while I groom for people and feeling a bit ganged up against with the horsey wife, the pony mad 6 year old daughter and 3 year old son who can't wait to be 4 so he can start riding!
All that said he is very good and has encouraged me all the way getting back into horses and back in the saddle. He is backing me up and helping any way he can with setting myself up in business (this year is the build up and prep to go for it next year when both children at full time school). He isn't horsey, knows nothing much about horses and has no real interest to learn but he is still my rock and I couldn't do any of it without his support and encouragement. I do repay the favor by listening to him talk about Taekwondo, taking the clan to cheer him on when ever he is competing and encouraging the children to take an interest in his sport although nothing takes over life quite like horses do!
 
laurah1986 said:
Mine is like that too! We're going to your horse live and he's said I can kit my boy out properly for winter when we go as he's trashed most of his rugs! Thank you for congrats, I'm so excited and a little bit scared. He's amazing, he talks to his friends at work (he's a nurse and so mainly women and quite a few horsey) if I'm having any issues with pony and comes back with suggestions. Like when he had colic he came home saying - have you tried pink powder cos apparently that's probiotics and is meant to be really good for a healthy gut and condition and stuff' do now the boy us doing very well on pink powder. God love him, he's a star. X x
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Always thought that horses were the be all and end all, but I wouldnt be without my two boys! Glad you've got a good one too! :P
 
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