Threatened by a liveries husband !

First of all tell everybody you can including your OH. Dont be threatend by anybody, your paying to keep your horse there you have as much right as everybody else to be there and enjoy your horse.

Can you move to a different stable away from her? Or even swap with someone on the yard.
 
I don't see how she can impose her own "rules" on you. It is for the YO or YM to set the rules. Yes she ask that your horses are brought in togther. As i was first in the yard i used to let the other liveries leave their covered feeds and i would feed all 10 or 11 horses at the same time - made for a nicer time than listening to them banging their doors whilst mine were fed. But that was co-operation.
I would certainly tell YM about the nasty bloke, there is no way you should put up with that.
((hugs)) you are having a rough time :(
 
Bloody hell, what is it with some people??

NO-ONE on my yard gets to make their own rules, I'd eat them and they know this...

...and as for threatening anyone....bad move!

'See that gate dear? Use it.....and it WON'T welcome you back....'...

How I hate bullies.....

GRRRRRRRRRRrrrr......
 
Being a bloke I would sort it myself, but you being a female and on your own you will have to sort it differently.

Nip this in the bud and make an official complaint to the police, or you will be
walking on eggshells for the rest of the time you are there.

I would also have a word with the YO/YM as this just aint gonna get better and this person will take the pisss continually, maybe put it all in writing and make it as official as possible.
 
I would be having serious words with the YO/YM - liveries dont get to make the rules and this woman, regardless of OCD conditions, needs to realise this. The quicker you get this dealt with the easier you and your ponios can settle into the yard. I would also be mentioning the threat from the husband - even if it was just in a "giving you a heads up" way rather than a "do something about it" way as you have no witnesses and he can just deny it anyway - also a good idea to report it to the police purely so that they have a record of the matter. That way if it does come to anything you have it on file and can use it.

Hope everything goes ok for you hun :)
 
He sounds like such a man! I would speak to YO/YM purely to advise them that you are going to report this man to the police for threatening you and then see it through! I would also tell your husband! You do NOT have to put up with this from anyone, let alone a liveries husband! I'm afraid I am a bit of a scrapper and would have done what you did and more, would probably have goaded him just for the excuse to throw a punch and get all the anger with his wife out! I also think you should tell the livery that you will not tolerate her husband threatening you and that she shouldn't bring him to the yard when you are there in future!
 
Gingerwitch said:
What on earth have i done to deserve the latest problem at my new horse yard...... after feeling like no alternative on moving from my previous yard -after another livery turned his aggressive horse in to my horses field after being told not too and resulted in my lad being stapled and stiched up for over an hour and a half..... i moved to my old old yard.... welcomed back with open arms by yo and ym - went back to my old stables and was given a list of rules by the ocd neurotic person next to me.... I had a belly full of her the last time with dont put your horses hay in this corner of the stable, dont leave you feed her, dont put your headcollar there, dont bring your horse in before mine, dont turn your horse out till i am here, dont feed your horse before mine, dont feed your horse after mine, but needs must anyway after having a slightly heated discussion with said lady - about tying her horse out of the aisle as she has told me in no uncertain terms not to walk past her as she kicks....(my stables are past where this horse is tied) her husband arrived tonight and threatend me "when its quite and you are on your own, I will be your worse ****ing nightmare !" i laughed at him and stood him down and asked what type of a man he is to threaten a lone woman - but do i phone the police, do i go and see the yo and ym or do i just let it go ?

After loosing my gingerwitch, being crapped on at my old yard after moving to there when the adult only yard i was happy at turned into a nightmare kindergarten i feel like selling the whole lot up and keeping tropical fish.

suggestions or is it me?
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There are some serious oddballs out there!

Personally, I would go to the yard with the biggest, most intimidating fella I know & ask him to have a quiet word in that little turds shell-like. Bullies are cowards at the end of the day & generally shat themselves when confronted on their own.
 
I think I have echoed everyone hear and would say at the very least report the husband to YO/YM. They have a right to know what he is like. Surely they want to run a nice, pleasent yard without threats. Who knows if you are even the first that he is threatened! If his behaviour continues, dont even hesitate and report him to the police. If god-forbid anything does happen then you have something on record and a warning may be enough to stop his actions going any further.
 
Update - told hubby whilst we were away at the weekend... cant type what he said......

had spoke to both yo and ym on sat am..... liveries husband barred from yard... horse from hell is not to be tied in the aisle anymore

yippee.... common sense prevaials
 
Contact th epolie about him threatening you.

The YO makes the rules not another livery, confirm the "rules" with the YO and stick to those, if the other livery has got a problem she'll have to sort it out with the YO, should be the same rules for everyone.
 
Glad you got somewhere, people have got some nerve haven't they!

Still get the threat noted down with the police, just so it's on record, you never know what they might do next, and with the threat on file the police will have more to go on

T xxxxxx
 
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