Time to admit defeat and move on, feeling sad.

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Horseymumma

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After a long time trying to get on with my boy I have finally made the decision to find a horse more suited to my ability.

Feeling quite sad about it all really as I have tried everything to make it work and it just hasn't :( It's not his fault but I just don't think we are suited as a combination.

I am trying to stay positive but I feel like I have let my boy down by moving on.

I need a bit of moral support, how have others coped when it comes to selling their beloved friend? How have you ensured that they have gone to the right home?
 
I had the same decision to make, it was the hardest thing I've ever done but definitely the right thing to do. I now have the perfect equine partner, I don't regret it for a second.
Horse riding is meant to be fun, and it's an expensive hobby to have if you're not enjoying it.
Huge hugs x
 
I persevered for 4 years when I didn't click with my dream horse. The relief when I sold her was immense. She and I are far happier apart and my replacement big lad makes me soo happy.
 
A brave desision, we need to enjoy our horses. Good luck with finding a new friend for your self and your horse x
 
I haven't done it. But in hindsight maybe I should have with previous horse. Everything I did with him was such hard work. It actually wasn't until he retired and I got another that I realised what I had been missing
 
You having let him down its a very hard, but brave decision to make. I have had one of mine just over 2yrs & still haven't clicked with him have thought about selling him, but can't bring myself to do it :(
 
I know just how you feel, I've had my chap 6 years but he's just not the right horse for me (bought for my daughter but she's now away from home). I love him dearly but I know I would have a great deal more fun with something else. It's very, very hard making that decision and I imagine even harder trying to find the right home. Good Luck.
 
I've had mine nearly a year and am still umming and erring about whether to sell. I probably won't as I don't think anyone would take him right now, and he's had a lot of homes for no good reason so I think it's unfair. I suppose we must get on reasonably well, as I don't really want to ride anything else, even though I don't enjoy riding him much!... A lot of the time he acts like he hates me, and that level of apparent dislike is hard to ignore!

No real advice re selling but having had one I really didn't get on with before, I'd echo what others have said, it's a relief to put it behind you and move on. All the best for you both for the future.
 
I sold my first horse after 2 years - he was just too much for me and I was terrified of riding him. I have had to sell another 2 for other reasons but in each case I sold them to a trusted friend who is a RI. She got a bargain but I got peace of mind that the horses were going to a good home. She still has 2 of the 3 and I still see them.
 
Aww you're messages are all so nice. I do have to try and put my practical hat on and ignore the soppy, sentimental side that feels so bad about this and wants to try and try again to make it work :(

A friend said something to me today that helped - She said we aren't the only ones who love our horses. Someone out there will love your boy as much as you do.....It helped me when I started panicking about him ending up with someone who wouldn't treat him well. I just have to keep trying to remember this!
 
The only way you can let a horse down is by not caring or looking after them properly, if you offer your love, your understanding and meet his needs health wise and provide a happy environment for him to live in then you will never of let him down.
 
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