time wasters who dont really want to sell their horses

m3gan

m3gan

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Went to see a lovely little arab gelding yesterday, my OH drove me 400miles round trip to visit, after this lady contacted me about him. She emailed me all his details & have had loads of telephone conversations about him etc. I rode him out and he was lovely and ticked all the right boxes .
This evening I telephoned to say that I would like him and she starts saying that she wants photos of where he will be staying, i say thats Ok . Then she says she is worried about wether i am going to feed him properly as she previously sold a cob to her friend who didnt feed him properly, I could hardly believe my ears, i was so insulted that she could considersuch a thing. Then she said that it would be too far for her to visit him, i live in Devon, she up North. I have just emailed her and withdrawn my offer, and said that I am very offended by her and that she shouldnt try to sell her horse that she is too emotionally attached to sell. I am now very angry and have wasted a day off work plus petrol money!
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Poor you, I can certainly sympathise
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We once went to see a horse some 150 miles away - took my trainer with us to give opinion as it was so far - and he seemed perfect. I rode him up their little lane and round a field, did some flatwork and popped him over a little course, and although he wasnt an easy ride I got on soooo well with him! Trainer also gave the thumbs up, and whilst I was riding him round the field, mum discussed price etc with the owner and a deal seemed to be done. We said we'd ring back that eve to confirm...and when we did, they said they were sorry, but even though the horse had gone very well for me, they thought he would be 'too much' for a 12 yr old. Well, they could have said that before we travelled all that distance!
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Keep your chin up, and keep looking - the right one will be out there! It took us 23 goes to find Ellie!!!
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Thanks for your comiserations, I think what made things worse is that this is or should I say,was going to be the first time I have bought my very own horse . I have had loans or shares up until now. Hey never mind I am sure the right one is out there somewhere!!
 
were you maybe a little hasty withdrawing the offer? if this horse really was right for you

the lady was obviously feeling a bit jittery about letting the horse go , i would be too if he were my horse , & unfortunately tact is not everyones strong point , she quite possibly didn't mean to offend but maybe let her inner fears spill out without thinking about the way she phrased it & that you may construe it as a personal insult

hope you have a better experience next time
 
TBH I have had to fob the odd person off if I dont think they are suitable. If I put a horse up for sale, I plan to sell! But if someone who comes to see my horse doesn't suit it and I dont think my horse would be happy with then even if they say they love it, Im afraid I wouldnt sell to them. A lot of people are picky about who they sell to and I dont see why not. A horse isnt like a car, its something you can get very attached to so you only want the best for it!
 
Try not to take it personally - she's obviously had a bad experience in the past and is worried about ensuring this one goes to a suitable home.
Visiting after she has sold would be a bit much...I appreciate it's hard to let go, but still. I would wonder if she wasn't just saying that because she didn't feel the two of you were suited.
 
I also took a day off work un paid to go see a un broken youngster back in November & spent £45 on diesil, The horse was lovely but physically immature he was rising 4 but almost looked like a 2 year old, the lady selling said she wanted me to have him (long story) & knocked a fare bit off the price, when I got there she said that a girl wanted to take him on loan, when I left I said I would let her know but it would probably be a yes, drove 4 hours back via central London, next morning I call & she said sorry, I told the other girl she could take him on loan with view to buy, but in 6 month if she didn't want him would I still be interested? NO, This was after I told her that in my opinion the horse needed time to grow & catch up, that he should only be backed now then turned away until mid summer the day before. who gives an un broken baby on loan with view to buy any way??
 
Don't think I have ever been to see a horse without taking the trailer. If we like them, generally offer cash on the spot, might seem rash (as horse could be drugged), but I don't want to make return trips if driving over an hour away.

Worth adding we always bought the dodgy big horses, last one was £800 from a dodgy yard in Wales!!
 
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