Tips to persuade OH about new horse...

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Lost my main riding horse 3 years ago and haven't replaced her before due to various changes in personal circumstances. Anyway now I'm settled and ready for a new one... problem is, OH really isn't keen on horses. We got together after I lost my mare, and although I still have my childhood pony she's retired so OH hasn't really been involved with anything horsey. I'm pretty sure his dislike stems from a bad experience with a "mad horsewoman" ex, as he had lessons when he was a kid so he must have liked them once! So although he knows I'm not like that, he really hasn't been keen when I've talked about buying a new one.

I've just spotted the perfect youngster, in fact he's not even weaned yet. Haven't told OH, am planning to when he finishes work, as I'd like to go and see him. But does anyone have any tips on convincing OH?! I don't expect him to join in and start loving horses, but it would be nice to buy one with his approval rather than it becoming an issue!!!
 
The best thing to do is sit him down and explain how important it is to you. Hopefully he'll understand.

Failing that, bribe him with s*x.
 
When I got a second one, my other half didn't really get much say to be honest, it was just a spoken fact over a number of months that I wanted another.

However, when I actually took the plunge and got a 2nd one I always referred to her as his horse, even though I was paying for and doing everything with her. He didn't have a dislike for horses (just no interest tbh) but he soon started to feel involved and was happy to support me. He still feels prouder and more attached to 'his' horse than he does to my original one.
 
Conkers that's a good idea... I was hoping with him being a baby, that OH would get to see him grow up and progress, so might feel more attached than if I just brought in a "ready made" horse then went off hacking all day!

Dibbin, the bribery would be a good option except I'm recovering from a foot op and he won't come near me for fear of hurting me!!! I keep telling him it won't do any harm - most annoying. And this from a doctor too, he should know better ;)
 
jeeve said:
Just do it... my OH is not that keen we have 7 soon to be 8, although he still thinks it is 6.
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Thats like having extra pairs of shoes and hiding them but on a grander scale!

Brilliant :D :D

As other people have said involvement might be the key, or you might be able to sell it to him that he can have more time to himself/with the lads?
 
Well... OH came home at lunch, was in a very chirpy mood so I cautiously showed him the ad... "Oh he's lovely, what a pretty foal, how big will he grow?" Then lots of nodding and agreement about his suitability and how he'd grow up with us, followed by "Do you want to go and see him tonight then?"

RESULT!!!! Am just waiting for the seller to get back to me, and praying he hasn't been sold. So excited!
 
No good asking me I'm afraid - I've just lost the man I absolutely thought the world of for the last two years due to his dislike of horses. He knew I had a horse when I met him - why the ****did he even give me a second glance then? He's put me through two years of on/off relationship and constantly undermined my confidence with the horse trying to put the fear of God in me with horror stories of horsey accidents. Result: one very nervous rider with a broken heart and one nervous confused horse while he's happily pushed off to pastures new.
 
I always use the grab and squeeze until i get the answer i want. on serious not just tell him how important your happiness is and how much he will be rewarded because your so happy and if not tears all these work for me. Good luck
 
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