To move yards or not , advice please

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Help.....
I have thought about this a few times and I know that no where is perfect however.......

I am sure my yard owner is completely mad! She seems to go out of her way to upset people such as other yard owners and thinks her opinion is the right one all the time.
Now she is not talking to me because I went out for lunch with the yard groom , who she hates and has currently given her notice....dont laugh all of you out there.

Anyway my horse is happy and there is a school and good hacking but I have found a yard down the road that has good hacking but no school. Yard owner is also very nice.

I just hate the atmosphere and cant believe that a 50yr old woman is going round the yard telling everyone not to talk to me cause I went to lunch with groom.

The other yard says it will build a school but has said that for a few months, it is new openned so would I cope without a school for a while. Should I move or just ignore her sillyness. She loves liveries that know nothing as she can control them,

Help I am finding it really upsetting but also worried about the lack of a school.
 
Move. You have an expensive hobby - you should be able to enjoy it without having to deal with some bloomin psycho as well.
 
Time to move!!!
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You might be prepared to put up with it now, but, as time goes on,it will wear you down!!!

Move on and enjoy your horse!!
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Move, some of these yards are a nightmare !!!! well the people in them. I have a fruit loop on my yard (another owner), she is nuts & a real weirdo - feel sorry for her horse !
 
i say move!!! cant stand bitchyness at the best of times!! dont worrie about the school you can do the schooling out on hacks e.g. walk to halt, halt to trot, side steps, shoulder in, etc etc!!! i say go 4 it! i do most of my schooling on the hacks!!
 
Definitely move, I did 2 months ago and I am so pleased that I did, and the yard I moved to doesnt have as many facilities as the one I left, but I just took the plunge after 9 years at my old yard. It was a very hard decision but the right one. You should be able to be happy and enjoy your horse while you are with him and not be upset by people.
 
move, we have ours at home and don't have a school and do everything with them though our field is nice and flat. have had this situ for last 5 years so short term should def not be a problem. they are much better at competing on grass because of it.

We have a flat lesson in a school once a fortnight and perhaps a jump lesson every month.
 
I would move. I LOVED my old yard, the people were lovely and I had a great time there - but the YO didnt like my new horse and criticised her all the time, to the point where I actually went off riding her. The school was pretty deep and I worried about Ella's tendons in there as well.

I moved to a yard that was a bit further away, but with fantastic facilities, where I am left to do my own thing and where I actually enjoy riding my horse.
 
Defo move, I was at a fab yard for 2 years and they were fantastic, some of the liveries were a bit iffy but you get that everywhere you go (be friends with everyone, those that aren't worth a light will be the loosers). It's important like AmyMay said you should be enjoying it. Move and still go out for lunch with the yard groom that would really p*** her off.
 
I have been at this yard ten years and it feels like home. My confidence is not the best and it is nioce to feel comfortable hacking etc however your right this tension of someone always critising is not helpful. She has a few liveries that hang on her every word and that is the problem, she does not like someone who knows her own mind and what suits her horse.
 
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Move - life's too short to put up with a bitchy yard owner!

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Yep, i stayed at one place too long, then i had to move for my horses health and well being which was a blessing, wish i had never left my old,old yard which i am now back at as 'that' place got bloody awful. Retrospect is a marvelous thing, we are now back where we belong, as said life is too short to put up with a stupid YO
 
I am scared of jumping from flying pan into fire. This YO believes in horses being out which my cob loves, mind you saves her a fortune on costs (i am full livery), however other yard very much deals with competion horses so would need to have chat about that. worried about no school but cant bear feeling of gossip on yard from a 50plus woman.
 
Move dont stay anywhere you are not happy. i have done this in the past but will NEVER do it again. Life is too short and horses cost too much!!!
 
Have you looked at any other yards? My YO turnedcinto a fruit loop but I was really reluctant to move as it had a huge school, really nice stables and was only 1 mile from home. I moved in march and things are so much better. YO accused me of nicking all his stuff and bad mouthed me to anyone who would listen. He still asks people where I moved to. New YO's are lovely people. School is smaller and stables arent as nice but the horses are happy and I actually want to spend more time at the yard.
 
I have to say if I was not happy I would move. This my hobby and I want to go to the yard and be happy and relax from the day of rushing and have some "me time" me and my horse not be around old wind bags that having nothing beter to do but whine and bitch about other folk. So for my two penny's worth move and be happy don't stay just because you have been there a long time. The lack of a school would not bother me can school and do school when out hacking. Sometimes get better work out of them when they are away from the school.
 
I looked around several months ago. posted on this site but few people said about grass not always greener. Mind you I can see things going downhill as she has employed a 17year old to run yard when this groom goes and I have seen her freeze many other liveries out until she just has the ones she wants. (yes people). I hate confrontation as I have enough of it at work but wonder if it is knocking my self confidence being there. I struggle to find anyone to hack with however because I know this other YO I know she is not perfect either so would go on diy with services. Oh help.......
 
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