Torres

I am so very sorry to read this . . . you are doing an immensely courageous and selfless thing letting him go . . . he is a very lucky boy to have you to be his custodian and caregiver . . . I will be thinking of you on Thursday - do your best to enjoy him between now and then - cherish every moment, happy and sad and be kind to yourself once it is all over.

Big hugs.

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I haven't commented before now but I've followed all your threads and been hoping things would come right for you. Gutted for you that it hasn't but you're doing the right thing - you've gone far beyond what most people would have done in this situation. I'll be thinking of you on Thursday x
 
Always a horrible decision to make and the fact that you have agonised over it just goes to prove what a wonderful caring person you are! Your boy will thank you for it! Be strong, be brave, but also be kind to yourself.
 
Really feel for you and feel very sad. It's a brave decision. I really don't think he would ever come right. I have seen so much money, stress and tears expended on horses with multiple issues, and know the outcome is very unlikely to be a full recovery. Just heart breaking.
 
Michen, I am so sorry to read this. Enjoy the next few days, they will give you so much comfort in the future as you'll know that Torres will have left this world having known exactly how much he has been loved by you.

I'll be thinking of you and I agree with everyone else, it is a very selfless and courageous act that will ensure he will never know anything but your love.

Bless you. Look after yourself xxx
 
Thank you everyone. I'm not sure my eyes have been dry all day to be honest and I have no idea how I'm going to function in a new job this week where I can't take any time off! He's such a lovely,genuine and happy chap that it makes it even worse. I will miss his goofy character every day.
 
Michen said:
Thank you everyone. I'm not sure my eyes have been dry all day to be honest and I have no idea how I'm going to function in a new job this week where I can't take any time off! He's such a lovely,genuine and happy chap that it makes it even worse. I will miss his goofy character every day.
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His happiness and goofiness is just another reason that you are being such a wonderful mum by making this decision for him. It's easy to say better a month too early than a day too late, but it really is true...he'll never lose that goofy, happy personality, so it can live on in your memories forever.

A new job will probably help you through the week to be honest, but do give yourself some time. I didn't with Fly...I did my usual tanking through heartbreak routine and it is never a good idea. Please make sure you allow yourself time and be kind to yourself xx
 
Oh Michen, I'm sorry to read this but don't think it is the wrong decision at all, he is a horse with a lot going on. x
 
Unfortunately we can't magic them better, no matter how much we wish that we could. You really have tried so very hard, but he has a whole list of issues. I'll be thinking of you both on Thursday.
 
Have been following your story, so sorry to read this, letting them go is the hardest but kindest thing we can do for them, will be thinking of you on Thursday
 
My thoughts are with you and will be on Thursday. And with your awesome friend. You couldn't have cared more for Torres and have always had his best interests at heart. Big hug and go easy on yourself.
 
Devastated for you. After everything you have tried it seems so unfair that he didn't come right. I'm full of admiration for how you went the extra mile for this horse.

Will be thinking of you on Thursday. X
 
So sorry Michen. To have tried so hard and still have to make this decision is heartbreaking for you. Hugs for you both. x x
 
Biggest hugs for you and for Torres. This is never an easy decision. I have been following your updates and I am full of admiration for the love you have poured into ensuring his wellbeing. What a lucky boy he is to have known you. I absolutely think you have done everything you could and then some, and I know it takes a lot of strength to know when to call it a day. As heartbreaking as it is I believe there is some comfort to be found in knowing that as an owner you with your final decision can ensure a beloved horse will be spared from knowing any further pain or facing an uncertain future. I wish more horse owners were as responsible and loving as you. Thank you for sharing your journey with us.. I too will be thinking of you both come Thursday.
 
Nothing I say will make you feel any better but just know that I think you are totally doing the right thing, for the both of you, and that you are a good, caring owner for making this decision.
For the record, I have held many horses to be shot for friends over the years, it's not something I relish but I'm fairly unsentimental about it - however, I never hold my own horses.... I would be too upset & I always want to remember them how they were.
Will think of you on Thurs :(
 
So sorry to read this this having been following ur progress, very brave decision and definately the right one if you have got to that point. Thoughts with u x
 
Michen, there are no words to adequately express how sorry I am. You've gone beyond and above, and Torres was so lucky to have found you.

I'll be thinking of you xxxx
 
Like a few others, I have followed your and Torres story and not commented before. I had nothing useful to suggest. All I will say is, you have done everthing you could, more than many people would have. Torres has spent his last few months loved, which is all any horse can ask for, and he will go with dignity, which is all any of us would want.

I have an arthritic boy, not particularly old. At the moment he is happy and enjoying his life as a lawn mower. I have spoken to a couple of fellow liveries, and one close friend, asking them to please tell me (sternly if need be) should it come to the point that I am keeping him alive for my own sake rather than his.

I will be thinking of you on Thursday. Xx
 
Another who has followed your journey but not commented. You have given him far more than many others would have and for that he will be eternally grateful.

A brave decision and I too feel absolutely the right one. With all his problems it was unlikely he would ever be properly sound and comfortable, I know there is always the feeling of what if but as they can't talk and they are so complex physically you have to work on the balance of probabilities and I think they dont fall in his favour.

Thursday will be incredibly hard and you will miss him dreadfully but in time you will feel relief for him and know that he is pain free forever.

As GG so,rightly says, be kind to yourself.
 
I'm so sorry that you have had to make this decision after all that you have gone through with Torres but I'm sure that it is the right decision, for him and for you. As you say, it is highly unlikely that he will ever be properly sound for any length of time.
He is lucky that he found a responsible owner who is prepared to make the final decision in his best interests.
Fwiw, our local equine crem has started asking owners to leave the horse on the yard with them for the last few minutes because of incidents that they have had with owners, which have been upsetting for all concerned.
 
That's very sad and very brave. I totally think its the right decision. They don't know about tomorrow. Thinking of you.x
 
As soon as I opened this thread I welled up. Have followed your journey together and you've gone above and beyond what most people would have done.

A difficult but brave decision and I'm sure fully supported by HHO'ers. I will be thinking of you on Thursday. X
 
There are no words to say how very sorry I am for you. Please be kind to yourself as you couldn't have done more for your boy. He is a very very lucky horse. You have been a perfect horse owner and no horse could ever ask for more. I will be thinking of you on Thursday. xxx
 
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