Turning back time - would you?

jeeve said:
Yes agree - just read black like me, about a white man that disguised himself as a black man in usa in the 50's- what an eye opener. Due to segregation he had trouble getting coffee, a drink, a place to stay, a place to go to bathroom, a place to sit down, a job. In Mississippi, he could not even look at a white woman or a picture of a white woman without risking his life.
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Although it wasn't as extreme over here, there was dreadful overt racism in this country too. I'm just old enough to remember the attitudes in the 1960s when it was still pretty bad.

Also the people I work with (learning disabled) would still have been kept locked up in institutions where often the conditions were appalling. There are very many things which have greatly changed for the better since the '50s.
 
I would definitely turn back time, and wouldn't have got on a rearer. I had just started showing my then yearling, and really started to get the results out jumping on my bay. I rode my friends ex-racer as a favour whilst she took two horses cross country schooling. The mare went over backwards on me, and severly smashed my ankle.

Two operations, and a year not walking wasn't great. Two years on from my accident, and it would appear the operations haven't been overly successful, and my talus bone is going to collapse and crumble, lining me up for another big operation to have it fused. :( xx
 
Rudey said:
I would definitely turn back time, and wouldn't have got on a rearer. I had just started showing my then yearling, and really started to get the results out jumping on my bay. I rode my friends ex-racer as a favour whilst she took two horses cross country schooling. The mare went over backwards on me, and severly smashed my ankle.

Two operations, and a year not walking wasn't great. Two years on from my accident, and it would appear the operations haven't been overly successful, and my talus bone is going to collapse and crumble, lining me up for another big operation to have it fused. :( xx
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How awful for you. :( I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope the next operation sorts it out for you.

Hows your walking now? And can you ride at all?
 
Ok I really shouldn't put this...

But years ago when me and (just) ex got together, a new housemate moved in. My god he's too dye for. Anyhow beening the non cheating sort I stayed loyal to xoh, housemate became best friend, we at times we both said that we love each other but wouldn't do anything due to him being best mates with my xoh.

This has gone on for 10years. How many times have I wished that when I first met him that snogged his face off, we almost did.

One can only dream, but huge mistake. We are soul mates but obs the situation would tear apart not only eoh but the whole friend group too.
 
Mucky Shavings said:
Ok I really shouldn't put this...

But years ago when me and (just) ex got together, a new housemate moved in. My god he's too dye for. Anyhow beening the non cheating sort I stayed loyal to xoh, housemate became best friend, we at times we both said that we love each other but wouldn't do anything due to him being best mates with my xoh.

This has gone on for 10years. How many times have I wished that when I first met him that snogged his face off, we almost did.

One can only dream, but huge mistake. We are soul mates but obs the situation would tear apart not only eoh but the whole friend group too.
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Tough one! I admire your restraint though!
 
Its such a difficult one. One of my friends and I often say we wished we lived years ago as we struggle to find friends or boyfriends who are mature enough or have been brought up with the same set of values we have and it makes us feel like old women/weirdos! It seems that in the generations before us people seemed to grow up and take responsibility earlier in life and as a whole young people tended to have a better set of morals. Though I agree years ago many people did suffer more from discrimination so it wasnt perfect either.

In terms of rewinding times I have experienced I dont know. Parts of me wish I could rewind before I bought my first competition horse as he was too much for me and overpriced, BUT he taught me an awful lot about flatwork and enabled me to progress. Similarily I'd like to rewind to a break up with an ex not to prevent it from happening but to handle it better and get him out of my life quicker. Right now I wish I could rewind to a few days ago with my bf when I panicked after discovering he was buying me a ring for xmas and said I needed a break as I miss him terribly and know I hurt him so much. BUT I also think i would end up doing the same again further down the line which wouldnt be fair to either of us. Tbh though I feel I've made mistakes I think being able to reverse time might cause more harm than good, though if someone volunteered to transport my lifetime to the 50s/60s I might snap their hand off!! :D
 
Yes and no for me. Yes I would because I made some big mistakes that I would not mke again if I could go back but no because if I undid the mistakes I would not have what I have now and I love my horses.
If I could undo the mistakes and still have what I do now then yes I would :)
 
FionaM12 said:
How awful for you. :( I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope the next operation sorts it out for you.

Hows your walking now? And can you ride at all?
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Thank you, that is very sweet of you! :) The next operation will fix it into one position - I won't be able to flex my ankle at all - it will be fused. I am really concerned about that, as already, although I have minimal flexation now, due to over compensating, it has effected my left knee, my lower back, my right hip, and my right ankle! (It was my left that I broke). It begs me to wonder, what will it do if it is fused?

I have less than a 90 degree bendin my ankle, so basically, in the standing up position. When I walk, I cannot bend my knee over my ankle. So if flat footed I am lame, and walk with a limp. But if I wear a slight heel, it helps elevate me, and I can walk reasonably well.

I was back on board Sammi before I could walk unaided! My riding is not what it use to be, as in not as strong, I sit lop sided because I 'hold' my hip due to my ankle. I stick with schooling and having a pootle around the fields. I have done the odd small jump, and although I am not fearful of jumping, I am just wary about putting myself at a greater risk of having an accident. (My surgeon has warned that any hard impact could be devastating!)

I also long rein my youngster about, and he will be getting broken next year when he has turned 4 years old. Admittedly, I am slightly concerned he might not be suitable, but I figured with long reining, I am starting on enhancing that 'ridden work bond', and I am trying to expose him to every situation going by way of de-sensitizing and bomb proofing him! Fingers crossed it will work out as I love the little chump dearly.

It's not all doom and gloom. I have my independance - I can walk, I can get up and down stairs, I can drive, I work, and I look after my own two horses. Life isn't so bad.... It could have been a lot worse - I am grateful it wasn't. I haven't let it bring me down, I have taken in on the chin, and have given it my best shot, and will continue to do so! :)

Doesn't stop me regretting setting eyes on that ruddy mare mind! :rolleyes: xx
 
grief!

1) back to uni - they were the best days of my life!
2) my first wedding - i should never have walked down the aisle
3) losing my old girl and lad - the night before i went to go and let him out in the morning - i had a thought come into my head something was wrong, he needed me. I ignored it. Sure enough he needed me, but it was too late. As for the old girl - Just one more ride, one more cuddle, one more day in your company lass.
Both of you were the best and gave me the best 20 odd years of my life. xxx
 
Dancing Queen said:
i should never have walked down the aisle
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:D

I didn't actually do the aisle thing - registry office, twice, both times a mistake! :( First husband had, shall we say, anger management issues :eek: Second severe bipolar disorder. Not that we knew that's what it was at the time.

On the other hand, if I could change my past, would I still have my delightful daughter, or be the well-balanced person I am today? ;):rolleyes:
 
Mucky Shavings said:
Ok I really shouldn't put this...

But years ago when me and (just) ex got together, a new housemate moved in. My god he's too dye for. Anyhow beening the non cheating sort I stayed loyal to xoh, housemate became best friend, we at times we both said that we love each other but wouldn't do anything due to him being best mates with my xoh.

This has gone on for 10years. How many times have I wished that when I first met him that snogged his face off, we almost did.

One can only dream, but huge mistake. We are soul mates but obs the situation would tear apart not only eoh but the whole friend group too.
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But your OH is now your ex? AND you're in love with this bloke and you are both single? Go for it, life is far too short for what ifs and maybes!! ;)
 
FionaM12 said:
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I didn't actually do the aisle thing - registry office, twice, both times a mistake! :( First husband had, shall we say, anger management issues :eek: Second severe bipolar disorder. Not that we knew that's what it was at the time.

On the other hand, if I could change my past, would I still have my delightful daughter, or be the well-balanced person I am today? ;):rolleyes:
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Blimey, I think we have been out with the same blokes! If I could turn back time I certainly wouldn't waste time on them again!! :D
 
The problem is that if you did turn back time, you would make the same decisions again, in all probability. The situation would be the same and your knowlege would be the same, so you would do the same thing again, for good or bad. Going back in time, being the person you are now, at the age you are now, would be a problem as well. Literally turning back time just puts you back where you were, so not much point really.
 
Monkers said:
Blimey, I think we have been out with the same blokes!
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Hahaha! :D

YorksG said:
The problem is that if you did turn back time, you would make the same decisions again, in all probability. The situation would be the same and your knowlege would be the same, so you would do the same thing again, for good or bad. Going back in time, being the person you are now, at the age you are now, would be a problem as well. Literally turning back time just puts you back where you were, so not much point really.
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Spoilsport! ;)
 
FionaM12 said:
Hahaha! :D



Spoilsport! ;)
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I know :p, but I spend an innordinate amount of time telling patients this, as so many people think that if they could go back all their problems would be solved, but a) we can't go back in time and b) it wouldn't work :eek:
Having said that if I could have the Old Appy back I would, but only if she was in her prime again and I got to keep the current Appy :D
 
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