Vent!!!!!

[Denali]

Okay so I decided to sell my horse rather than move her with me. I told my friend who took care of her (extra attention, lunging, attended vet/body work visits etc. while I was deployed) and told her I would sell her to her for a dollar. I also gave her first right of refusal.

Lordy, this woman is now grilling me on the perspective buyer and it’s driving me crazy. I have told her before she had the option to take her.

I’m ignoring the questions but it’s still annoying. I’m not an idiot when it comes to selling nor would I not care about where she goes. However, after it’s done it’s done and I have no say.

Long story short I’m raging over messages from a friend who is questioning my sale after denying first right to refusal.

 

[FinnishLapphund]

That must be frustrating.
Thinking logically, if she wanted to have a say in this, she should've bought the horse herself, but that doesn't seem to be the way she sees it, so I wonder how she is thinking. Is it perhaps possible that she thought that if she refused you would just let things continue to be the way they where, you own, she continues to look after the horse?

 

[Lois Lame]

It does sound annoying.

As to how to make it less annoying, I don't know. It's hard to deal with friends who 'know best' and who feel they have to help their half-wit friend. I have a friend like this. I used to just listen and wait until we were over talking about my horse and getting onto a more interesting and exciting subject. I'll be interested in hearing other replies.

I don't think she ever realised that I was not interested in her opinion unless I asked. Obviously I needed to let her know, I suppose, but how to get the right words, the right tone, the right amount of patience, the right...

I have to work on my tolerance level.

 

[Barton Bounty]

Is she maybe regretting not taking her now?
She may think that because you are selling for £1 she will be going to a bad home. I bought Will years back for £1 well £2 actually, neither of us had change lol. And what a £2 horse he was he was with me for life.

Id just answer what you NEED to

 

[ycbm]

I can see how frustrating that must be. Is it possible that your friend is going to feel abandoned by your move, and displacing that onto the horse sale?
.

 

[CMcC]

Is she maybe regretting not taking her now?
She may think that because you are selling for £1 she will be going to a bad home. I bought Will years back for £1 well £2 actually, neither of us had change lol. And what a £2 horse he was he was with me for life.

Id just answer what you NEED to

The OP is not selling horse for $1 dollar. She offered to sell to her friend, who refused, for $1. I assume the sale she is making is at full price, so I d9nt think that is the issue.

 

[Widgeon]

Is it possible that your friend is going to feel abandoned by your move, and displacing that onto the horse sale?
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I wondered this too. It's rather odd behaviour from someone who seems to have been previously very sensible and responsible. Unless of course she has sad personal reasons for not being able to take the horse, which would also explain it.

 

[SantaVera]

Tell her to butt out

 

[Widgeon]

I think I would try to draw a line under the "horse issue" by saying that you're sorry your friend couldn't take her but she's going to a very suitable home that you're really happy with. Then just shrug off or tactfully ignore further questions. Then, if it's a friend that you really value, maybe try to focus on your friendship and work out whether there is anything else going on? That's what I'd do, anyway.

 

[Ratface]

It does sound annoying.

As to how to make it less annoying, I don't know. It's hard to deal with friends who 'know best' and who feel they have to help their half-wit friend. I have a friend like this. I used to just listen and wait until we were over talking about my horse and getting onto a more interesting and exciting subject. I'll be interested in hearing other replies.

I don't think she ever realised that I was not interested in her opinion unless I asked. Obviously I needed to let her know, I suppose, but how to get the right words, the right tone, the right amount of patience, the right...

I have to work on my tolerance level.

Or you could always use the late Queen Elizabeth 11's useful response to disobliging comments - "How interesting . . ." And move swiftly on.