Very Cross - other horses out hacking

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Am I over reacting

My daughter was hacking out on saturday. On the way back she was doing some leg yeilding and shoulder in to get her pony to pay attantion (having enjoyed some nice canters). Anyhoo, she saw two horses in the distance coming from the opposite direction, one who was mucking about. She put her hand up to acknowledge she had seen them, crossed to the other side of the road to give them space (they were on a small 'green' area on the wrong side of the road). As she passed the 'Lady' said thankyou, but as my daughter passed she then shouted out ' for winding my horse up, its the last thing she needs when she has just recovered from a fractured leg'.

My daughter was realy upset when she got home as she couldnt think what she had doen to wind the horse up, she was well away from them when she was leg yeilding, if the other riders had been wearing hi viz she may have seen them earlier.

I have been mulling it over all weeked and wonder;

A) Should I just accept that the woman is rude and blames others for her lack of control over her horse

B) Next time I see her should I ask her to expalin her comments to my daughter and risk falling out with her.

Surely it is acceptable to pass another horse on the road? The woman lives in my village and is never smiley or polite at the best of times.
 
do it. make her accountable for being a bitch. If her horse loses it at the sight of another horse, then it is her, not your daughter that shouldn't be on the roads. Or, how old is your daughter, is this another example of younger riders being picked on by bullying adults?
 
If your daughter did nothing wrong then I would just accept she's rude unless it happens again. The woman could always have called out and asked her to stop if it was really causing a problem...
 
I would have to say something as I dont see how leg yeilding or shoulder in could wind up another horse... She sounds like a very rude person indeed
 
My daughter is 17, so hardly a child, even though in my eyes she is still 7 or 8.

She said by the time she had registered what the woman had said to her it was too late to challenge her, and given that the womans horse was being a prat she didnt think turning round and trotting after her would go down too well!
 
Ooh, I'd have been so incensed, I'd have marched round her place and given her a piece of my mind.

On reflection, 'cause I'm good at that, I'd probably question her if I saw her out and about, once I'd calmed down.
 
Best of just explaining to your daughter that unfortunately not everyone is as considerate and polite as her, there are some ghastly rude and self obsessed people in out there, in all walks of life and it wont be the first or the last time she comes across it, even in the sport we all love.

I would not involve yourselves any further with this other lady, she doesn't sound like she'd have the attitude to listen or indeed apologise etc so what would anyone gain?

I know it will of upset her and of course for a mother, will of made you rather angry but I'd just reassure her that she did the right thing by riding with extra care, manners and respecting other horse riders and forget about it.
 
I do not think your daughter is to blame at all just sounds like the woman had no control and it was far easier to blame it on your daughter then herself. If your daughter was the cause of the problem then the woman should have shouted to her to halt and let them past instead of a sly comment as she walked past. People like her do my head in.
I would personally just accept that she is very rude but if it happens again I would have a word with her as I am sure people like that would then bad mouth the innocent party to others and that is not fair on anyone especially if they are youngsters.
 
What a bitch! I'd say something if I saw her again, but try to be calm. Maybe point out that if her horse was that fragile after its leg problem, maybe she shouldn't be riding it on a public road, as its a hard surface and the likelyhood of her horse being 'wound up' by something is higher than in a school.
 
I think you have to accept that there are some unpleasant people around. Your daughter is 17, so she isn't a child and she is old enough to accept this fact.

You can't keep fighting her battles for her, so I would chalk it up to experience and leave well alone, you don't want a feud, especially if you live in a village.
 
There's probably nothing that you or your daughter can realistically do, because ignorant people like this woman simply won't listen to reason. I would be cross if it happened to my daughter though and I can see why it has upset both you and her. I am guessing that the other woman is probably not liked very much in your village?
 
Unfortunately there are some horrible people in life. Tell her to ignore the b*tch and next time, I personally would not go out of my way to be so polite - I will do most things for anyone, but lack of manners means they don't get any more help from me.

Not saying she should canter past them, but certainly I would not be so accommodating as she was.

If her horse is so wound up and injured (a) should not be on the road and (b) sounds like she needs to do more schooling before going out.
 
Nasty woman.

I'd only say something if I bumped into her in a public place like a shop, that way if she loses it, she shows herself up bigtime and of course it goes without saying that you must remain calm and polite whatever the provocation.

Otherwise just leave it. It sounds like she's the one with the problem.
 
What a bitch!
I agree, she's the one with the problem, stroppy cow!

I would ignore her, rise above it. Your daughter did nothing wrong, and good for her not to fly off the handle and unleash a torrent of abuse at the stupid crabby cow, though God knows she deserved it.

pffftttt!
Some people!!!!
 
Sounds like she was unable to cope with the horse and decided to blame someone else for her bad riding and incompetance..

Do not even acknowledge her next time and behave as if you both havent even seen her, she obv thinks she is an important person, so ignoring her will drive her up the wall !!! he he.
 
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When riding out, you are only responsible for your own horse's behaviour (although I'm not suggesting you shouldn't be polite to other riders).
This reminds me of the strange woman in the village where I used to keep my Tb mare who used to shout 'I'm on a stallion! A STALLION!' when my friend (on her gelding) and I (on my mare) used to be hacking peacefully down the road.
I think she meant that we should turn back, and not pass her, lest my mare seduce her stallion (fat chance, my mare has taste
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Well it's a good job she doesn't ride round here, there are nearly as many horses as people! We met a ridden Standardbred Stallion the other day who was very volcal in his appreciation of our mares, who fortunately more or less ignored him. He was well ridden and the rider kept him out of our way by pulling him off the road, however it was still up to us to keep our mares under control. I would not say anything to this woman, she obviously thinks that everyone else is responsible for her and her horse. I could understand it if your daughter had come trotting past from behind her with no vocal warning, but riding towards her at walk? The woman is obviously an unpleasant fool.
 
silly old cow!! do you want to borrow my welsh D in full cob trot mode snorting 'n all???? that would give her horse a wind up alright - she'd deserve that!!
 
Thanks everyone. I am going to wait and see if we happened to bump into each other and perhaps casualy mention it. And yes its a good lesson for my daughter as to how rude and horroible other people can be.

On the other hand I am not sure if she will speak to me anyway because her sister made an incredibly low offer on our house recently which we rejected!
 
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