rpcdp
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Hi, new here, just needed some ranting/advice!
So I work on a well run and established livery/competition yard, there are 50 horses and 30 or more are full competition liveries, so as you can imagine, I can only treat every horse as equal but care for them to the best of my ability. My boss is very accommodating to liveries as well - she does different packages so things like riding/lungeing/special feeding etc are included. So a lot of the liveries tend to get a bit fussy/annoying sometimes because of the different care packages etc but no one is too in your face and generally speaking they're all ok to deal with. Except one I've worked here for a year and there are three full time staff on including me. This woman has done nothing but go out of her way to be rude/patronising/insulting but I don't actually recall doing anything to her or her horses to start this?! She is kind of like that with everybody HOWEVER she seems to specifically target me, especially as of late. I have informed my boss of her behaviour multiple times now and she has told me to just ignore it but I'm now at my wits end..
She has been rude to me in some way shape or form everyday since I came, no exaggeration. I always got the impression it was because I was younger than the other girl who works here but she is now in the last few weeks going out of her way to talk to me and has now twice implied very clearly that she thinks I'm stupid.
Firstly she accused me of not feeding her horses a supplement. I tried to calmly explain that I of course have been giving it but that the one she mentioned was given to me several weeks AFTER the first supplement and was a smaller dosage (her instructions!!) so there was more in the bottle than the other. She then asked me to add two different supplements to her feed and I was told 'it might be a bit complicated' for me.
She then today 'double checked' that they were getting said supplements (after accusing me of not giving them and checking up on me) and when I replied yes I was asked in a sarcastic tone 'Are you sure?'. She has also attacked me before for 'not putting her horse out' and went ballistic one morning because one of them wasn't out in the field...because she told me not to put the horse out as she was going to a show. She had given me the name of the wrong horse to leave in (she has THREE here on livery) and attacked me because I 'got it wrong'. She routinely patronises me/insults me/implies that I'm not good at my job/talks down to me and her new thing is now acting like I'm an idiot. She also goes to my colleague to bitch about me/something I've apparently done and slanders me but will not say it to my face. I must stress that these are only a few minor examples (as i would have trouble fitting all the other stuff in!) - I mean it when i say I am not exaggerating when I say she feels the need to say something EVERY DAY. I always try to be professional but now that's starting to waver as she is getting more and more grating. I always tell my boss about it as she normally deals directly with clients or any issues and she just tells me to ignore it because she expects that behaviour from her. I think she thinks that this livery is just being 'fussy' but she doesn't treat anyone else like this. The livery would never say it to boss as she is seemingly terrified of her.
So yeah...I dunno. Am at my wits end and feeling now that i need to say something. I could *kind of* put up with her before as she was just being annoying or fussy but recently she is just taking things too far. She was away on holiday for a few weeks and wasn't present...now that she's back I just feel tense because I just KNOW somethings going to be said to me as she can never seem to just let me get on with my jOb! She tries to take over everything and if you gave her the chance she'd be running the yard and ordering everyone around.
I don't mind liveries being fussy as it's expected and some can be awkward sometimes but she just seems to target me and takes it too Far.
Sorry if I rambled, i really needed a rant :O
So I work on a well run and established livery/competition yard, there are 50 horses and 30 or more are full competition liveries, so as you can imagine, I can only treat every horse as equal but care for them to the best of my ability. My boss is very accommodating to liveries as well - she does different packages so things like riding/lungeing/special feeding etc are included. So a lot of the liveries tend to get a bit fussy/annoying sometimes because of the different care packages etc but no one is too in your face and generally speaking they're all ok to deal with. Except one I've worked here for a year and there are three full time staff on including me. This woman has done nothing but go out of her way to be rude/patronising/insulting but I don't actually recall doing anything to her or her horses to start this?! She is kind of like that with everybody HOWEVER she seems to specifically target me, especially as of late. I have informed my boss of her behaviour multiple times now and she has told me to just ignore it but I'm now at my wits end..
She has been rude to me in some way shape or form everyday since I came, no exaggeration. I always got the impression it was because I was younger than the other girl who works here but she is now in the last few weeks going out of her way to talk to me and has now twice implied very clearly that she thinks I'm stupid.
Firstly she accused me of not feeding her horses a supplement. I tried to calmly explain that I of course have been giving it but that the one she mentioned was given to me several weeks AFTER the first supplement and was a smaller dosage (her instructions!!) so there was more in the bottle than the other. She then asked me to add two different supplements to her feed and I was told 'it might be a bit complicated' for me.
She then today 'double checked' that they were getting said supplements (after accusing me of not giving them and checking up on me) and when I replied yes I was asked in a sarcastic tone 'Are you sure?'. She has also attacked me before for 'not putting her horse out' and went ballistic one morning because one of them wasn't out in the field...because she told me not to put the horse out as she was going to a show. She had given me the name of the wrong horse to leave in (she has THREE here on livery) and attacked me because I 'got it wrong'. She routinely patronises me/insults me/implies that I'm not good at my job/talks down to me and her new thing is now acting like I'm an idiot. She also goes to my colleague to bitch about me/something I've apparently done and slanders me but will not say it to my face. I must stress that these are only a few minor examples (as i would have trouble fitting all the other stuff in!) - I mean it when i say I am not exaggerating when I say she feels the need to say something EVERY DAY. I always try to be professional but now that's starting to waver as she is getting more and more grating. I always tell my boss about it as she normally deals directly with clients or any issues and she just tells me to ignore it because she expects that behaviour from her. I think she thinks that this livery is just being 'fussy' but she doesn't treat anyone else like this. The livery would never say it to boss as she is seemingly terrified of her.
So yeah...I dunno. Am at my wits end and feeling now that i need to say something. I could *kind of* put up with her before as she was just being annoying or fussy but recently she is just taking things too far. She was away on holiday for a few weeks and wasn't present...now that she's back I just feel tense because I just KNOW somethings going to be said to me as she can never seem to just let me get on with my jOb! She tries to take over everything and if you gave her the chance she'd be running the yard and ordering everyone around.
I don't mind liveries being fussy as it's expected and some can be awkward sometimes but she just seems to target me and takes it too Far.
Sorry if I rambled, i really needed a rant :O