Very sad... can you help advise me on selling my mare?

Your mare sounds very similar to mine. I've come to realise that she is taking the mickey and that I've let her get away with too much over the years. She is very spooky to ride out alone, which is what we mostly do, she has been known to stop dead on a ride and refuse to move anywhere, the last time this happened was a couple of weeks ago outside a house with scaffolding up it and a load of workmen looking at us stood there like muppets! She doesn't listen to me as much when in company and likes to stick to the other horses like glue so I thought it was maybe better to go out alone.
I've started having lessons with my yard owner and she's commented on the fact that my mare is very dominant and that I need to make her work more and not worry about pushing her as she has a very keen mind and likes to be busy. We've worked on getting her more responsive and listening and i've taken this on board when out hacking too. We can already see an improvement after just a few weeks. I even took her out with 3 other horses today and although she had her moments, we had a lovely time. I think it's down to repetition and letting her know where she stands. I've been very sentimental about her because i've had her since she was a year old, but have now come to realise that it's been doing neither of us any favours! This is the year of change for us! I too have been at my wits end with her at times.
Anyway, I think it's a great idea to have a plan of action as it will help to focus you, good luck and let us know how you get on. I would say we could meet up for a ride if you're close enough but with our two girls it might not be a good idea!
 
I have had to unexpectedly retire my mare due to injury and just last night I was browsing through Horsemart to see what was on the market. A load of rubbish to be quite honest with you. Had I seen a dun connie x ID - I would have been phoning you first thing in the morning!

I think she will sell very, very quickly, if you decide to go down that route, and I think that there are plenty of very good genuine homes looking :)

Not much point spending all that money on a horse if you don't click.
 
I went through a similar situation to you with my horse, I was ready to sell him, I lost all my confidence and was terrified to ride him, eventually he threw me off and I broke my arm. He was nappy, spooky, bargy and horrible. I struggled for a year with (in hindsight) an instructor who wasn't good at building my confidence, and surrounded by people who made me feel like a total idiot every time I went up to the yard.
I just wanted to say that I gave the horse one more chance, moved yards and went right back to square one with him as soon as my arm was better. And I have to say I have never looked back, my horse and I clicked and we are both now very happy. I am glad I did give him a second chance because I think I would always have had a 'what if' and the knowledge that this horse beat me. I would also have missed out on all the fun we have together now! So good luck, at worst you can say you tried and at best you will have a great horse.
 
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