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I have decided to have my 35 year old pony put to sleep.The only thing is she keeps my yearling company and she will be heart broken. What are peoples views on showing my yearling my pony once she has passed away to let her grieve as well, they are both really attached to each other not quite sure what to do.
 
Poor yu, my heart goes out to you. As hard as it wil be, your yearling ( I believe) must be alowed to see her, it really does help them understand

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That's so sad - I can see the sense in letting your yearling know, otherwise she won't know where her companion has gone and might keep looking. (But I have no experience in this - so I could be wrong)

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Poor yu, my heart goes out to you. As hard as it wil be, your yearling ( I believe) must be alowed to see her, it really does help them understand

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Likewise.
 
I would always allow the horses fieldmates to see the body too, then they know where their friend has gone.
Its a very hard choice to make, but at 35 she has had a great life.
 
I wouldnt do it, Someone i know lost her pony last week overnight, it was out with its life long friend and in the morning the pony left was found standing over his friend, screaming his head off and in a real state.
 
So sorry for you but 35 is a super age.
It does help horses to understand if they see the horse I believe. My first pony died in the stable next to my horse and ordinarily if they were parted at all horse would always shout for the pony but having seen him he never shouted at all. He was very sad and quiet for a week or two but he knew.
Ditto another horse I had that we had to have PTS with colic his companion was allowed to see him and again he knew and never shouted for him at all. He was the older horse too and I was worried the effect it would have on him losing his friend but they are very resilient animals.
 
Agree about letting the yearling see. I think the difference with the one that went in the field was that the companion was left with the body for a LONG time (possibly otherwise alone). And, to be honest, it is /normal/ for them to be sad. Sad might be better than confused /and/ sad though...

I know it might seem inappropriate but is there anyway you could introduce (even just over a fence?) a new friend for your yearling (assuming they aren't already out with others) before your old pony goes? Obviously you don't want anything to spoil the last few nice days for your oldie but if the yearling has the security of another horse rather than its *only* friend going that might help?

Hugs for you and the oldie.
 
sorry to hear, know how u feel. 35 is a grand age, personally i'd let the horse see his companion.. not for the event but afterwards. they grieve too just like us. sad times but get better with time honey.. xx hugs xx
 
ahh man its just a awful position to be faced with...i know...when merly went I had to try and tell and show my other mare where he was...emptied his stable and put her in there she knew...cos soon as I did that she stopped calling for him although she hasnt stopped looking for him yet.

Do hope whatever you deceide is the best one for you all..

my thoughts to you
 
Hello

I'm new to this forum so I hope you dont mind me replying? Firstly, im so sorry to hear your sad news. Tragically, i had to have my beautiful mare pts two months ago very suddenly and unexpectedly. My other pony (who was v attached to her) was very distressed, wouldn't settle and kept calling for her so I decided to let him see her. Immediately he seemed to understand, he stopped calling and pacing around. He was very quiet for first few days after but came around eventually.
 
Mandylou is right, when we found Kestrel dead in the field Oscar the youngster was standing guarding his body till we got there, he did sniff Kesterel a couple of times, then wandered off to talk to the gelding next door and wasn't bothered when the carcase was taken away and he was fine because he had a freind next door and we left him in the field on his own for a week before bringing him in to be stabled, but the 2 mares started bullying him, which Kestrel protected him from.
 
No, she is too young to understand and although it may help achieve closure for you, she is still a baby - young enough to just forget and adapt. Babies live in the here and now.
Concentrate on getting her (and, more importantly, you) new companionship.
 
<font color="blue"> No, she is too young to understand and although it may help achieve closure for you, she is still a baby </font>

Well, I never knew that!
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Is it possible to leave her out, nearby as the old pony is PTS (so old pony isn't 'alone' when she goes) then go and sniff if she needs or wants to? Obviously not if your old pony isn't having an injection but we had our old lady PTS with a stablemate close by and she then went over to get closure. I have seen it and know that whatever it is that happens, they do 'know' and somehow move on more easily. I'd be getting her some other form of company as soon as is possible.

Lucky pony to have got to 35. May she sleep well.
 
i still have the yearlings mum so she can go out with her. I will let her see her just because when i tried to separate them a while ago the yearling was going mad and got herself in a right state, i think she needs closure on it otherwise she will just keep looking for her. its all just so hard but i have to do whats best for my old girl. thankyou for all your lovely comments and hugs.
 
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