Very worried about my friend's dog

Errin Paddywack

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Background. My friend, 82 but you would never know it, took on a rehome collie around 2 years ago now. She had just lost the dog she used to do Hoopers with and previously agility. The people who owned Tess originally had her from a pup and make a lousy job of her. Mixture of over stimulation and crating her too much I believe. At some point she started biting them. I suspect they had never trained any manners into her. She was sent back to the breeder who placed her with a good behaviourist who had her in her own home. She settled well here and they worked on her dog aggression (mostly fear) and also traffic phobia. This was a dog who had been bred specifically to be a pet and no working lines in her at all. All the other pups in the litter were perfect, no problems.
I went with my friend to see her and we both loved her. Took her for a walk to assess her and my friend decided despite her being younger than she wanted she would take her. What none of us had thought about was where my friend lives, very busy road, secondary school at the top and a junior school too. Lots of traffic including school buses. This all freaked Tess out and she was rushing at the front window then coming back and going for my friend. Took a lot of work but now she is 99% better. She can also now walk her past other dogs in the street where before she used to react. Happens rarely now but she still if she goes over threshold will come back at my friend and bite her arm so it is still there but so much better. Apart from this she is the sweetest cuddliest dog who loves everyone and adores her mum. She has achieved all her Good Citizen awards and was doing well.

Now the problem. Just over 3 weeks ago my friend had taken her for a walk and stopped to talk to someone who reported that she suddenly just dropped and hit her head on the pavement. Currently still in hospital but not good and being realistic/pessimistic I cannot see her making much of a recovery. Tess is in the local rescue kennels who are excellent and to start with she was fine but is now not coping. Too many dogs barking, even out in one of the paddocks she cannot see other dogs but can hear them and she is getting more and more stressed to the pont she cornered one of the kennel girls the other day. She is now in a kennel with run attached and basically alone for 23 hours a day. She is used to being with my friend all day and meeting lots of other dogs when on walks so this is torture for her. I keep feeling I should volunteer to foster her but I have 14yr old who is getting wobbly and just wouldn't cope with such as active dog. Not sure I could cope with her as she is now either. The big fear is that even if my friend does eventually get home Tess is going to come back worse than when she first had her. Friend has two sons but neither would or could take her on. She needs an experienced handler and a very quiet life.

Just feel so upset about this such a sad thing to happen.
 
Poor Tess needs to go to a collie specialist rescue or be PTS. Sadly. IMO. She must be so stressed it’s unimaginable. Poor dog. And your poor friend.
I agree but at the moment Pat is still thinking she will get home and get her back. Her son will be the one who has to decide and I really feel for him too. All in limbo at the moment and nothing I can do. I shouldn't really be getting involved but I spoke at length to the kennel manager yesterday and filled her in on Tess's past. She was trying to get in touch with the son to ask permission to involve a behaviourist they use who might well suggest some sort of calmer. My friend always had her on one just to take the edge off. This is Tess below.
 

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Have you thought about contacting the Cinnamon Trust or a Collie rehoming organisation. They should have people who are experienced fosterers. It sounds as if she needs a collie home rather than a kennels.
Not in my power to do sadly and she would need someone who had experience of dogs with behaviour like Tess. Not easy with her bite history.
 
A very sad situation for all concerned, if Tess does need to go to rescue/ rehoming I can recommend Valgrays Border Collie rescue, she is in the south east but has volunteers who will drive to certain cases to pick up, Val is absolutely brilliant with dogs with problems such as Tess has xx
 
A very sad situation for all concerned, if Tess does need to go to rescue/ rehoming I can recommend Valgrays Border Collie rescue, she is in the south east but has volunteers who will drive to certain cases to pick up, Val is absolutely brilliant with dogs with problems such as Tess has xx
Yes Val is wonderful. My friend's previous dog came from her but I think she is a bit overwhelmed at the moment. If it comes to the crunch I will try messaging Val.
 
Have been fretting about Tess all night and have now volunteered to go and see her and if she reacts favourably to start taking her out for a few hours a day for a run in our field then a spell at my home. If all goes well progressing to a couple of overnight stays. Aim is to get her outof the kennels for Oct at least as they are booked solid the last two weeks and it will be very noisy. If she shows she can settle in a home it will make it easier to rehome her if it becomes necessary. I can't keep her long term as she is not a sheep dog and is not interested in agility either although she will do the equipment. So it looks as though it will be watch this space. Hope I am doing the right thing for my own dogs as they are my first concern.
 
Really sad situation. I hope your friend recovers. Is medicating the dog an option? I'm thinking short term while things are so up in the air.
She is usually on some sort of essences, going to try and find out which ones. Will medicate if necessary, anything to get her more stable. Feeling a bit apprehensive about what I am taking on but determined to do my best, last thing I can do for my friend really.
 
She is usually on some sort of essences, going to try and find out which ones. Will medicate if necessary, anything to get her more stable. Feeling a bit apprehensive about what I am taking on but determined to do my best, last thing I can do for my friend really.
Just remember she re-directs when stressed/aroused. Don't get bitten.
 
Just remember she re-directs when stressed/aroused. Don't get bitten.
Don't worry, I am very aware of this, have seen her in action but also know what triggers her. Already planning ahead on how to deal with people coming to the door. I shall have a crate set up for her, she had one in her own home and often took herself off to sleep in it. The rescue also offered to lend me a stairgate so I could zone of my house. I live in a lovely quiet area so that will remove a lot of her stresses. My friend always said she thought she would be a different dog in a quieter house. Going to test that theory. Realistically if I totally fail there is only one end for Tess which would be a huge shame.
 
Don't worry, I am very aware of this, have seen her in action but also know what triggers her. Already planning ahead on how to deal with people coming to the door. I shall have a crate set up for her, she had one in her own home and often took herself off to sleep in it. The rescue also offered to lend me a stairgate so I could zone of my house. I live in a lovely quiet area so that will remove a lot of her stresses. My friend always said she thought she would be a different dog in a quieter house. Going to test that theory. Realistically if I totally fail there is only one end for Tess which would be a huge shame.
I really hope it works out for you both. What a truly great friend you are x
 
I shall do my best to stay safe, better stock up on bandages just in case 🤣. It may come to nothing yet but at least I will have tried. Seeing the way my friend is at the moment I think it would have been kinder if she had died. She has always been so independent and still driving all over the place to catch up with friends at events and down to south coast to visit one of her sons. She used to walk miles with Tess. Very good agility instructor too and sorely missed at our club where we are rapidly running out of instructors. It has really brought home to me how fragile life is and how things can change in a split second. One good thing may come out of this, I am being kicked out of the lazy rut I had got into, something mere willpower wasn't succeeding in doing.
 
Update on Tess. Her owner sadly died so for better or worse I have adopted Tess. We are getting on much better now. She was next to impossible to walk as she reacted badly to every dog she saw or any vehicle bigger than a car. Lots of delivery vans round here so walks were a nightmare. I stopped walking her to give her time to decompress, she doesn't want to go out anyway so no hardship. I also in desperation bought an ultrasonic Bark Buster. Reviews sounded too good to be true but amazingly they were spot on. Used at the right moment they work wonders. No collar involved just a sound we can't hear but the dog can. Can now walk her easily, no lunging and spinning, just a mainly loose lead. She is very sound sensitive so on high alert all the time. Very intelligent dog, completely different to the other 6 collies I have had and wants more human interaction. Very cheeky, will steal something of mine if I am not taking notice of her and then try to tease me with it. Just have to manage her with my old girl who is deaf and a bit senile and into wandering aimlessly. Doesn't help that my old girl is Jesse and this is Tess. Hoping that eventually she will start to enjoy a bit of agility but if she doesn't then tough. Judicious use of a dog gate so that I can zone my place off has been a great help. Never ever thought I would take on a dog like her but life threw her my way so just got to get on with it.
 
Update on Tess. Her owner sadly died so for better or worse I have adopted Tess. We are getting on much better now. She was next to impossible to walk as she reacted badly to every dog she saw or any vehicle bigger than a car. Lots of delivery vans round here so walks were a nightmare. I stopped walking her to give her time to decompress, she doesn't want to go out anyway so no hardship. I also in desperation bought an ultrasonic Bark Buster. Reviews sounded too good to be true but amazingly they were spot on. Used at the right moment they work wonders. No collar involved just a sound we can't hear but the dog can. Can now walk her easily, no lunging and spinning, just a mainly loose lead. She is very sound sensitive so on high alert all the time. Very intelligent dog, completely different to the other 6 collies I have had and wants more human interaction. Very cheeky, will steal something of mine if I am not taking notice of her and then try to tease me with it. Just have to manage her with my old girl who is deaf and a bit senile and into wandering aimlessly. Doesn't help that my old girl is Jesse and this is Tess. Hoping that eventually she will start to enjoy a bit of agility but if she doesn't then tough. Judicious use of a dog gate so that I can zone my place off has been a great help. Never ever thought I would take on a dog like her but life threw her my way so just got to get on with it.
That is so amazing that you took her on. What a lovely person you are and lucky dog!
 
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