Want my pony back from loan?!?!

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flurryjuno

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About a year ago something came up with my family which resulted in my cob being sent to live in a mountain without my knowing.
Eventually I found him, brought him back into work and lent him to my cousin as she was looking for a bombproof pony that was easy to look after and that she could learn to ride on, and so far he's been amazing!

That was at the start of December and however its went downhill from there. I've went to see him three times, not counting the day I dropped him off. The day I dropped him off I was shocked at the state of the yard, but that was me being snobby I guess. The stables were dark and smelly, metal sticking out from random places and the arena was mud etc.

The second time I went up, I was even more shocked to find he had a stable rug AND a heavyweight rug on, and he was sweating. He's a very heavyweight cob, who was never rugged since I got him as a 1yo, and I had provided the heavyweight rug for his turnout as he had a small clip so he didnt get overly sweaty. Then after watching my cousin tack him up I saw a homemade contraption working like side reins except made out of baler twine and far too tight. He's a five year old cob who has never needed any contraptions as I broke him myself as a 13yo and is the easiest going pony I have ever rode. Later that day he stumbled when being rode and my cousin fell off, all because he was unable to balance himself because his head was held so tight!!!!!

It just keeps getting worse and worse, yesterday I went to see him and the YO and he looked miserable. The yard owner is controlling and obsessive (but wouldnt come out to me) and has ruined my pony. He used to be cheeky and loving, always had his ears pricked and loved to rest his head on your shoulder and go for a snooze.

I nearly cried yesterday upon seeing his lovely feathers hacked off because he had mites which he had NEVER had with me in nearly 4 years, his tail barely below his hocks, his lovely thick mane now like scraggly rat tails and sweating like a pig because he had a full summer sheet on! My other horse a very fine 16.1hh ISH is out all night with no rug and shes fine!? This is the last straw for me, I want my pony back but I dont know how to go about it as my cousin loves him and shes come on in leaps and bounds but I cannot see my pony go on like this, what should I do?!?!?!?:(
 
Just be honest and say that you aren't happy wit how he is being kept. A better option may be to let the cousin keep him on the same yard as yourself if it's workable so you can monitor things.
 
The health and safety issues for the horse that you noted when you dropped him off would have had most people turning round and taking him home.
 
I'm 15, so no I dont work right now so it would be up to my dad to take care of the financial situations which I feel bad about as it is.
He's kept two hours away from where I live which is why I dont see him as often as I would like, and I've been saying for sometime to my dad that I want him back, but that makes me sound very selfish!
I dont know how to go about asking for him back, because I know it would make my cousin very upset and I know from experience how awful it is having your loan pony taken away from you!
Should I just go for it?:confused:
 
i forgot it was school holidays :D

im too old now to know when they are haha :D




OP - if this is genuine then get your pony back.............
 
Get him back!!! If finances are going to be a problem, how about a sharer? Might just swing things in your favour when it comes to getting your Dad to agree to getting him back again.
 
Tbh OP Im surprised youre even asking what to do

If my pony was half as unhappy as yours appears to be, I'd be on my way to picking him up now - regardless of who I upset or offend

Pony will always come first
 
flurryjuno said:
I'm 15, so no I dont work right now so it would be up to my dad to take care of the financial situations which I feel bad about as it is.
He's kept two hours away from where I live which is why I dont see him as often as I would like, and I've been saying for sometime to my dad that I want him back, but that makes me sound very selfish!
I dont know how to go about asking for him back, because I know it would make my cousin very upset and I know from experience how awful it is having your loan pony taken away from you!
Should I just go for it?:confused:
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I know it's horrible having a loan pony taken off you but it so important that your pony comes first! He obviously means the world to you and you could compromise with your cousin on her riding him on weekends or something. But your horse really should come first. If my horse was even half as happy as your pony I would be picking him up in a heart beat!
 
Where family is involved nothing is ever simple and I think you may have to be a bit crafty. If the pony is as nice as you say it is its worth money and be worth more money with a full mane, feathers and looked after better. I would say to your dad the show season is here and he really needs to be out and about and your cousin doesn't have the experience to it. If your doesn't know get some pictures off the internet of what a show hairy should look like and looking like that increases the value and what they are worth in show condition.
My parents and my husband are non horsey so I always have to make everything sound sense to them in a £ way. I like you would want him back straight away but if your Dad is paying the bills and he may upset a relative there has to be something in it for him.
If you do get him home you must follow through and do everything you said. From experience its a lot easier to get what you want next time.
 
Decided I'm definitely bringing him home. My cousin/aunt hadn't even began to look for ponies and I gave them Flurry out of kindness, so they can finally start looking properly now.

Gonna tell them this week so they have a few weeks to adjust I guess, it'll be easy for them to find another pony, and impossible for me to replace Flurry if anything was to happen!

Worst thing is he's a rescue pony, when I got him it took me months to get him back up to weight and finally trust people and I just feel like this is bringing him back to how he was. We always had a special bond as well because I got him to how he is today and I dont want that ruined!

Thanks everyone, you've definitely helped make my mind up:)
 
Glad you're bringing him home, although i wouldn't be leaving him there any longer than needed if its that bad and if you have somewhere to keep him at your end. Sorry to say it but stuff the cousin, they can pony hunt without having your lad and possibly doing god only knows what!
 
Bring him home now, why would you give them a few weeks to 'adjust' if your ponies welfare and happiness is at risk? I'd give them a weeks notice MAX. All the loan contracts I have ever seen said that the owner or loaner must give at least 30 days notice before terminating the loan HOWEVER if the horses/ponies wellbeing is compromised, the owner reserves the right to remove the animal immediately.
I'd personally go get him this weekend, if that not possible cuz of arrangements etc, then next weekend the latest :)
 
You loaned the pony to your novice cousin, then went to visit the yard and didn't approve... Because there were bits of metal sticking out everywhere (!) and the stables were horrible. You went home.
The next time, you see this baler twine device and did not tell her to remove it immediately and explain, then the pony has a stumbling incident because for some reason it is still wearing said device, you go home again. Did you tell them he was too warm in the rug and that he is not ever going to need two heavyweights?

Now the pony has got mites probably because it is kept in less than ideal conditions and feathers hacked off etc, still you have not removed the pony!

What is happening here?!

I understand you may not be old enough to have full control but you either need to do some serious education with your cousin, at a more suitable yard where they can keep an eye on her, or just take the pony back, it is your responsibility as long as you still own him. It sounds like ignorance from your cousin and a bad YO at the end of the day but that doesn't make it any better for the pony.

If you can't afford to keep him then you don't really have a choice, sell him or try loaning again to someone who knows what they are doing.
 
I asked on the day of arrival if the stable he was put in was permanent, and was told no, so I assumed he would be moved to a nicer stable.

The next time with the baler twine thing, I removed it immediately and explained why I was doing it, only for the instructor/YO to put it back on after I have left.

I have repeatedly told my cousin/aunt he does not need the rugs, and if they have any questions, ask me not the YO because I didnt agree with how she was treating my pony and I know him better than anyone. And yet again I have been repeatedly left in the dark.

I assumed because I hadn't been told anything in a while it hadn't been as bad, it was the last visit that finally did it for me! Apparently he had had mites for weeks! Yet no one thought of telling me?! No matter how many times I have explained things they just dont listen and let the YO do whatever with MY pony.

Now I'm left with the situation of people not taking me seriously when I say I want him back and with my family may not wanting to give him back! Thats why I haven't removed him quicker than I should have.
 
This is such a sad post I'm nearly in tears just reading it. Sweetheart - you must talk to your mum/dad and make sure they are aware of what is going on and how upset you are about the situation. The priority is YOUR pony not you cousin or her feelings. The pony is clearly distressed about his living conditions and his life in general. You need to get him home or back on the mountain which although not ideal, would IMHO be better for his mental and physical well being. I wish you all the luck in world. But please - don't just leave things roll on. Xx
 
So sorry to read what a difficult situation you are in, but the welfare of the pony should come first. Show your dad the views of people on here if you want back up.
Your Aunt and cousin really do need to find a better yard, it sounds awful, poor animals who have to live there. Can you bring your cob back to live out to keep the cost down while you sort all the issues out?
 
I'm bringing him home in the next few weeks, thank you so much everyone:)
Honestly dont care anymore about anyone elses feelings, he's my pony and stands before anyone else in my books!

My dad agrees with my but doesnt want to upset his sister, he isnt horsey at all and even sees how bad the situation is! I'll keep you updated on this, I'll post a pic of him when I get him back!

This was him as a two and a half year old, a week after first being sat on!

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flurryjuno said:
I'm bringing him home in the next few weeks, thank you so much everyone:)
Honestly dont care anymore about anyone elses feelings, he's my pony and stands before anyone else in my books!

My dad agrees with my but doesnt want to upset his sister, he isnt horsey at all and even sees how bad the situation is! I'll keep you updated on this, I'll post a pic of him when I get him back!

This was him as a two and a half year old, a week after first being sat on!

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(grumpy face!:cool:)
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flurryjuno said:
Yep, I'm new to this feel like a right idiot! Right click the broken image thing, copy image url then paste in new tab:)
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Still doesn't work, think your FB is private- you need to save the photo into Photobucket and then copy and paste its IMG code into here. Would love to see your coblet.
 
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