want to give up horses but i cant, a rant!

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not much point to this other than i am having a really bad time just now,i really want to give up horses , I'm expecting our 3rd child and i just dont want to do much horse wise, i would much rather spend time with my family but i cant give up because i have a 16.2hh retired gelding and a 11.1hh semi retired sec a, both of which are currently under treatment.
horse came in hopping lame 3 weeks ago, got vet out who suspected abscess so poulticed and came back out, still nothing so treated for possible infection, horse went sound for 2 weeks,then this Monday back in hopping lame, vet out again, treated again for abscess, farrier came out today and found nothing so I'm now waiting on the vet to call to see where to go next, hes not insured as he had knackered his hinds hence retired and vet was talking nerve blocks/x rays/vet stay.....
then to top it off today, sec a is now in with possible laminitis, doesnt help that she has RAO and staying in is not the best option for her.
i know there is no solution as no one would want a 16.2hh poor doer as a companion but i just feel so trapped right now.
 
I can sympathise. Nowhere near the same position as you but maybe we should share a flask of hot cocoa and a wheelbarrow full of chocolate muffins together :).

Wife's incapacitated for the forseeable so helping her, her horse is having repeated lamy relapses (mechanical/trauma) but it makes no difference if it's that or diet - same thing - permanent box rest which he isn't good with (and absolutely heartbreaking when he comes out the stable in the morning hardly able to walk), My TB went lame after doing stupid yet wonderfully artistic scultpures with his shoes and then punch them into his laminae... I didn't know they could bend that much whilst still attached and this after he went lame a couple of weeks before. As well as walking the dogs, trying to finish off the house...

I started asking people down the yard if they ever hit a point where they honestly started re-appraising whether any of this was all worth it.

Heart goes out to you.
 
Crikey, you are having a tough run of luck, just when you need it least. Pregnancy doesn't make life easy, as it carry's its own demands and the extras, like sick horses can seem one problem too many at the time, especially when you're tired.
But having your third means you're a pro. Get your support network up and running - OH, grandparents, BF, and if you can get a small amount of help from each, it'll be 3X what you have if you don't ask. Don't be too self reliant or you'll wear yourself out. I hope the issues your gelding is having resolve themselves without too much investigative expense.
 
Hi there,

Sorry to hear about your situation :(

I can offer you some sites, I know several people who would or would know of people that would happily have your boy!

Would you want your horses to go together or are you not particularly fussed?

visit www.projecthorses.co.uk it may sound like a site for ridden projects etc, but it has lots of empathetic people who will take the horses on and have them as companions! Have a look round there :)

xx


(Edited- http://www.projecthorses.co.uk/viewlist.asp?cid=10020&sid=50286 this link is the companion horses WANTED, so worth contacting some of them; Good luck!)
 
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Honey I sincerely wish I could help :( Keep everything crossed that I win the lottery this weekend then they can come live in my paddock together (yes I have chosen the house LOL) Whilst Holly Stays at the yard she is at which is convienently at the end of the drive and where the brand spanking new indoor school I am building is going 

The 2 acre paddock and stables I will have would look lovely with J and F there 
 
I know it sounds horrible - but I would have them both PTS on the same day. You need to spend time with your family and put yourself first. Both horses sound as if they've had a good life with you and Laminitis and RAO just don't go well together, and as for the big lad, you are right that he will be extremley difficult to rehome with his problems. Good luck with whatever you decide.
 
just want to say thank you everyone, having a very hormonal day and add the fact i cant sleep and i am stressed out, its not a good combo xx
 
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