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I have a beautiful warmblood filly, she already stands at 15.2 as a 2 year old and she really is stunning to look at and is a complete powerhouse.

My partner loves her to bits but i am trying to teach her what is appropriate behaviour and what is just not on, he rebels against me patting her when i tell her off. So far she has reared up when he tried to hold her too tightly by the headclollar and came down on his head cutting it open, another time she double barrelled the stable door whilst he stood behind her missing him by an inch and yet still he cant seem to toughen up with her. She is Trak x Andalu and as most people know she will challenge you to see what she can get away with.

She is given the best of everything and has plenty of grazing time (12hr days) a lovely big stable, plenty of company, and she has work to do albeit short periods because of her age, her education has started though and she is as sharp as they come.

I want her to be a safe horse eventually and this does mean putting boundaries in place, does anybody else here find men cant take instruction well even when its done in the nicest possible way?

I feel like i am in this on my own as we see things differently, i have tried to explain how dangerous she will be if not kept in check regarding any bad behaviour but he acts like i am telling him off which is ridiculous, i am far from the Alpha A female i just want to keep him safe and my horse on the right track.

I am thinking of moving her on so i can relax and just get an older horse instead:confused:
 
Young lady getting very mixed messages, not surprising she isn't sure what's appropriate. Need to get OH to understand he's not being kind to her in doing this. She needs very clear boundaries. If you don't get it sorted (& all youngsters try it on), then you will end up with a bigger, stronger (& more dangerous) horse that tries it on because it doesn't know any better. If he has to behave like this, then I would agree with getting older hrse who has already learnt manners.
 
I know how hard it is to tell blokes they're wrong- my dad keeps telling me to 'stop my dog putting her paws on his suit' when he comes in from work- I like to point out that she never does it to me, its only because he's soft and lower in the pack than her that she feels it is appropriate behaviour towards him. His fault not mine. I know this is a minor problem compared to yours though.
I really do think for his sake and the fillies sake, he does need to understand that he needs to be firm- my pony's a perfect example- got him at 3 yrs with minimal handling- I have been firm with him and he doesn't mess about with me so much, but he will always test new people because he was allowed to get away with it for so long. Good luck
 
pip6 said:
Young lady getting very mixed messages, not surprising she isn't sure what's appropriate. Need to get OH to understand he's not being kind to her in doing this. She needs very clear boundaries. If you don't get it sorted (& all youngsters try it on), then you will end up with a bigger, stronger (& more dangerous) horse that tries it on because it doesn't know any better. If he has to behave like this, then I would agree with getting older hrse who has already learnt manners.
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Cheers pip6 for your in put, will let him read this, he is new to horses so has a lot to learn, luckily it is just short periods he is around unlike myself a slave to the yard:) Yes all youngsters do try it on but Trakehners are known to be this way, this is my fourth and they are more challenging than my other breeds. She would stay in the family if i moved her on as i wont let an inexperienced home have her. Many thanks for your time, have a lovely day:)
 
horsemadelsie said:
I know how hard it is to tell blokes they're wrong- my dad keeps telling me to 'stop my dog putting her paws on his suit' when he comes in from work- I like to point out that she never does it to me, its only because he's soft and lower in the pack than her that she feels it is appropriate behaviour towards him. His fault not mine. I know this is a minor problem compared to yours though.
I really do think for his sake and the fillies sake, he does need to understand that he needs to be firm- my pony's a perfect example- got him at 3 yrs with minimal handling- I have been firm with him and he doesn't mess about with me so much, but he will always test new people because he was allowed to get away with it for so long. Good luck
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Oh bless my dog is the same with other people because she knows she can but with me she never jumps up. I am fair and firm with my lot and it has proved to be a success recipe for many years with many horses and dogs but people are a different ball game, sort of given up there, some very difficult people around that you can never work out so best leave them to it! Thats great another success story for you and your pony, they are clever and work us out very quickly dont they:) I want him to get the message sooner rather than later, thank you for your reply and enjoy your pony:)
 
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