jessmaca
Active Member
Hello 
This is gonna be a bit long and possibly complicated...I apologise in advance.
There is this woman at my yard, we shall call her A, who owns a horse, B. She has a teenager (not her daughter or any relation at all) who shares her horse, so rides, grooms, poo picks, feeds etc. 3 times a week.
The sharer is about my age (16) , and is deadly responsible and streetwise, is very consciencius (sp
) about B, thorough checking for injury, grooming etc. Shes not a stereotypical teenager, is interested solely in the best for B.
A however, is a complete numpty. Riding out with her is a nightmare. Everything she sees that could potentially scare B, she dithers about. 'Oh my god, he's gonna jump/spook/bolt/buck/rear/die.' B usually isnt bothered by these things. I dont often ride out with her cos I spend half the ride reassuring her she's overreacting and the other half of the time listening to her ranting about her dog/ex husband/how cr*p B is/how cr*p her sharer is.
Three weeks ago, I went up to see my girl and A's sharer was in tears. Absolute floods. Turns out, B had chucked her off, on the road. He had flipped and gone crazy when she had asked him to go forward. She was ok, apart from the crying etc. I asked if A had had B's saddle/teeth/back done since she got him (A has owned B about 6 months or so). She replied no, not since A had gotten B a new saddle she hadnt had it checked. Also A had encouraged sharer to ride B out when his shoes were loose, saddle didnt fit, and his teeth needed doing. Plus sharer had found a wasps nest at ground level in B's field and was terrified to tell A. Sharer is trusting A to look after her own horse, and A isn't, really. It wasn't in her share agreement that she should call out saddler/dentist/back lady/farrier/wasp exterminator when needed - thats the owners responsibility (well, it was when I shared a horse/had a temporary sharer for mine...
)
3 weeks later, the horse hasn't been ridden by A or her sharer, the kid has just finished her GCSEs and just wants to have a bit of fun on a horse she doesn't have a full-time commitment to. She has become a good friend in the last couple of months and I dont want to see her wasting her money/time.
She is also not the only sharer A has had, A has had about 3/4 in the last 2 years or so, each lasting about 6 months.
So, am I interfering? Or just being a pain in the a$$? I just want to give the sharer the best advice really. But what should the sharer do? I'm stuck between telling her to be honest with A and telling her to get out and go and enjoy the summer without the stresses A/B brings her.
And breathe. Cookies/pimms/cake/whatever you fancy for reading my moan.
/rant.
This is gonna be a bit long and possibly complicated...I apologise in advance.There is this woman at my yard, we shall call her A, who owns a horse, B. She has a teenager (not her daughter or any relation at all) who shares her horse, so rides, grooms, poo picks, feeds etc. 3 times a week.
The sharer is about my age (16) , and is deadly responsible and streetwise, is very consciencius (sp
) about B, thorough checking for injury, grooming etc. Shes not a stereotypical teenager, is interested solely in the best for B. A however, is a complete numpty. Riding out with her is a nightmare. Everything she sees that could potentially scare B, she dithers about. 'Oh my god, he's gonna jump/spook/bolt/buck/rear/die.' B usually isnt bothered by these things. I dont often ride out with her cos I spend half the ride reassuring her she's overreacting and the other half of the time listening to her ranting about her dog/ex husband/how cr*p B is/how cr*p her sharer is.
Three weeks ago, I went up to see my girl and A's sharer was in tears. Absolute floods. Turns out, B had chucked her off, on the road. He had flipped and gone crazy when she had asked him to go forward. She was ok, apart from the crying etc. I asked if A had had B's saddle/teeth/back done since she got him (A has owned B about 6 months or so). She replied no, not since A had gotten B a new saddle she hadnt had it checked. Also A had encouraged sharer to ride B out when his shoes were loose, saddle didnt fit, and his teeth needed doing. Plus sharer had found a wasps nest at ground level in B's field and was terrified to tell A. Sharer is trusting A to look after her own horse, and A isn't, really. It wasn't in her share agreement that she should call out saddler/dentist/back lady/farrier/wasp exterminator when needed - thats the owners responsibility (well, it was when I shared a horse/had a temporary sharer for mine...
)3 weeks later, the horse hasn't been ridden by A or her sharer, the kid has just finished her GCSEs and just wants to have a bit of fun on a horse she doesn't have a full-time commitment to. She has become a good friend in the last couple of months and I dont want to see her wasting her money/time.
She is also not the only sharer A has had, A has had about 3/4 in the last 2 years or so, each lasting about 6 months. So, am I interfering? Or just being a pain in the a$$? I just want to give the sharer the best advice really. But what should the sharer do? I'm stuck between telling her to be honest with A and telling her to get out and go and enjoy the summer without the stresses A/B brings her.
And breathe. Cookies/pimms/cake/whatever you fancy for reading my moan.
/rant.
They don't. They knew her old horse. Not this one. Grrr.
You don't necessarily have to - just gives you an idea of if she's actually considered any of the above at all.